What do you do/say when someone you care about calls you a liar when you are telling the truth?
Its pretty difficult to take this small but deep word “LIAR” on you when you have actually not lied. Talking about a person whom you really care about, it can simply be a good friend, calls you a liar makes the situation even worse.I am been through this and i felt sad about it. There is this friend of mine who used to call me a liar. Initially i took it as a teasing but when i asked her about it seriously then she was like i don’t call anyone a liar for no reason. This shook me away. I knew i didn’t lie but to hear her view was tears triggering.I got this feeling instantly that she looks up to me as a liar always maybe. Deep that was Deep that is Deep that will be. I am a bit image conscious and this just helped to feel sorrowful at a different level.I was really SORRY for looking like a liar which i was not but can’t help it in any way. I would suggest to let things be left into destiny’s hands. All i had ever said on such scenarios is “You will come to know about the truth one day but i hope its not too late by then...”
Why do I get so uncomfortable when people call me pretty or beautiful?
Some people love (or desperately want) to be told they’re beautiful, but it makes lots of others uncomfortable. While such compliments seem positive on the surface, they still amount to people making unsolicited comments about your physical appearance.Many people don’t like to be singled out for unsolicited attention, and many other people don’t want attention focused on their looks even if they don’t mind getting attention for other things. Most of us don’t want to feel like our physical appearance is the most important thing about us, but it’s what people see first.I generally believe that people usually mean well when they tell someone they’re pretty (unless you count street harassment, which is related but definitely doesn’t come with good intentions), but it can also feel like someone who doesn’t really know you is trying to reduce you to a superficial view of you as a person.Being uncomfortable with compliments is totally normal, but your interactions will feel easier if you can get used to receiving them gracefully. Unfortunately if you’re a woman, those compliments often come with expectations or other strings, so it then becomes a fine line between accepting them politely and inviting more unsolicited attention from someone you might not necessarily want to talk to.
Why do people get angry at me when I'm sad?
You have no reason to be sad? Then why is it so?We all have feelings that come from somewhere: an experience, an idea, a thought, something we came up with… all feelings are perfectly valid.If that’s true, then your sadness has a real cause, and understanding it can help you overcome it!People who don’t tolerate sadness generally have a lot of sadness themselves. They feel that it’s a competition. And a LOT of them deny that they feel it, because it’s a “normal” state for them. Such is the case with habitual depression.When we are taught to be depressed over time, we feel depressed, but it’s more of a habit than any actual condition. It seems to have no cause of its own. But really, we’re simply mimicking a learned behavior. We don’t even necessarily actually feel it. And so we can’t readily identify either a cause or see it plainly in other people. So when someone actually sad comes along, the illusion is threatened. They will treat it as a threat, and become angry. But it’s not like you can just decide to stop being sad on a whim.So the best you can do is to tell them that they seem sad, and that you’re sad, too. They’ll still get angry, but they’ll demand to listen to why you think you can be sad. And then, when they start telling you that you’re complaining, you can counter with: “But you asked!”It also paves the way for these people to start really looking at themselves and their own feelings. I doubt they’re trying to be abusive, but if you simply call them names or make accusations (in their mind), nothing will change.If it ever escalates to hitting, you need to get out of there. If they start calling you names or belittling you, leave. It’s not necessarily forever, but you have no need to tolerate abusive behaviors. But neither do you necessarily have to close off the way for them to grow a little and overcome this controlling hatred of theirs. Compassion wins out in that battle every time.
Ugh my mom won't leave me alone when I'm mad!?
Seriously, when I'm f*cking mad, she'll come and try to talk to me and whatever or just get mad at me. I just need time alone, I don't need anybody when I'm angry. It just makes me a thousand times angrier. So I am angry right now because of her (don't even call me immature, she said something to my friend that she wasn't even suppose to tell anyone) and my mom wouldn't leave me alone after I practically screamed at her "LEAVE ME ALONE" So I had to physically push her out of my room, then I locked my door. Seriously, my mom doesn't know ANYTHING about me. When I'm mad, I'm gonna start crying and punching things, but she just sees it as me being sad or whatever. So what do I do? How do I make my mom or anyone in that matter, to leave me alone when I'm angry/upset? Especially to the ones that can't understand that I NEED to be alone when I'm mad. I am 13 years old, female. Thanks.
