I dont appreciate my parents????????/?
you sound like a good kid. At a teenage age, you transition into that time when you want to become your own person as an individual. During that time you practically alienate them from you because you don't think its "cool". At least that's what my 13 year old sister does. Honestly, look at your actions. They are not concrete. Its not set in stone in your personality that you have to "act smart with them". How about just being mutually polite? You don't have to be completely nice, but just do as they say, reply to what they tell you. Do things around the house that will show that you notice. I make sure every morning I clean my parents room. My mom has a very sensitive nose and she can smell everything so I make sure to keep things clean. Its really hard for me to say "I love you" or give them hugs. Its awkward for me too. But I try my best to make them proud and do little things because they're my parents and they raised me. Good luck :)
Why do my parents not appreciate me?
OMG i am in the EXACT situation as you!!!! i am 14 though and girl also :) my parents keep going on about me and how i dont do chores (i tidy my room and do the wshing up sometimes!) and how all other girls my age do LOADS more. they wont even let me see my friends or go out or NOTHING! mine are WORSE . TRUST ME. and if i dont get a good grade at school (also doing GCSEs in january :'( ) they'll shout at me for not working hard enough. if i tell them if i have a problem at school they will just totally ignore it or say "there are people in the world who are in a worse position as you" like WTF ?? lol they tell me why i cant be like others, especially my sister and it bugs me so much. they say im not a worthy child and whatnot. i just like dont listen to them and ignore what they say by playing a song or something or i say "i know i was an accident but why'd you have me when you knew you couldnt look after me?" and this shuts them up. dont let them get to you. parents are like CREATED to ruin kids' lives and anoy every f*cking person they are SOOO embarrassing ! when im laughing with my friends or like with my siblings or just something funny. i get told to shut up and im like "omg you want me to cry is that what you want?!" my whole house is like depressed which is really hard for me bc i am a really happy person (i always laugh and smile and try to hide my sadness bc if you do, you forget about it ... AND did you know that everytime you luahg you gain 2 mins of life? FACT so SMILE :) and be happy if you dont let them get to you and show you're not listening to them they'll shut up. if they shout at you for not listening, be like "yeah, well you know how i feel every single day when i try and talk to you about something" and this should work IMPORTANT: when they shout or tell you off for something, dont shout or cry, this shows how immature you are. but keep calm and if they call you immature be like "how am i immature when you're the one shouting and im all calm?" (say this calmly) and this should also work :) and maybe they are just pushing you to be the best you can. thats good :) like imagine, if they let you do what you want, you would have roblly been drunk, smoker and really awful grades. but you arent. maybe they're actually HELPING you get good grades and helping you be more successful with a better future :) good luck :) ♥♥♥
“When do adult children start to appreciate what their parents did for them?”The Bad Side.People in general don’t appreciate what other people do for them, until they become aware of the time and effort it takes.My childen, Tycho (12) and Nica (8) knows that I battle with constant chronic pain. I never complain about it, but my children are aware, because on the bad days I tell them to take it easy on me, because I’m much more irritable from the pain.Because I obviously have more trouble on the bad days, they see how much I do for them and they’ve become appreciative. Pretty much every day, my children tell me how much they appreciate me making dinner for them. They started doing that spontaneously (not that I asked if they enjoyed the dinner I made them).After the divorce, I was slightly worried that my ex would be seen as the ‘darling mom’ and I would be seen as ‘strict dad’, because they spent their weekends at Mom where they do all fun things (and she spent more money on gifts for them) and they spent the schoolweek with me, who had to get them out of bed at seven in the morning, get them clean and dressed, make their lunches and get them to school.Then one day, my son said, “I love you, Dad. You’re the best father I could have.”I thanked him and he said, “It’s true. You’re always there for us, and you always help me with my homework and things.” I was visibly moved and he said, “Are you all right?” I said, “Yes, I am. I’m glad you love me, because sometimes I was a bit worried that you’d see me as the strict dad.”“I know why you’re strict,” he said. “Because you have to do the hard job. Mom doesn’t have to get up at seven to get us to school.”My children have the sense to see children who are not as well off and appreciate my and my ex’s efforts to support and guide them. Some children will never realise this and will always be entitled.If children reach adulthood without realising how much their parents did for them, they most likely will learn how much effort goes into being a parent when they become parents themselves.
You say you help people selflessly and without any expectations, you contradict yourself by stating later that you feel used by these ingrates. I'm not trying to put you down - just that you help others wanting expressed gratitude. But you forget that you are just a good guy. I would say it is good to be taken advantage of specially when you are helping or promoting others in need. I would just give a few pointers to make you feel better about yourself:You are first responsible to yourself. Do not go out of your way to help others if it is not an emergency.Know the art/skill of saying 'no'. Which means agreeing to everything anyone asks for might land you in trouble or in a state which you might regret later.To help others means not expecting rewards or expressed gratitude.Do not be bothered about fake people being praised - who are the people praising them not knowing them for who they are?'Introvert' does not mean 'stupid', 'can't say no', ' or 'loser'. Many successful people are introverts.Know your friends. They are all your friends but some are to be taken seriously, some are close confidants while some are just 'friends' as in 'acquaintances'.Finally I would advice you not to expect too much from others - you are bound to be disappointed. However, if you are the 'Radar' who can be called in times of need, be proud of your achievement regardless of others' ignorance or unethical behaviour. Responsibility is power no matter how others perceive it.
My parents are too harsh, what should I do? ?
