My son is a Furry what should I do?
Hello this is my first time on these things but here is my Question? What do I do if my son who is 18 claims himself to be Bisexual and something called a Furry? Ive researched the subject myself I found a lot of stuff on the subject a lot of the stuff I found was a litweirdierd but Hes on all of these sites that have all of this stuff related to furry like one of the sites was named Furaffinity.net and Diviantart.com, He has also talks in these IRC chat things and Ive found several folders on his profile accumulating files on the subject like: pornography furry pictures, fursuit stuff, wrighting and poems, comics and so on and so fourth but the question is that why does my son sway this way being Bi and a Furry did I make some mistake or something as a parent? Please help me!
What should I do about my Skinhead son?
You need to find out WHAT is going on in his life. People join things like this out of a belief system and to feel POWERFUL. He may feel powerless and this is fueling him. You should find activities to occupy his time that he can enjoy and develop feelings of power and self esteem. It might be helpful to consult someone with information of gang intervention programs, as these exhibit similar behavior as Aryan groups. You need to see a counselor or therapist. You must get in touch with WHY your son is doing this if you are to solve the problem. Yes, you need to find out who his group is and whom it is comprised of...if it is an older guy, you need to report him, if they have done anything wrong. I would say get in touch with a counselor/psychologist, a detective (maybe to see who the friends in the group are), and most importantly YOUR SON. Spend more time together. Do some things HE wants to do. Talk to him, everyday. Don't let him shut you out. Good luck and God bless
How do I deal with my son who resents me?
The best thing you can do is: stop “dealing” with that son and start “loving” him instead, unconditionally. It is your responsibility to make your boy feel how much you love him ALWAYS, even when he is really mad at you.You can’t control a child. You mustn’t even try that. You can control your own mind and anxiety. That is what you should be working on because that is the only thing we can control in this world: Our Minds.If you start seeing your child as a person who deserves your respect and unconditional love, if you acknowledge your own flaws, you will be in whole better position to embrace this challenge together: You and your child need to heal a wound.If your child has hard feelings on you, he may have some very good reasons. Even if you had a good intention, perhaps you were too rude, or maybe too loud, or it just wasn’t the right time. Why don’t you try these:1) Hug him and tell him how much you love him every time you can, especially when he is very angry.2) When he says something that hurts your feelings, you apologize. Let your child hear from you how sorry you are for hurting him. It is more that OK if you tell your child you know that you did wrong and you regret that.3) Don’t come up with excuses. That line: “I did this because I love you”- should be illegal and 100% forbidden. We don’t hurt our children because we love them. You messed up because you are an imperfect human being (just like all of us) and your child needs to know that. You should tell him.4) Talk about your feelings and his feelings too. Resentment is OK, as long as we do our best to heal and learn from that.5) Make a plan to make it work together. For example: empower your child so that he can stop you when you start nagging. Parents are not supposed to be perfect, we are not supposed to have every answer. It is our job to do our best to be the best parents we can be.These tips will work if your child is 4 years old and also if he is 40. We never stop being parents, and he will never stop being your son.
My son pulled out a stitch. What should I do?
My son had to get 2 stitches in his chin 3 days ago after a daycare accident. He has to leave them in a total of 5 days, but he's pulled one out. I just noticed it is missing. Should I just wait until he goes to have them removed or should it be replaced now? It doesn't look completely healed. He's only 2 years old.
What should I do about my son's raging hormones?
wow that is a really hard one.. but things like that cant be stopped because he will be going back to school..teach him some sex ed maybe..stds pregnancy etc..?
What do I do if my son is very smart but never does his homework?
My Dad was a bit like that. His parents received a school report saying he "sets himself very low standards and fails even to achieve these". He went on to earn a PhD in physics and provided for a family of five (and that quote became a family joke).When I was 9 my parents received a school report telling them I was "sub-normal". At 12 I was told by a teacher than I would never accomplish anything. At the age of 17 my parents received a school report saying "Jon has put no effort in this term". I got straight A's at school, the second highest mark in the world in maths and went on to earn a BA, MA, MSci and PhD from the University of Cambridge in physics and chemistry, founded my own company straight out of university and earned over $1.5M.So firstly I would say don't lose your sense of perspective: much more important that your family is healthy and happy. Secondly, he's probably bored because he either knows everything or does not know why he should know it. If the latter then try to spend some time with him going through a bird's eye view of his studies explaining why it is important for him to learn this stuff. For example, I aced math and science but I always sucked at geography and literature. Retrospectively, I sucked at geography because my parents told me it was a waste of time (it isn't: you cannot understand world markets without knowing some geography). I sucked at literature because I only read technical literature and was only ever tested on fiction. Had they given us all transistor datasheets for reading comprehension and asked us to extract the DC bias I'd have aced literature too.Now I have a son and, quite frankly, I don't care how he does at school. All I want to do is spend time with him. Learn with him. Be there for him. In fact, we've just been home schooling him for a year and, after 3 months at home with us, he is much happier, healthier and better educated. Whatever you do, don't lose sight of the big picture.
