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What Defines A Stalker

How do you define a stalker?

to pursue obsessively and to the point of harassment

Psychology and behaviors
Stalking exists on several levels. Victims may or may not be aware that it is happening, and the perpetrators may or may not have malicious intent. Stalkers may even have a sincere but misguided belief that their victims love them, or have a desire to help the victims.[1] Contrary to crimes that consist of a single act, stalking consists of a series of actions which in themselves can be legal, such as calling on the phone, sending gifts, or sending emails.[2] Most cases of stalking never escalate to extreme levels of violence or harassment.

Stalkers will often denigrate their victims which reduces the victims to objects. This allows stalkers to feel angry at victims without experiencing empathy, or they may feel that they are entitled to behave as they please toward the victims. Viewing victims as "lesser," "weak" or otherwise seriously flawed can support delusions that the victims needs to be rescued, or punished, by the stalkers.

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Define Stalker?

Stalk: follow, trail, track, pursue, hunt, chase, go after, tag along, monitor, keep an eye on, have under surveillance, be a fan of, admire, be devoted.
I guess that definition means that I'm a stalker... because I admire my hubby & lots of celebrities.
As long as you're not taking it to the extreme, they don't have the right to judge you as if you're an insane-stalker.

What defines "stalking"? This woman said she, "kept sending him messages and calling him" for three months after a breakup. How is that not stalking?

You are just a crazy ex-girlfriend. Someone mentioned once that all women stalk.   Therefore you are not a psychopath as long as you do not harass him. If he files a restraining order against you, then you'll know you went too far. Make sure it doesn't go that far because having that record will ruin your life especially when you apply for a job.  No man is worth that. No man is worth losing your self respect. Other than that you're just going through a phase. One day you'll wake up and laugh at yourself that you did silly things for the man who wasn't worthy but at the time he meant the world to you. If it goes for more than a few months, yes you'll need to see a therapist.  Breakups are hard. It makes us feel small even if we do the breaking. So we stalk the other person or often lower ourselves to begging to take us back.  There was a reason why you two broke up.  There is a reason he's not in your life. See this as a blessing from God to find the right man and have the time to be the best person you can be. Every time you feel the urge to stalk him, divert your attention to watching youtube or writing something. Write how you feel on a piece of paper amd tear it apart. Take a boxing class to let yoir anger out. Get up early and jog in the morning breeze. You'll feel great. You'll also be in great shape. Take classes to upgrade your skills. Best revenge is not beating him to death but look sexy amd successful. Every time you want to contact him, call a friend and chat.  Once you get used to diverting your attention for a few weeks, you won't miss him anymore. Take some time alone thinking and analyzing the relationship.  What led to the break up?  What could you have done differently? Learn from your mistakes and apply them in the next relationship. Going back to him will be trying to glue/tape your front window. It will be the same. Never take him back unless he proves himself some growth and maturity. Don't lose your breath waiting for him either. Instead focus on your own growth. Learn who you are before jumping to another relationship.  Grow love for yourself.  Walk away from contacting or stalking that will lead him to insult you.  Have self respect.

List of what stalkers do?

Stalkers try - and succeed - to instill fear. Some follow their victims in public, including to and from home or work. Others attempt to communicate with their victims via phone, FAX, or e-mail, or by sending unwanted letters or gifts. Some stalkers show up at the victim's home or place of employment, break into his or her residence or vehicle, or vandalize his or her property. Some do all of the above. In extreme cases, The legal definition of stalking is defined primarily by state statutes. While statutes vary, most define stalking as a course of conduct that places a person in fear for their safety.

However, the term "stalking" is more commonly used to describe specific kinds of behavior directed at a particular person, such as harassing or threatening another person. But the variety of specific strategies employed and behaviors displayed by stalkers are limited only by the creativity and ingenuity of the stalkers themselves. Suffice it to say, virtually any unwanted contact between a stalker and their victim which directly or indirectly communicates a threat or places the victim in fear can generally be referred to as stalking.

What is the legal definition of stalking?

Legal definitions vary but many states define stalking as willful, malicious, and repeated following and harassment.

- Isolated acts may not fall under this type of law, but where there is a pattern, the behavior is generally illegal.

- In some states, for stalking laws to apply, the commission of the offense requires an explicit threat of violence against the victim, but elsewhere an implied threat is sufficient.

- Under most state laws, Montana's included, the victim's fearful response is built into the legal definition of stalking. This recognizes that the perpetrator's repeated, uninvited pursuit of the victim is by its nature frightening and threatening.

The stalking law (Penal code 42.072) prohibits the following behavior, either of the stalker or of someone who acts on behalf of the stalker:
1. On one or more occasion, the stalker has followed, placed under surveillance, made threats, restrained, confined, or behaved and/or made threats that caused the victim to fear immediate or future injury, death, or damage to property.
2. Threats and/or actions can be conveyed either to the victim or to the family or other household members of the victim.

A friend of mine had a restraining order put against someone and unlawful calling, emailing, and texting are also a third degree offense!