How do I deal with my brother, who never changed his bad attitude? He made a trouble then ran away and let us solve it. He got married twice and had kids, but he didn't take care of them. He liked to owe money from anyone and asked us to pay it.
Hello! I could relate to your situation with mine. I have brother who is 9 years older than me . He has been in various rehabs in and out but never admit that he is addicted to alcohol. He behave very differently whenever he gets drunk.He divorced once and going through tough relationship with current wife. He had a great life and great job but got laid off two years back. That makes him getting more excuses to get drunk. They have 3 years old son with current wife and I don’t know how to convince him to stop drinking. His wife is going through a tough situation and lashes out her angers and frustrations to us. My family is trying to support him as much as they could offer. But he still unhappy and refuse to have proper conversation with me. He is culpable for the damages that he has done .I made up my mind to help him as much as I could until he gets his stable life and job. After that I shall confront him for what he has done .
In the United States, can a younger brother adopt an older brother and support him as a child in his family?
In general, yes. Any adult can theoretically adopt any other adult. There may be some jurisdictions that don’t allow it, but I can’t think of any offhand.There doesn’t really seem to be a good reason for it. If the younger brother wants the older brother to inherit his estate, that can just be written in the younger brother’s will. If the older brother is disabled and unable to care for himself, the younger brother can petition the local social service agencies and/or the courts to be named legal guardian of the older brother.The questioner’s profile suggests he lives in Serbia. If the younger brother lives in the US and the questioner is the older brother living in Serbia, then perhaps the older brother wants to be declared the “child” of the younger brother to get a family visa to enter the US. That would be an international adoption and a whole different set of rules apply. It is unlikely that the adoption decree would be honored/allowed by US Immigration. They have a notoriously bad attitude toward folks trying to get around the rules.If that was the point of the question, you could consult an immigration attorney, but I suspect you would only spend some money and get nothing but life bonus points for creativity.Good luck.
Why are older brothers so rude and mean?
i have to say my older brother is the rudest, most dis-respectful, and meanest person i know, well to me.. hes so nice to everyone but gives my mom, dad and me attitude and treats us like were crap. He always gets mad when i dont pay for something he wants even though he has money but wants to "save it". hes 18 and im only 16. no one ever seen him mean to me cause he acts like he cares at school then out of school when no ones around hes a total douche. im always trying to be nice and considerate to him but he doesnt care. i always buy him lunch but he never pays me back and when i tell him that he owes me, he hisses and complains and just is a total ugh idk >:/ are all older brothers this way? he always says hes like that cause of brother sister love but hell he doesnt care about how i feel. hes greedy and selfish.
My 30 year old older brother is immature and it's really getting on my nerves?
I'm a 22 year old girl and I have an older brother (almost 30) who is driving me crazy. He is very emotionally detached from our family and does not think when it comes to other people's feelings. He is also very immature for his age - he has not moved out of the house, even though he has a condo that my mom pushed him to get in order to get his life rolling. The job that is currently has was kindly given to him by a stranger that he ran into - he doesn't see the need to send this women cards or keep in contact with her. In fact, my mom keeps in contact with her b/c she feels bad. The list goes on. These days, I feel as though I've developed quite a temper. I never used to be this way, but sometimes I can't help but be a little snappy to him. I'm religious and I know that praying is something that I should do, but how do I deal with him? Going out to dinner as a family (all four of us), is very awkward b/c he doesn't talk to us. We've made an effort to explain how important family is but he just doesn't get it. I feel as though he takes complete advantage of my mom and dad and by now, he should be trying to act like a 30 year old man. I'm 23, completed university and currently in grad school. I have high ambitions for myself. He doesn't want to work very hard for much. He also does even care to ask what I'm doing in school. I don't think it crosses his mind..... How do you DEAL WITH THIS??
How can I “train” my older brother to have more respect for me or for others or generally just behaving respectfully (yes he has an attitude problem) using operant conditioning or other behavioral psychology methods?
