How do you find out if a guy is single without directly asking him??
Seriously though, just ask him. If you're not comfortable like that, maybe you can drop him a not-so-subtle pickup line (remember, us guys are thick when it comes to picking up on subtle hints) Like "So, how does your girlfriend allow you to run around like this all day?"
I am really slow at understanding motives behind other people's actions. How can I improve that?
First of all, I suppose it might actually be because you’re not aware of the charms or charisma you have. Some people just have this ‘aura’ that naturally draws people to them, but the people themselves are not aware of it. Since you mentioned that it has happened to you before, you probably have it. If you want to confirm if you have this charisma, the easiest way is to ask your friends. I’m not even kidding, just go up to them and be like, “What do you think of me?” Or something like that.You also have to be aware that the way the girls treat you, is not the normal way that they treat other guys. For this, you just have to observe their interactions with any other guy that they’re not particularly interested in and compare it with how they interact with you. After this, you should then be able to differentiate a girl’s behaviour towards you, whether they’re trying to intentionally grab your attention or not. If you suspect that a girl likes you and is trying to get your attention, try to confirm it ASAP before they run out of patience, but don’t confront them about it, you might turn out to be wrong and the girls will end up thinking you’re an arrogant airhead.Sometimes, this kind of thing also has to do with logic. Let’s say the girl bakes you cookies to get your attention. Do you think she will bake cookies for every single other guy in your class? The answer is no, Sherlock. (unless it turns out that she does)Also, you have to understand what about yourself that attracts girls. It could be your looks, your grades, your personality, anything. Once you have that down, you will begin to understand what type of girl you will more likely draw in and have an easier time handling them in general.Well, I know you asked a very vague question about how to improve your awareness of other people’s motives in general, but I answered it specifically to the examples you raised so I hope you still find this helpful :D
What's the best way to invite yourself to someone else's house?
Just be like "Hey, you wanna hang at your crib this weekend?" or "Hey, is it okay if I come over and chill at your house tomorrow?" Anything along those lines. Just simply ask if it is all right for you to come over. You could even try something like this "Hey, I am getting frustrated at my house, do you mind if I come over to your place to get away?"
How do you tell someone you have a girlfriend?
Hello brother,Warm Greetings !!Do you feel awkward with the feeling that they have a crush on you? If so, then first of all it shouldn't make you feel awkward to say that you have a girlfriend. Just tell the ladies “I am really sorry lady, I am a one woman man and I am committed to someone”. It’s as simple as that. Moreover, if they say that they have a crush on you , you know what to reply, It won’t be awkward because at the end you are being at least true to yourself and your relation.
How can you know if someone considers you as a best friend?
(I’ve started blogging on the heirachy of friendships — there’s a link (first one) on my profile. Your question has inspired me to create a blog entry for “organizational charts.” (smile)If you are someone’s Best Friend, they have chosen you as someone to be close to, share secrets, ‘approve of each others’ dates,’ etc. Most people will tell you (directly or indirectly) if they consider you a Best Friend. They might mention it to someone else in conversation, “She’s my Best Friend….” or she might just say, “Did you know you are my Best Friend?”, “Of course I would, what’s a Best Friend for?”, etc.The same applies when you choose a Best Friend. The person (above) may or may not be YOUR Best Friend because you have to choose among all your friends.If you agree to be Best Friends to each other (I think they call it BFF) — that’s always fun. I’ve known my “BFF” for over 50 years.Now, just a note… you will probably have several Best Friends over the next decades. Some of the friendships I have now are with people who were my, ‘Best Friend in (city/state),” or “Best Friend in High School,” or “Best Friend in College,” etc. Mine BFF & I were in 2nd grade together.As you get older and go through life’s ups and downs, there is going to be one of your friends (male or female) who will always be in your heart, even if you only think of them occassionally. It’s different than just missing someone or being nostalgic, it’s a “whole body” (warm) reaction.This friend has told you when they thought you were wrong, or that you needed to change your attitude, or didn’t like all your boyfriends (but you never listened). You’’ll remember their birthday out of the blue (even if you usually don’t), or you’ll get a phone call, or a memory. (No, it’s not something you can ‘plan.’)As you grow and mature from year-to-year, you will often realize that there’s one person (male or female) sat with you when you cried, gave you a quarter when you had to pay a library fine, or talked your Mom out of buying you an ugly sweater for your birthday.Then, out of nowhere you hear they have moved close to you again and one of you will call the other, and you’ll pick up and start talking as if you’ve only been apart aweek.So, if you wanted to, you could (theoretically) create an organizational chart of best friends, but there is always going to be that one person … who has been your “living guardian angel.”(Not in a religious context; in a human context).
