What do I do if I have bad friends?
I'm a freshman in high school and I've been friends with the same group of people ever since I moved into this town which has been about 3 years. They've been my "clique" you could call it, for a really long time. However, I've noticed that the aren't really good friends, and it took me this long to realize it. They're never here when I need help or support, but when they need it, I'm always there for them. They come to me when they need something but when I need something they leave. Also their mothers are really rude. For example, when I desperately needed a ride home, friend 1's mom was too lazy to drive me and when she did, she said straight to my face "I will not drop you home ever again, this is the only time I'm doing this, do not ask again." This was very rude of her to say, and even she knows it. Plus, friend 1 always has a problem with everything I do and makes fun of me for everything and criticizes me a lot. Friend 2 also has a mom that called my mom and screamed at her because I asked her for a ride and said some very rude and insulting things that I should not write here. That same friend only wants to be around when I'm happy, but hides away when I'm upset or in need of help. However both these friends come to me all the time when they need something and I'm always there, which I hate about myself but I'm too nice to do what they do to me. Unfortunately, these "friends" are the ones I'm closest to and they're part of my huge clique that I've been in for a while now, so I can't just leave. I have 2 other friends that are good to me that are in this group. But I can't just leave friend 1 and 2 because I've been close to them for so long now and I see them most out of all my other friends. I'm not good at making new friends, and none of the other cliques want me or talk to me. I'm stuck and I don't know what to do.
Am i bad friend?
i'm 21 and i never had a friend but i do now but i do now and i keep messing things up. i ghosted her but we made up then i called her a hoe and now i told her that we can be friends for 2 more years. I know this all makes me sound like a bad person but im not i have really bad trust issues and horrible self esteem that im too focused on trying to erase myself from the world.
How would I know if I am a bad friend?
If your friend ask a pair of jeans and you give him the brand new one, you are a bad friend.If you go out for a meal and you propose to pay the bill, you are a bad friend.Your friend comes to you and ask lets go, you say 'where?' You are a bad friend.You both like the same girl and you say i'll back down, you are a bad friend.Your friend pulls a prank on you, and you get upset instead of plotting a revenge then you are a bad friend.Your friend asks his crush's no. and you didn't give him the the grumpiest lecturer's no. then you are a bad friend.Your friends plan to break into girls hostel and you say you need to prapare for test tomorrow, you are a bad friend.Your friend is working on a project and you decide to help instead of munching snacks infront of him, you are a bad friend.Your friend calls you at 3AM to tell you he has decided to bunk the morning class and you say you understand, you are a bad friend.Your friend got 100+ upvotes on quora and you don't ask for a treat, you have a heavy, dark, twisted, evil soul. P.S. If somebody says 'Let's do drugs' then stare him like crazy, say you're vegetarian and move on. Say No to Shit.
What do I do if all my friends are bad friends and I am too?
Well this is a situation, your all bad friends, if you and your friends are bad then you all are, you need to search some videos about friendship and which people are your friends, TRUE FRIENDS, and watching that video you also realize your mistakes and try to make it better, if you feel your friends are truly bad, just think about your ideal best friend and try to find a real one that’s your ideal type, talk to her asked her/him out then be friends and tell your bad friends the reason you don’t want them.I myself didn’t had any friends until I met a girl in my class and liked her so I went out with her and talked to her and asked her out until we became best friends and it’s 3 years since we became friends. So I’ll give some tips about true friend(note:I found these from the internet):1- they should try to listen to you, some friends don’t bother listening to there friends and expect there own friends to listen.2-they shouldn’t be clingy, some friends want to have your time all to themselves and cling on to you3-They always talk about how there other friends are better than you, some people want to challenge you with someone else by making you jealous and talk about how there way better than you.4-they don’t initiate meetings, some times you want to meet up with your friends and you go the place of the meeting but they’re not there and yet there going out with someone else, just take a step back and see how long it takes for them to make the first move.5-they always blame you, like acting as if your wrong all the timeI hope it helped.Sara
I'm a bad friend, how do I make it right?
