My sister's step-daughter is the most ungrateful kid I know, should I still get her extravagant gifts?
I know this sounds incredibly petty and I hate to even be thinking it, but it bothers me - and my husband - over how ungrateful my sister's step-daughter can be. My sister's step-daughter just turned thirteen in June. For her birthday my husband and I bought her an iPod. Her response was "why didn't you get the 8g one instead of the 4g one - the better one was only about $50 more". My husband was just like WTF and wanted to leave their house. I was mad that she would say something like that. We always go out of our way to make sure she feels wanted and part of the family. If you buy her something she asks why you didn't get her two, or why you got it in white she wanted red, etc. It's hard to explain and I feel like she's just a kid and it shouldn't matter, but it does. My sister has been married for about three years now. I could understand her behavior when they were first married, her bilogical mother is a horrible person. She talks down to her and only calls her when it's her birthday (the mothers - not my sisters step-daughter) and asks why she didn't get anything from her. I don't know if we should just get her something "cheap" (like a $20 giftcard or something). I'm also not sure if we should talk to her and tell her why she's not getting a "good" gift this year - or again. I've talked to her about the way she acts when she gets a gift from someone, and her response is always "if I don't like it - I'm not going to pretend to like it". Suggestions on what I should do? Am I in the wrong for not giving a gift I know she'd like just because she's ungrateful? It's a torn situation for me. I hate how she's so rude about it, but she's also still a kid. Thank you! I propably should mention that my husband and I are the ONLY ones in the family who treat my sister's step-daughter as family. My siblings and I were put into foster care as children, and other than my sister, I don't see anyone else much
Ho to handle an ungrateful sister-in law? Her Friend bailed out of?
now we all know why the friend bailed out. lets just hope that it was the hormones that made her say it. how about this one, i went to a baby shower where the mother to be made audible rude comments about gifts. lets just say that was the last time i went to any gatherings done by her and for her child. i would be standoffish if i knew someone was ungrateful. i wouldn't go out of my way to be nice.
Help My grandma was very ungrateful about the Christmas present we got her?
my grandma is a sweet lady, but she can be very negative she wanted this kitchen aid thing in a year now and said oh I love to have that we'll my dad her two sons, my dad sister and my mom all chipped in when she got it for an early Christmas Oh in a rude worse was her response I was like what a ***** my parents and aunt and uncles went through that hard work and saved up, and she chooses to be ungrateful little jerk I wanted to call her out for it. My mom was pissed at her and so was my dad's brother, I mean I honestly wanted to call the women out, most of the time, but she chooses to act like a B word now, and my grandpa didn't even say anything that pissed me off more. What should I do my dad you can tell is hurt? And I said next time Idc, who they are who does it, I will call them out. Is that fair? What should I or my family do? And does anyone have a similar story if so please share It was a small early christmas thing We do with my cousins every year.
How do I deal with a sister that doesn't respond to non-violence, is arrogant, bitchy and disrespectful?
Ignore her. If she’s being all the things you describe her as, there’s no need to deal with her beyond what is deemed necessary in a family setting (e.g. your mother demands you to “get along” during family dinners). If you are having a spat of the century, then remove yourself from the equation entirely for both your sakes and for the sake of those around you. It’ll calm her down. It will calm you down. Win-win for the both of you (I’ll admit I’ve been petty enough to refuse driving sister dearest anywhere too when our fights get too rough, but that’s another story).Other than that, get your priorities in order. She’s your sister. She’s not obliged to treat you with any kind of reverence. She doesn’t owe you anything. I get the same way with mine. Sometimes she is arrogant and disrespectful. Sometimes I am too. Perhaps you should think about what you’re bringing into this relationship.
How do I deal with sister in law who hates me?
Always only an insecure person behaves in a mean and irrational manner.If your sister in-law is one of them, you need to feel sorry for her. Since you can notice her mean and cheap behavior, you are definitely in a better position. If you know she is back biting you can't swoop down to the same level once you know it's not the done thing.It's not always tit for tat. Smile off her insults, better still laugh at yourself. Take away her weapons to hurt you. Let her back bite to her heart's content, respond only to her and let her know very firmly when she trespasses to your territory.Don't encourage people who carry tales to you. Tell them in no uncertain terms that we shouldn't talk behind a person's back. People who volley don't have a stand. They may carry back tales from you.If you have heard and it hurts you go face to face and without anger confront that person. Remember you should not involve your spouse you should just stand on your feet and without raising your voice give it back!