What are the signals that a girl gives if she's interested in a guy? And what are some crucial signals when she's not interested?
All the answers you see are mostly true but not necessarily implementable..But there are few things you can do from your end and let the rest take care by itself:For guys looking for a girl for marriage (Universal):Be good to yourself and to othersBe bold and confidentShow your aggression (not on her) and it won’t matter if you get physical (again, not on her) for as long as you can come out of it alive :)Study her quickly and efficientlyDon’t repeat conversations or habits again and again…spice up your conversation, look/sound active..don’t make a sad dull face/voice often..show your skills like driving, singing, playing instruments..Don’t bring MONEY topic out..forgot your wallet at home? don’t hesitate in asking her money…don’t bring your EGO out of your pocket, if she is spending for you then let her do that.If she is good to you all the time, there’s something wrong. If she is making fun of you or calling you out names or trying to be serious with you: she is taking you seriously, and that’s a good thing.Show that you are an alpha male: physically/mentally strong, good at resolving conflicts, not hesitant in talking openly and boldly even if it happens to be her personal matters (but keep tab of your limits at the same time)don’t try to impress her with fancy expensive gifts because she is already impressed given that you have followed the first 10 points properly.don’t show your desperation, keep your libido under control. A man with good self control is a man she is looking for.For guys looking for a girl for one-night-stand:You are not rich: you need to look good, charming and have personality. So, you must be blessed with good genes.You must be rich: doesn’t matter if you are good looking or not.For guys looking for a girl for marriage in INDIA:The first 12 points + Horoscope match + Age match + Good Height + not over-weight (depends) + Qualification (mostly advanced degrees) + Decent Salary + good family background + decent property + good looking (depending on how good looking the girl is)[BONUS POINTS: Don’t smoke / drink: Smoking not only makes you look older and uglier but also fks up your brain (you’ll become moody or get frustrated easily). If you are a smoker, quit now.]Summary: Indian marriages are bl**dy complicated and frustrating. From marriage point-of-view, You’ll be cussing yourself for being born as a Middle/upper Middle class Hindu.
Why do some people never get a hint? It's like a subtle hint goes over their heads.
“Why do some people never get a hint? It's like a subtle hint goes over their heads.”A2A:Various reasons.Some of us do not accept hints. I am one such person. If you decide you are going to vaguely dance around whatever concerns you, and not say anything directly, I have no interest in trying to guess what you have in mind. Hopefully, what you are hinting at, is that you want me to go away. Because that is my solution to all hinting behavior.Oh, one other thing, a long time ago, and right up until recently, I have had experiences where I realized AFTER the fact, that someone was giving me “hints” about various things. For example, girls (when I was young enough to be called a boy) who actually LIKED me, and wanted me to pay attention to them, would exhibit various “hint” behaviors. To me, their behaviors meant next to nothing, so I went about my life being polite to them at all times, and often being just plain confused. After they gave up, some of them would become angry with me, and I would eventually learn from a mutual friend that they were convinced I was purposely snubbing them, and so they would have nothing more to do with me.By which time, of course, it was too late for me to get the “hints.”My personal philosophy: if whatever it is isn’t important enough to you for you to communicate it clearly and politely, your dissatisfaction with the results of YOUR FAILURE to express yourself understandably, are all YOUR problem.