It’s hard to train people who don’t want to learn and I imagine would be even harder with an older sibling.To use operant conditioning you’d have to observe him treating someone with respect and reward him for it. Since he’s human it won’t be as simple as tossing him a food pellet, alas. Children respond well to praise, but an older brother? If you can think of a good reward I say go for it. There will be a fine line between a reward and something that annoys a disrespectful brother.It’s a worthy goal to convince him that things go better for him when he treats people well. You could try something I used to do with my young children. When provoked you don’t get mad but say something like, I’m not going to talk to you until you use your nice voice. My kids never whined because I’d say, I can’t hear your whine voice. You’d have to figure out a way to adapt this for your older brother.Let’s say he snatches a video game controller out of your hand. Say, I would have just handed it to you if you’d asked nicely.Good luck to you!
How do I motivate my brother to work hard (change his attitude towards life)?
HiI was in second year of my college. My daily routine was to watch TV all day and texting with my friends at night. I never took the college classes seriously. At the end of the year exams were conducted and when the results came I was doomed.Shit happened. I got failed. My parents were very upset. I was sad and had no clue what to do next. I went to my friend’s place and found a book called Effective Life Management by Swami Amartyanand. I read the complete book and followed the magic formula SDM religiously.SDM stands for Satsang, Discipline, and Meditation.Satsang- To be in the company of good people. You are average of five people you spend your time with. For example, if five of your friends smoke then it is very likely that you will end up as a smoker.Personally, I stopped watching TV and avoided the people who discouraged me.Discipline- We all make plans. We follow them for some days and then we leave them. The book suggests follow any schedule for 21 days. After that it will become super easy to follow the time-table.Meditation- or watching the thoughts. Watch your thoughts daily with eyes closed and backbone held straight.I followed SDM for six months. After that I gave my exams and cleared it with distinction.Please watch this video for more detailed answer.Thanks.
I wish my brother would die, is that bad?
It's not even my fault. I'm 14 and he's 10. He is a disgusting jerk, all he does is act like a total bi*ch to me. He gives me attitude if I tell him to do his homework and he talks back to me, trying to act like he's witty and clever when he's not. He thinks that he is all that and that he is superior to me. It's not like I treat him like garbage, it's the other way around. I try to help him with his homework and all he does is yell at me and say that I'm a horrible teacher. He also punches or kicks me for NO REASON. His has a SUPER short temper and thinks that the world revolves around him. Sometimes I ask him to do a small favor for me like to get something for me and he stomps away and yells "I always do everything for you, you're so lazy you suck!" when in fact I sacrifice so much for him. He doesn't appreciate anything I do for him and takes everything for granted. I think he is a disgusting pig, and sometimes i really wish he would die. He always blames everything on me and I get in trouble for "being a bad older sister". He also isn't the smartest, he is book smart but has NO COMMON SENSE WHATSOEVER. So sometimes, I get really annoyed because he can't understand how to do the SIMPLEST things and yell at him, and he starts sassing and hits me. Please help me, what should I do?! I am sick and tired of him!!
How come everytime I get my brother back i feel bad later?
Im 14 and my older brother is 17 and he is probably the worst person on earth. He is mean, abusive, evil, and sadistic. Today I decided to get him back but im starting to feel bad about it now. Tomorrow he has to go to court(or somewhere im not sure where) cause earlier this week he got into a fight with this other kid and the kids parents are pressing charges(i think) and because he made me mad today I decided to take his car keys and hide them out in the garage so that tomorrow he wont be able to go. Now he hasn't found out they are missing yet but im starting to feel bad for hiding them......i mean REALLY bad, to make things worse I cant really remember where exactly I put them. My friend earlier told me not to feel bad because he deserved it but I do feel terrible. Now since you people are probably better in the mind im gonna ask you if you think this was serious or not and should i feel bad? Btw its not just this time everytime I try to get him back I always feel bad.
My brother attacked me today?
It is normal for siblings to disagree and yell and fight... but not like this. I think you and your family should seek professional help for this. It sounds like your brother could have anger management issues. As for what you did, I think you did the right thing. You were protecting yourself and your sister. I cant think of anything you could have done to stop him other then fight back. However you should also be aware of your actions. When adrenaline kicks in and you are in danger, it can be hard to control yourself. Be carful not to do something you regret. Good Luck, hope this helps