Is my sister being dramatic.?
My sister stopped trying in school when she entered 9th grade, before she dropped out to go to some girl school she didn't complete there either so she came home and pretty much partied until she turned 18, anyway she left yesterday with a backpack and a small bag to go to some older friends house where she's basically being used to babysit their child (no pay).. She told me parents "Oh you don't love me" "You make my life so hard" "Im so depressed" when i know damn-well she had everything she needed and more, we all do, and to me she's being an ungrateful brat <---(Not me speaking xD) whenever she needed 50-100 dollars to go out she'd steal it or beg my mum (my mum can be a pushover) and since i get payed to babysit and i have money she has to take it from me a lot. She still owes me 145$ which i know i won't ever get back :/.. My parents sat her down and tried to help her with planning the future and she left the room my mum said "You need to start planning your future" her response was "I don't want too!" She stops talking to us til she need's something. I don't want to cut her off from us or anything, we were pretty close.. Ya'll got anything? :3 Ty~
Why does my sister masturbate so much?
Me and my sister, who is four years older than me share a room with bunk beds. A lot of times when I am in here, she will come in, climb in her bed, and start masturbating to porn on her computer. She doesn't really try to hide, and I'm scared to tell her to stop, because I know that she would react badly to it, and try to hide it less. She even comes in loudly to go to bed at about 2 in the morning every night, which wakes me up. She usually begins masturbating AGAIN, not even trying to hide it because she thinks that everyone is asleep. I have never heard of anyone else having this problem. It's not fair that I have to live with her. She is disgusting and rude, and refuses to clean anything up in our room, which drives me crazy because I am a total neat freak. My parents never make her do ANYTHING, and if she ever gets in trouble, she just drives off and has fun with her friends, then comes back to our parents not even remembering that she was in trouble. She always steals all my makeup, and I have no way to get more, because my mom won't buy me any more, and I hardly ever am allowed to go out with friends. She also steals my money, and hides my wallet regularly whenever I do get a chance to go shopping so that all my stuff if limited to the cheapest I can get. Whenever I confront my parents about this treatment of me, my dad yells at me for being ungrateful, and my mom either yells at me, or feeds me some crap about how "she is jealous of you, so she feels she is making up for it by putting you down. Take it as a complement" WHY AM I STUCK LIVING LIKE THIS. All of my friends and everyone else at my school has nicer parents, siblings, and lives. What is wrong with mine?
How can I politely deal with spoiled sister in law?
I've always tried to be on good terms with her, but it's like she does whatever she can to distance my brother (her husband) from me. She never thanked me for the very expensive wedding gifts I got, she stopped replying to my email and texts as if she's mad at me, in person she barely says hi to me but what hurts is now my brother acts the same as if she's told him I've done something which I am clueless about. I tried to be nice on New Years but she gave a fake smile and only engaged in brief fake talk then left the room as if I am beneath her to associate with. I texted her this morning asking how she's feeling because she was supposedly feeling sick and left early but she didn't respond! I feel hurt and want to know what I can do to repair things when I don't know why she hates me to begin with. It's thanks to me she's with my brother because he didn't give her the time of day and I talked him into giving her a chance (she's fat and spoiled type and not his type at least not before). Now she acts ungrateful and ignores me! What can I do?
Why does my sister-in-law ignore me?
Obviously, she doesn’t like you and is being passive-aggressive. Greet her pleasantly and then ignore her. Instead of asking her if she would like a cup of tea or a coffee or whatever, say to all assembled, “Who would like a cup of tea or coffee?” If she doesn’t respond, that’s her tough luck. In other words, address the group and leave it to her to decide whether she wants to be part of the group or invisible to you. Do not let her know that her passive-aggression bothers you in the least. When she leaves, smile broadly and say, “Thanks for visiting!” It will irritate the hell out of her to be ignored.