My wife won't visit my family, what do I do?
About 2 months ago my wife and I got upset with my mother over some favortism my mom showed my neices and nephew over my kids. I have since gotten over it basically but my wife just won't let it go. We use to go to my parent's house every Sunday but now it seems I can't do that. My girls love my parents very much, as do I. I want to continue to go over there on Sunday to see my family, but my wife won't go and I'm afraid to go because it may cause friction. I love my wife, but I want to see my family too. Am I being a momma's boy? Should I go to my parent's house Sunday anyway? I'm torn in half between the people I love the most. I don't think it's fair of my wife to pull me away from the family I grew up with, and yet continue to force her parents on me, whom I can't stand but have endured for my wife's sake since we married 7 years ago. I'm just so emotionally torn!!!!
What should I do about my family problems?
A2AWelcome to the Real Life!Who does not have family problems? Who does not have issues which take up their time and energy? Is there one family on this planet without a problem? Even Ambanis have had their share of problems and being rich does not solve them - you can take my word for it, I've been a part of an affluent and wealthy family since I gained consciousness but we have had our issues.Calling your father useless shows your mindset. He's sick - that's is misfortune. Tomorrow even you can be sick. Nobody can control that. Even richest of the rich people have had diseases like cancer and no, their family members do not disown them saying that they're useless! If you have an ill father its your responsibility to take care of him. If you don't want to do that then somewhere you're proving the point that he did an extremely wrong thing by caring for you when you were a child and making you capable of writing this question here on a social media website! He should've abandoned you in your childhood and let you beg in streets, you'd have grown up in an even poorer environment and then maybe you'd dream to be a part of this family!Its just that sometimes we do not value what we have until even that is lost and we are left with nothing. We don't understand the value of our family or parents until they're away from us or we lose them.Your family problems aren't something to worry about - but your mindset is! Till the moment you do not change your mindset you can never have a content or happy life. Tomorrow even if you become a millionaire you will again be desolate and depressed about something or the other. Mark my words! Money does not reduces your problems.Today if you die of a disease for which you cannot afford a treatment, tomorrow you might die of a disease which is not possible to cure in this world. The bottom line is - YOU WILL DIE. Death comes to all. Rich people aren't spared and its better to change your mindset before its too late!
Why do you value your family/friends?
Because it is my personal belonging and prestige of life
My family always bullies me. What should I do?
At the end of the day, if your family are true pieces of shit my apologies, and I commend you on losing those 20 pounds.Just like bullies at school, they pick on those that they feel power over.In this case your supposed mother aka queen B( not the singer lol) simply belittles you because your the Daughter and she's the mom and whatever mom says goes, right.Bullies like your mother and the rest of the family, feed off your emotion and reaction.Your family is far from a family, I don't know why they pick on you, looks should not matter and that sucks.Let me ask do you have any close friends, that you have a great relationship with. If yes, talk to them your family is no use. Their is hope for your father but as he is away their is very little he can do over the phone.Going back to the emotion and reaction you give when they make you feel sad. Control that, they will keep taunting you, the only way to beat a bully is to show no emotion.They have said these things plenty of times, do not make the mistake of ever believing it or hurting yourself in any way, you do so , they win.And believe me 5 to 10 years from now this will make you an incredibly tough individual, see it as a trial period you just have to deal with.Best of luck, and tell queen b to kiss my ass
What do I do if my family is falling apart?
This happens when there is a gap between Mother and grown up Sister.Parents (either Mother or Father), they stopped growing and unaware of society latest developments and issues of personal views, liberty, self interests, social dating, social tools, party culture, etc..In your case, I can only say - probably your mother might be still living with old customs, values, beliefs which are no longer acceptable to current generation. By saying this, I am not suggesting that your mother is wrong or etc..Any simple topic of custom, tradition, outing, social gatherings, meeting with external people (female to male etc.),, will trigger a war of words due to inability of both reconciling to mutual expectations.This will not be easily possible to resolve unless, one of the two persons start caring more for the other person than the value systems.As a younger person in the family, you possibly can not do much now. Please stay away from both, as you will not be able to comprehend and make them understand.At the best, you can talk to individual separately and try to convince her to respect other person views as well. Hopefully, your mother or sister see your point and start respecting each other..Best wishes..
My family makes me so angry what do I do?
Today my mom decided that the house wasn't clean enough for her and started complaining to everyone, and apparently she was very mad at my brother for not doing anything. I've had my period the entire week, and it's been super heavy and miserable. So at this time, after picking up my stuff downstairs, I was resting on my bed. My dad, who blows up super easily, started screaming because of what my mom said, and decides to start attacking me. I tell him that I'm in pain and he starts mocking me in a high pitched voice with fake crying. He then comes into my room and throws some of my things into the hallway, like my backpack, and then throws it over the balcony. My stuff. He was angry with my mom and he decides to throw my things. He has been nasty to me the entire day. My mother keeps telling me how bad I am, and that my sadness is so pervasive she can't be around me, and that I'm depressed. I am trying to say that, no, I don't think I'm depressed, I just have realized that no matter how hard I work (gettings 98s and 100s on tests in the past week, for example) I still get treated like this and get to be the family's punching bag. I can't keep doing this. It doesn't get better. I explain things to them and it doesn't get better. I try my hardest in school, with others, and it never matters. I just don't know what to do.
My family is homophobic and I’m pansexual. What should I do?
Well, that is an interesting situation. I will comment, and I hope you realize that I am not trying to be rude or unkind. I do care that you find some peace in this situation.Your chosen lifestyle is not common. Indeed, it is exceedingly rare. You may be comfortable with it, but most people are not able to find any rationality in such a life. And, many will feel it unstable or even immoral.That said, be sensitive to your family’s views. Understand that they will likely find it shocking. They will wish it were not true. But that doesn't mean that they don’t love you or wish the best for you. Trying to force them to approve of it will only show disrespect, as will rejection of them if they reject your lifestyle.It would show respect not to involve them in your behavior. Don’t ask them to socialize with people they know they will be uncomfortable with. You may have some “good” desire such as hoping they will change, but it will not be received that way.In time, they may come to accept your lifestyle to some degree. But that is up to them. You cannot control that, or make it happen, and you shouldn’t try to. By keeping your relationships private, you can lessen the chance of conflicts and arguments. If they bring up the topic, you can explain that you respect them and do not want to cause friction or create an argument.Love conquers all. Love them. Love includes respect even for those we disagree with. You may desire that they turn into a family that sees the world the way that you do and every one lives happily ever after. That’s fine, but that choice has to be up to them. In truth, you may end up with having to keep your social life very separate and private, and being content with that.
What should I do when my family is falling apart?
Keep talking to your family members. Forgive the foolishness that is causing the rupture. Listen to all parties. Dont waste time on recrimanations. Be a peace maker. You dont say why your family is falling apart. If drugs or alcohol are causing the breakup there are groups that can help you like Alanon. These are some ideas ive had . Prayer has helped me in times of trouble. It doesnt always solve the problem but it gives me peace so i can cope better with my life.