Today, my mom slapped me, chased me out of the house with a broomstick (lol) and told me to go live out in the streets, all because I unhooked the timer that was connected to my computer. She's the one that caused me severe depression, addiction to self-harm, social phobia, low self-esteem and possibly even conduct disorder. I feel like I'm living in hell. Here are all the stupid rules I have to live with if I don't wanna get kicked out. 1. No sleeping in until 11:00 in the morning, even if it's the summer or the weekend. 2. Go to bed at 10:00. 3. Limited time for computer chat/games. I get only an hour a day. When the time on the timer runs out, my computer screen automatically shuts down. 4. I can only apply one skinny line of eyeliner on my eye. No mascara, no foundation, etc. She checks my make-up everyday to make sure I don't look like a slut. (She said so herself.) This is really hard for me since I don't have any self esteem. 5. No junk food. I haven't eaten pizza or a candy bar for about a month now. 6. No hanging out with guy friends. 7. No cell-phone until I'm 21. 6 more years to go. 8. No laptop until I enter university. 9. Must wear socks even if it's hot as hell. What a weird rule. 10. Cannot wear contact lens. Apparently, it can make me blind but I wear them anyway. 11. Cannot listen to music using both earphones; only one earplug on one ear. Apparently if I don't, this can make me deaf. No using earphones in public, my room or elsewhere so what is the dam point of even buying me one. 12. Supposed to be banned from my iPod forever. She hid it but I found it in secret. I'm using it to type this. 13. No boyfriend until I'm 21. Not that I want one anyway. 14. No allowance even if I do chores. I have to earn my own by getting job. 15. No spending my own money. 16. No comparing my parents with other parents even if they compare me to other kids. There's alot more but I ran out of space. So what should I do about my parents?
Pregnant, How do I tell my parents?
sorry hun...it's never easy to tell the parents. Your probably going to get a lecture no matter what, parents always think your throwing your future away if your a pregnant teen, but they will come to realize that having a baby at 17 or 18 is NOT the worst that could happen. Anyways, i know that your question was how to tell them, well if i were in your shoes right now, i would avoid telling them simply because i'm kind of a coward lol, i have to admit it. But what you should do is tell them asap and straight up. "mom, dad, i'm sorry to have to tell you this, and it's not something i did on purpose so please save the screaming for later because i know what i've done is wrong but it's not like i can change the past, i can only accept the future, and so that's why i'm going to keep your grandchild and take full responsibility. Please, it's not easy for me to accept either, but i'm trying my best and i would really love your support right now. So please, help me through this?" That's what i would say if i weren't such a coward. Of course there is the possibility that if you were like me and kinda really scared or shy, you could sleepover at a friend's house who already knows about your situation and just tell your parents through a phone call, that way they have time to cool off and accept the reality of thngs before you face them, that way there wont be so much of a lecture. But to me the best way to tell them is in person, tell them to sit down because the news your about to tell them isn't easy for them to hear or you to say. In time, they will be excited about their grandchild. Believe me, you will get through this and it's not the end of the world.
I really screwed up, how do I get my parents to forgive me and see that im genuinely sorry for everything?
Lately i've been a terrible son, i've never followed rules and always fought with my parents and they are actually good parents and i've been too naive to see that. Yesterday I got landed in the hospital because of drugs and my parents were devastated, not because of my health and what I had done but because of the hospital bill because I have no insurance. I'm not saying they should care about me anymore because i've caused them so much stress and pain on top of the stress and pain they already have in their lives. I want to make it up to them and tell them to give me another chance and not kick me out. What should I do? Should I clean the whole house while they are gone? Because they are really big on that. Should I mow the lawn? What are some other things I can do to make them change their minds about me and prove to them that i've change. The cleaning house thing is going to be just an introduction, i'm going to talk to them and apologize and ask them to give me another chance, because this is already like my 4th one. I know this sounds really cheesy but I just feel ultra guilty about everything and it got to the point where they cried and stuff yesterday, not ******* cool. What do you guys think?
I think you are very mature to see that it is definitely time for you to do more for yourself. I'm not sure why your parents haven't encouraged you to help out around the house, but maybe time has gone by quickly for them, and they need to be gently , respectfully reminded that you are a teen. If I was you I would volunteer to do the chores. It would be a pleasant gift of gratitude for your parents if you told them how much you love them and that you appreciate all they do. Mention how you would like to take on responsibility for chores as a way of growing as a young person. ( My kids have done chores since a very young age. Even 2 year old can help clean up a bedroom. I'm a bit surprised you haven't been taught to do this yet.)Good luck, and definitely start doing chores! You will be far more prepared for the real world when you can do for yourself. : ) Great job on thinking about this topic and asking your question.
Parents: Do you have a home geneorator or know anything about them?
Get one that runs on diesel. Diesel is a little higher, but they are cheaper to run and more efficient. They are loud as hell, but we have to use ours in the summer because we are opposite of you. It gets so hot, the power goes off. Ours will run the AC unit, lights in the house, fridge and deep freeze. We have 2 that we got on sale for $600 each, but they have been worth it because we have a horse trailer that has a living area in it, and it runs the TV, stove, and all electrical appliances in it as well. They are a great investment.
Why do my parents hate me??? they make me feel like crap...?
ok well im 17, going to be 18 in one month... starting college soon... i dont understand why my mom and dad hate me... they were the best parents you could ask for.. then about 1 year ago they just turned mean... my dad is just crazy... my puppy will bark.. because she hears something outside.. and my dad scolds here..(kicks/his) which i hate !.. and he yells at me all the time to find a job!.. i waant a job! and i have applied everywhere... but i cant get hired.. and he always just yells at me to go get one.. and says im lazy, that im always at the computer...and my mom is always yeling at me to..my mom bought me a USB cable for the computer..and i have not used it once.. she bought it like 1 year ago.. and shes yelling at me to find it.. even tho shes the one that moved it.. and my mom always threatens me that if i move to my girlfriends house.she takes away the car, and isint going to pay for college.and they always say how shity i am, and how im so dumb/unappreciative*what do i do?