I had this friend. And she was the greatest, and she meant the world to me. She's gone through a lot in her life and really all I wanted to do was help her, make her feel good about herself, since she doesn't seem to. Because I love her like I would love a sister. But...I messed up, badly. She recently became best friends with this girl, named Ashley. And naturally I'm very, very jealous. Which is probably my prime reason for disliking her, but she's also very rude and selfish. And I'm not sure if it was just me at the time, but it seemed like she liked to rub the new friendship in my face whatever chance she got. Which hurt and angered me all at once. And I would try to get my friend to see this, and I'm sure she did. I wanted my friend to do more about it. I wanted her to drop this Ashley as a friend, But they were becoming ever so close, and the more forceful I became, the more tensions came between us. And this upsetted me, but I felt like if I didn't force things to go my way then I'd be alone in the end. I have a serious fear of being alone, So I'd bug her to hang out with me, to talk to me, to do something that might revive our friendship in some almost-impossible miraculous way. Until one day. I mean, I already said mean things that hurt her and stuff. But this one day, I pushed it by getting a friend of mine, and we....did damage. At the time, it felt right. I felt like my friend deserved every last bit of it for drifting from me, and hurting me so much. And besides, I had told myself, she did bad things to you too. But I know when I'm wrong, and I started realizing what I had done literally the next day. I can't help it sometimes. I'd feel so evil and mean and do things that I know I'll regret and yet I still do them. It's really not how I am but it happens. Now, I have no idea where we stand. I doubt we're friends right now. She deleted me on Facebook, she got her number changed (but that part I doubt was my doing) and the last time I texted her....it didn't go so well. But I don't want her to hate me. Even though she should, and has all rights to, I don't want her to hate me. I want her to know I'm sorry. How do I do that??
Phasing out a bad friend?
I'm thinking about doing the slow phase out with one friend in particular. To spare you the long story, she is just a toxic, negative person who thrives on my misery instead of my happiness. How do I do that when we're used to talking quite often? She e-mails all the time, texts me all the time, etc. I know the obvious answer is to just not respond, but with a "phase-out", you do at some point have to respond with something. What sort of excuses do you say? I'm just curious what other people's experiences are. I normally have not ended friendships unless they naturally end on their own....but she makes me feel bad about myself and I know that I don't want her around in the end.
I have a crush on my friend's crush. What do I do?
That's a difficult one. I don't have experience of having liked the same guy as any of my close friends. Even their boyfriends/husbands, although are absolutely lovely, wouldn't be my type."Bad friend" - I wouldn't be too hard on yourself, it's not as if you set out to develop feelings for your friend's crush.This all comes down to your character. Personally, if I were to find myself in your situation, I firstly wouldn't get involved with the guy before telling my best friend, otherwise it makes the situation ten times worse, especially if she finds out through someone else. If you do tell her, there's a risk she may not take it well, and therefore, if you choose him over her, the discomfort, awkwardness & jealousy of seeing you together, may end your friendship.I'm guessing I'm a lot older, so right now, if there was a choice between a guy and my best friend, there's no doubt that my best friend would come first. I love her too much, and she's always been there for me. Without sounding cynical, guys can come and go (although hoping that's not the case with my boyfriend!), but great friends last a lifetime. Life's a bitch sometimes though, forsaking your own happiness is an extremely hard thing to do. It's only natural for us to think of ourselves first.I read the comment made by Shara Yana on one of the answers, in reference to her own experience of choosing the guy over her best friend, her words below made me feel for her:"I miss her. I can't recreate that relationship with her with anyone else no matter how close I am with them now. I have great friends who have mutual likes and dislikes but she is irreplaceable. There is no other person like her. I told her very recently in a whatsapp conversation to forgive me but she responded blandly. I repent my past actions"That is something you should ponder on. The decision is yours alone, my only advice is to not start something behind her back. If you really can't control your feelings, then be honest with her first. Good luck,Abi
I've no friends. Does that mean I am a bad person?
Nope, that means I am a bad person.’Cause I too have none.Well, jokes apart, don't put things that way.Rather, put it clear.Okay, let's accept that you and I have something that doesn't get along with friendship. It might be a flaw in our characters. In my case, I can ensure it is my anger, ego and weirdness that keeps them away.So, first, take some time to introspect.Think out your flaws. No one is going to do this for you firstly because no one will be so brutally honest as only you can be with yourself and secondly because no one but you knows you that well.Then, ponder over the flaws. Why do they reside in you? There must be a reason. For me, these features, no matter how harmful when it comes to personal relations, are my armours that help me strive against all odds, that I'll refrain from explaining in detail, assuming that would be irrelevant here.So, mull it over. Do the flaws help you in some way? Are they necessary, regarding the situations you face everyday?If the answer is positive, then,even if you have to stay alone throughout your life, don't give them up.But, if the answer is negative, then maybe it's the time you seriously considered reshuffling who you are. That's the only way to mend your personal relations, if it really bothers you.Now, you talked about having a best friend, not friends in general.A couple of factors affect the best friendship. You can't force it, much like you can't force love. It happens when it is destined to. You need a high level of understanding and trust, which are far more important than love.Not having a bff doesn't mean you are a bad person, but it means you are somewhat rare and hence phenomenal!Stay like that, man!Very few people out there will be there to accept you as who you are. But, when someone does, they never leave. You withstand the storms and torrents together.So, be yourself. Don't cause harm to anybody and stay cheerful.And, they say books are man's best friends. Wanna try?Stay positive!ß®=^=