I get upset and feel neglected when someone use bad words for me. What should be my reaction at that time?
Hey Dharmesh, thanks for the A2A...If someone say something bad to us, we all feel bad for it. It's normal. But if this continues for a long time, and you end up being depressed, then I think that you are a very soft-hearted and emotional guy. In that case you need to change yourself. You have to make yourself mentally strong, as in today's world guys like you are screwed up.If someone say something bad to you, first of all think if you have really done something wrong. If yes, make the necessary apologies. But if there was nothing your fault, then ignore the bad words and mind your own business. Don't overthink why the person behaved in such a way, as you will never know what's in their mind. And literally you don't become an asshole if someone say you so. So just chill, and take it easy; you can never please everyone in life. Don't give a fuck to the so-called bad words, and make yourself strong. You may feel bad, but don't make yourself depressed. It will not be easy at first, but you can do it if you try. Hope this helps.
Why do some ppl become so defensive, angry, agigated or upset when someone corrects them or tries to help?
People have a high self esteem and feel insulted if they are publicly corrected.
I am mentally challenged. should i get mad when people call me retarded?
Just remember that people who make fun of handicapped people are shallow and very weak spirited. Be the bigger person and keep your chin up and walk away. If you always try your best and never allow your handicap to stand in your way of following your dreams then you are a superior human being and you will go far in life. Just ignore those jerks and keep on being yourself! Good luck
Why does my boyfriend treat me badly and then get angry when I complain that his behaviour makes me feel sad?
Because you allow him to treat you badly, and you've fallen into the trap that many who haven't been around the block experience with these less than desirable companions: Feeling badly for someone else's bad behavior. It's like Janet Jackson once sang: "I know you USED to do nice things for me, but what have you done for me lately?"I'm not trying to be mean. I've been where you're at, and learned the hard way that love -or what poses as love, but really isn't- is an action. It's not just a word. For some of us with tender hearts, it's easier for the lesson to be learned when we put it in a context that we can grasp. If someone "says" they love you, then behaves in a manner that does not exemplify a true definition of love, then we must be brave enough to call it for what it is. Perhaps we don't have a way to articulate our confusion, but it's okay to say, "That's not love!" and walk away.Most of us are scared of walking away to preserve our dignity & self-respect. Why? Good question! I've looked at it from a zillion different angles & concluded that we are afraid....of being alone. Honestly, I'd rather be alone than spend time with someone who makes me feel crappy -when I haven't done anything to deserve it. We don't want to be the "bad guy".This is backwards thinking, and I dispensed with it a long time ago. First & foremost, we should love ourselves. If we can't, then we will attract people who will play all sorts of emotional games with us, then blame us when we call them out on it! Why waste time on unhappy unions?Your bf gets angry because he's using classic deflection techniques on you. These leave you feeling badly (for HIS bad behavior). They leave you confused, when there really is nothing confusing about the situation you're in. And guess what? You have choices: You can stay, and continue to be treated badly, end up feeling badly, and confused. Which is the same as doing nothing. OR...you can set him -and yourself- free. Let him go find someone else to abuse, and you are now free to find someone worthy of your time, attention, affection, and LOVE. Love yourself enough to demand that he change. Absent him changing, you know you have choices.
Why Does Porn make me So Angry?
Ok, maybe the other guys on Y/A are gonna think I'm a traitor... but personally, watching porn was what I did when I was single and didn't have a woman... Culture says its okay for men to "need" variety and tries to pass off that its okay to look at random naked women, but NOT All guys think it is okay. After I found my girl I quit watching porn as part of my commitment to her, and yes this was my idea. Call me old fashioned, but I'm a one girl kind of guy, and I refuse to cheat on my wife, and I refuse to look at other naked women because I consider that cheating!