My son keeps asking me for money. What should I do?
Well, if you don't want to give it, tell him no and to stop asking you. I like this saying if you are willing to actually give the money they ask for, if it's $40 or $200. "Okay, here's this money. You can keep it and use it and can consider it a gift. Or you can pay me back and I'll keep it for you and it will always be here if you need it again." So that operates on the principle of setting boundaries. About 4 years ago, my family was struggling as I was in a low-paying job. It was juuuust hard enough to where we couldn't quite make it to the next payday on a few occasions. I estimated how much we needed to get the groceries and then I asked my older sister for the money. Basically she operated on that principle. As long as I paid it back, it would be there for me to borrow again. I think we had to do it three times total. But it was nice because it felt good to pay her back and then when something happened I knew I could tap that source again if I needed to.
My 23 year old son is out of control. What do I do?
Well, the kid's a pretty big loser. There's no doubt about it.But usually there's reasons for this. Abuse, neglect, low self-esteem, anger, loss, etc.It's one thing to say, "kick him out and let him learn to survive on his own," but you may want to consider that that's going to look like for him.Based on what you say, it's pretty likely he's going to end up on drugs and/or in jail, which is basically crime college.I'd say he's at a pretty big risk of becoming a career loser for life. Despite taking total advantage of you, you are seemingly the only positive influence in his life right now. At least his buddies are just losers and not criminals. Booze and pot and video games are mostly just an escape, but not necessarily an indicator of life-long criminality.The violence is worrisome. That's an indication of suppressed anger and an inability to express himself on a socially acceptable level.I think you should invest in some professional assistance. A good counselor can do amazing things. There's definitely something going on in that kid's head that he isn't talking about. He may never want to talk to you about it, but if he can find someone he trusts, it could turn things around.He could really use a good role model too.I'm just saying, before you turn him out into the cold, consider what a life-time of dissapointment and regret you may have if he doesn't land on his feet.You may have the opportunity to help him now before that ugly future comes true.And one more thing to consider: he's still just a kid. He won't be an adult for another 3-7 years. Don't let him screw it all up now. He'll eventually grow up.If counselling and communication doesn't work, there's always the door.
My son bought a gun! What do i do i don't what such a digusting weapon in my house!?
I just found out that my 18 year old son bought a shotgun when i went into the basement i seen him unloading a bullet. We then argued for about 10 minutes about how dangerous it is to have a gun in the house. He then said it doesnt matter its just a single shot shotgun and he said he wouldn't do anything bad with it. I told him i don't CARE! a gun is a gun and that i dont want it in my house i finally convinced him to let me keep the shells in my room so that he doesn't do anything stupid and kill someone! honestly i want to get rid of it but its not my gun so what do i do!
How do I motivate my teenage son to study?
This is difficult to answer as all children are different. In previous answers, people suggest rewards, identifying learning styles and offering assistance.Now, I'll tell you what works. Let them fail. Let them fail miserably. How do I know this? I have lived this and have tried everything.My son, while a great kid, was a lousy student! I would get calls from teachers once a week starting in middle school. I knew then I was in for trouble. Going to high school, I knew that he needed to shape up or college was off the table. Off he went to to high school. He wanted to play football but the team had grade requirements. He barely met them but he did.Now remember, I tried offering tutors, suggested he ask for help from teachers, threatened and begged. After almost 2 years of that bullshit, I stopped. I never took football out of the equation because I felt the work ethic and commitment it required was important for him. He needed (or maybe I needed for him) to be passionate about something. He needed something to feel good about, especially since his older sister was a straight A student all through high school and received multiple academic awards.I, as a single mom, made sure he knew I was there to support his achievements. I went to every single football game of his and volunteered my time to help support his team. What I didn't do is ask him if he had homework, or tests, or exams. I stopped because he needed to learn to do things without his mom nagging him. When he talked about college, I simply said “You're not going to college Noah”. He would say to me “Wow Mom, way to be supportive”.What I wasn't going to do was waste a 529 fund on a kid that wasn't ready to go away to college. He watched all of his friends go away to school while he lived with me at home. He saw independence, fun, freedom and a different world in his friends pics on social media.I had to sit back and watch my son flush his future away because of laziness. Fast forward a year and a half from graduating high school and he is finally leaving the nest to go away to school. He worked his ass off in junior college, got very good grades and will be attending a very reputable college.Failure works!!!! Pestering, bribing and punishment doesn't. At least not for my kid.