What Do I Do My Christmas Always Gets Ruined

My mom said i ruined christmas?

My mom andi went to my sisters and it was just us for a week but when we went my mom said I don't need presents but my sister does ? My mom always gives my older sister things. I'm 15 and let me mind you whwn my sister was my age she skipped school and was bad and I am homechooled but I just started and I get good grades! I try hard but when I wss 14 I told my mom I cut myself and also I said I was gay but I guess I judt wanted attention but I think I kind of am ....anyway our life sucks my mom hasntt had a job in a few years and we lived with my sister for a year in her tiny apartment with her kid and bf . We also stayed with my moms bf for awhile and now were staying with my moms ex. My life has been hard and my mom drinks quite a bit and tells me I'm worthless and things. I try to keep going but I've been suicidal and I hate living with my mom . Xmas I dint talk because I felt like no one listened to me but iruined xmas I quess. I want to get a job for money and time away...

My mom said i ruined christmas?

My mom andi went to my sisters and it was just us for a week but when we went my mom said I don't need presents but my sister does ? My mom always gives my older sister things. I'm 15 and let me mind you whwn my sister was my age she skipped school and was bad and I am homechooled but I just started and I get good grades! I try hard but when I wss 14 I told my mom I cut myself and also I said I was gay but I guess I judt wanted attention but I think I kind of am ....anyway our life sucks my mom hasntt had a job in a few years and we lived with my sister for a year in her tiny apartment with her kid and bf . We also stayed with my moms bf for awhile and now were staying with my moms ex. My life has been hard and my mom drinks quite a bit and tells me I'm worthless and things. I try to keep going but I've been suicidal and I hate living with my mom . Xmas I dint talk because I felt like no one listened to me but iruined xmas I quess. I want to get a job for money and time away...

I ruined my moms christmas. what can i do to make it up to her?

First off, she shouldn't yell at you like that. She should have told you what it was or brought it with her so you wouldn't look.

And to answer your question, I think you should thoroughly explain to her that there was no way of you knowing what was inside the notebook because she hasn't even said anything about it. You could also add how you were just curious. Now, if she's still mad you could lie a little bit to make things sound better. You could say "but once I looked and realized what it was, I swear I closed it and put it back where I found it. I didn't want to know anyway"

If that's the truth, then bravo. If it's not, try not to give anything away. If it's too late for that lie, don't even try it.

After that, you could say how much your mother's generous thoughts mean to you and you really didn't mean to 'ruin' her Christmas, then tell her that everybody could still have a really fun time on Christmas and that this shouldn't really damage the holiday spirit.

If she's still worked up, buy her a really cool gift (be it a diamond necklace or a new iPhone or whatever) but that's only if all else fails. If all else does fail and you don't have a lot of money to spend on her, you could get her fake jewelery that looks like the real thing (snowflake earrings from target, for example) You could also make her a really nice gift from the heart :)

Hope I helped, and merry Christmas! :)

Sister ruined christmas?

I agree with other answers that there is something else going on. If this kind of behavior is new, there is a serious problem in her life. It could be a health problem, she may be using drugs or alcohol (or having a mental reaction to a prescription), someone may have died that you don't know about, her husband may be having an affair, one of her kids on drugs, who the heck knows? If your relationship was good before, give her a pass for a good long time. Someone doesn't change so radically for no reason. there will be other ruined Christmases someday, so don't get too wrapped up in the bad timing.

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PS I hope you read this. You cannot change your sister, so the only thing you can do is respond to her different (learn not to escalate her, if applicable, and also there are tricks like "fogging" that I am no good at and still trying to learn. you have to figure out which might work for you) google fogging communication and that will give you some websites that will have other useful advice.

You will have to accept that you don't have a perfect family and will not have a Christmas the way you want it to be. I come from a family full of abuse and it is a minefield dealing with it and my therapist finds it unbelievable that I can even do it (it is a very bad situation there). You might have to limit contact with your sister, if you can't find a way to deal with her. A therapist can role play with you, or your husband can practice with you if he is good at that stuff. Make sure he is your ally in this, which I'm sure he's frustrated and distressed over it too. It is so hard to disengage feelings and use the communication tricks. keep in mind you are the little sister, and anything you say is likely to be at least partly discounted by other siblings as a result. Sometimes you can be the perfect communicator, and it still doesn't work.

My Sister ruined christmas?

My family members were at my house for christmas and we were having a pretty decent time until we got to the part when we were opening our presents.

When about half of the presents were opened, My Sister gave me a present in which that i was hoping that it was fallout 4.

And this is the part where everything gets ruined for me.

I opened up the present and I saw that my Sister got me just cause 3 instead.

It was at that very moment, That i reached my boiling point.

I then yelled at my Sister saying that I never ******* wanted just cause 3 and told her go back to gamestop and trade it in for fallout.

After I said that,
My Sister said that She worked very hard to get the game and that I should be Thankful for what She got me.

And so I opened up the case, Took the game out and snapped it in half.

By the time we were arguing,
My Dad had already had dinner ready on the table.

So I ran up to the dinner table and then flipped it over and started to throw food at my Sister.

I then told her that she ruined christmas and i told her to get the **** out.

After my outburst, everyone in my Family were shocked and they all walked out the door (including my Sister, But not before pushing me) with my Mom walking up to me and muttering,

"I m very disappointed in You"

And then walking out.

After everyone had left,
My Dad then yelled at me to go to my room for what I have done and he then grounded me for 3 months.

As soon as I went into my room, i slammed the door shut and punched a hole in the wall.

Why is everyone in my family blaming it on me?
This is not my fault at all, It was my entirely Sister s.

If it wasn t for her getting me just cause 3 over fallout 4.

This wouldn t have happened and my christmas wouldn t have been ruined like it is now.

Maybe if I didn t have a Family all together.

After I do enough chores around my house to get ungrounded, I m going to sell my remaining christmas presents my Family bought me and use my christmas money in order to get fallout 4 myself.

Is your Family like this as well?

Have I ruined Christmas for myself and my parents?

I've just accidentally saw what my parents got me for christmas. A PS3. Now I feel really guilty, because my family is going to be disappointed if I don't seem surprised on christmas morning. Even if I act surprised, I still feel as if I have ruined christmas for myself because I really wanted to be surprised and happy.

Can anyone give me any advice that will help me feel better about this?

Thanks. Merry Christmas!
not for me anymore :(