How do I get over someone I’ve never had? How do I get over this heartbreak, this misplaced feeling of something that never belonged to me?
I've just had the same experience, and getting over it is indeed difficult, took me about forty days to accept it and move on. The hardest part is this is a close friend of mine, and at some point I have been misled that what we had is really something special.. So here's how I did it:1. Acknowledge your feelings, no matter how deep it is. Dont do self denial, face the truth with head up high.2. Seek the counsel and enjoy the company of some friends. I am lucky enough to have friends who happened to served as 'witness' to our 'story'.. So they understood, they let me cry, shout, drink, party, then cry again..3. Do not over think! The tendency of unrequited love is that we tend to overthink every little sweet gesture and look for signs from the other person. One thing I have learned from this is to never assume, never expect unless you hear the other person say it and do the obvious.. I began to realize, as well, that if he really has feelings for me he would have told me early on, but no.. So there had been none.. 4. Save a distance from that person. Since he is a close friend and co worker, I tried never to pass by his cubicle, never linger in the pantry area if he is there, try to avoid any chance of contact, I deactivated Facebook where both of us has been active, and resist checking him out. Gladly he is working in a different division from us, so the distance is far easy..like the old cliche that goes, out of sight, out of mind..5. Keep yourself busy, especially when thoughts and memories of him keeps bothering your mind. Veer away from thinking of him and work work study and work and eat and sleep until you are too physically tired or pained to even think of him..6. Time heals. Let time do the work after you have done your part, and lastly,7. Pray and meditate and laugh again.. It makes going back to your old normal peaceful self much faster..I hope this helps. Another advice I have heard but I do not recommend is to find someone else, so, uhm is there anyone still available here to help me heal my broken heart in quora?? Hahaha.. Just kidding... This gives a lot more tendency for the new person to become your rebound, and it will be unfair for him/her. So do not resort to this step, unless you are sure your heart is open to let someone new in..Again, I am single... Lol
How do I get over this?
So, about 3 and 1/2 years ago when I was still in high school, there was an incident while I was riding the bus that I remember very vividly. This girl, who I didn't know personally but I knew of her ever since we were kids, was going up and down the aisle on the bus, essentially judging people. I was sitting near her so I could hear what she was saying however it looked like I was listening to my music because I had my headphones in. Anyways, once she got to me, I remember her saying verbatim "That girl is so ugly, she looks like a f****** terrorist, her parents could be terrorists for all we know, she's so ugly." I did nothing but listen. No one said anything out of fear that she'd verbally attack them too. This girl, who knew nothing about me was able to, in that very moment, knock the air out of my lungs. Her first impression of me was that I was ugly, and possibly a terrorist. I'm in college now and it's something I can't forget no matter how hard I try and I wonder if that's what all people think of me. How do I let this go?