What can I do when my mother-in-law uses my wife’s money to buy daily items for her own son (my wife’s brother) behind my back?
she does not have access to my money, she is just manipulate her daughter(my wife) to hold on tight to her own(my wife) money and make my wife think it ok to use all of my salary to pay for everything else, and if im short, mother in law demands my own father to pay the rest which it does not make sense. and the mother in law just ask my wife to use her own(my wife) money to buy her brother items which also dont make sense because he is marry and has a job and a place of his own!. i see my wifes money as our own money because we are marry and no reason to seperate the money like the mother in law thinks
Why is my mother such a neurotic *****?
im 21 years old and get this--my mom still decides what she wants me to wear! or what she thinks i should do with my hair. or how i treat my boyfriend! it gets annoying because she's not only controling, she's also over the top mean when i mess up with tiny trivial little things. like, if i leave a spot on the floor unswept, she'd blow her head off by yelling how incompetent and lazy i am. or if it is about 5 hours away from an event and im not yet dressed up, she's yell about my responsibility and everything else. she's mean to other people too. she once saw my aunt dressed up and commented that she's dressing up because she competes and she isnt contented! i mean, what the f*ck is that all about? she bursts into angry hysteria out of no reason at all and butt her nose to where it doesnt belong! is she neurotic? or does she have bipolar or borderling disorder or something? psychologists, help!!!
Why is My Mother So Messy and Unorganized?
Ok well, to start off I'm 15 years old, i live with my mother and my brother. We've moved around lot since i was maybe 6 or 7 and we were lucky to find a nice condo to live in for now. this all started a very long time ago. the last time i remember having a clean house was right after my brother was born (i was 5 years old) ever since then my mom has been a very messy person. every apartment we live in turns to hell only after a month or two when i was younger i didn't mind much but as i gt older it started to really get to me. i spend most of the time in my room because going down stairs disgusts me. it's not that i don't clean. i clean every chance i get but i have school and other things to do and it's starts to feel kind of useless cleaning up after her and my brother. it really only stays clean for a few hours. and im starting to lose my motivation. i clean, buy air fresheners and bug spray (my moms mess attracts roaches like a magnet), candles, cleaning supplies and gloves. but even after i use up all of that stuff its still turns into a huge mess in two hours r less. im tired of washing dishes and cleaning up the food thrown on the floor and my other family members ca see my position. they offer for me to live with them but i know if i leave my house is going to hit rock bottom and my brother might even get taken away, not that my brother cares about the mess though hes adopted the habit too. everyone tries to talk to her about it but she either denies it or gets angry for then mentioning it. i cant even have company over because when i clean for them to come over my mom throws all of her stuff all over the place and i get frustrated. before we lived here we lived in my grandfathers house, and she lived in the basement. she bought so much stuff that the basement floor was covered in a layer of shoes. the basement became so messy and disgusting my grandpa kicked us out (i wasn't kicked out but my mom forced me to come with her). should i confront her, or just cope with it a little more it's really starting to depress me, i've been gaining weight and laying in my bed because i don't feel like leaving my room and walking into mess outside my door.
My mom is lazy & the house is a mess & theres bugs everywhere. what do i do? i dont wanna live here anyomore?
she says she too tired to clean, and she uses all these excuses. the house smells, you cant walk around, i cleaned the house by myself, including her room like a million times and she thanks me and goes on with her day. sometimes i get my cousin to help me clean but she always messes it up again. i went camping with my friend after i cleaned, the day i left, and when i came home a week later all theses dishes and garbage all around. i dont know what to do, i cant live like this anymore.
I'm 18 and my mom still hits me?
What should I do? I'm going to be 18 in 2 days...my mother has ocd...because of this she is overly organized and neat...if i drop a few drops of water on the bathroom floor...she pinches me...my drawers are a bit of a mess...i get slapped...this tends to make me back answer her as speakin rationally with her doesn't work...she speaks rudely with me and never speaks without raising her voice...i understand my mother has a right to discipline me if i do something wrong but is being messy such a crime?(everyone i know thinks im too neat except for my mother) the issue is that im Indian...so here it doesnt matter if i turn 18...my mother can slap me even if im 30...ive tried speakin to my grandparents and they have tried makin her understand....but she doesnt listen...even my father cannot do anythin...im not ill-treated as in my parents dote upon my brother and me....but i cant tolerate her raisin her hand on me...its humiliating...taking legal action isnt an option...i cannot bring such a situation upon my family. Please help me...what should I do?
My mom told me I was a mistake. Does this kinda thing usually mess people up?
A lot of children ARE unplanned. but the fact of the matter is, if you have sex, a baby is what you get. you were loved enough to not get murdered in the womb like one third of babies made today, so consider yourself a survivor! And actually, I am a christian and I dont believe that you are unplanned, I believe that every person was planned by God, that he loves you and wants you to love him, because he knit us together in our mothers wombs, and has plans to prosper us, to give us a hope and future and not to harm us. if we will follow him. So regardless of whether or not you were originally planned, it doesnt matter, because you are here now and Im sure many people are thankful for that. My son was unplanned, and sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like without him, but at the same time, I love him so much I would NEVER wish he wasnt born. Life is hard as a parent, but once you get to know that little baby inside of you, you would never want to live without them. People are a blessing to this world. Imagine life without your friends around. Humans have unplanned things happen to them all the time, thats just part of living. But it doesnt mean the unplanned things are bad. I dont think there is a set way you are supposed to feel upon hearing that news, I think you should let youself feel whatever you want to feel, so you can start to deal with those emotions. dont bottle anything up. If you have access, talking to a therapist would help you gain perspective on this and probably make you feel a lot better. anyway, I wish you the best.
My mother is hospitalised and her condition is critical. I have the most important exam of my life the next month. It will decide my career and hence, my future. I don't want to mess it up, but I'm really depressed looking at my mother's condition. How do I focus in such a situation?
From what I understand, despite your mother's condition you are being brave enough to take up this challenge of an exam and kudos to you for that. At the same time you are having difficulty focusing for which you are seeking help. I see a lot of answers here which are helping you decide whether to focus more on studies or on the situation at hand but I feel you have already made that decision. So now how to focus on studies?Every time a negative thought distracts you deliberately counter it with a positive reinforcement e.g. to the thought that you can’t do well , think “ if anyone can do this, I can and I will”. “Things will get better”If you need a reason to push yourself, think of all the efforts you & your family has put in for you reach this stage. It will make everyone, (especially your mom) proud and happy if you clear this test.Trust the doctors who are taking care of her at the hospital. They will act in her best interest (I pray she gets well soon)Pray and meditate. It helps to organise thoughts and release the emotional burden.Keep a diary or record of your daily studies and reward yourself for the smallest achievements.Speak with close friends/relatives for emotional support. Your friends who are giving the same exam will help you stay on track. You can approach a counsellor for professional advice.Don’t lose Hope. It’s not what u study in one month or even a year but how you perform during the limited time of the test that matters. I am sure you have studied until now so you just have to remain as alert, calm and composed as possible during the exam. Taking a good rest before the exam will help you do that. Wishing you the very best!