Why do I always attract men that treat me badly and upset me?
Here's the reason why men who are arrogant and obnoxious are attracted to you: its because you're shy and quiet. Guys who are with a girl who is low key leaves them more vulnerable because the guy has the demand and is more dominant, so basically whatever he wants, goes. Also, quiet girls tend to have an easy going personality, so that doesn't exactly help this situation either. The fact that you're a nice person is great, but sometimes being too nice is a bad thing. (Say if a guy hurt your feelings, and he said "i'm sorry, i know i should'nt have done that, i regret it, i'll never do it again") You easily accepting his apology shows him that its easy to get away with anything with just the right words. So basically, he knows what he would have to do in any certain point to make you do what he wants. Once he gets bored or not interested(because everything is going how hes planning) he moves on with no hard feelings, not caring about the girl. (I hope this is making sense haha) To stop it, just be more confident and firmly tell your man what you expect of him and being real is all you ask of him. No matter what, you're always going to attract all types of men, but its up to you to decide who's the douche and who's not.
When you are attracting the wrong sort of people into your life, there is personal work to be done. You know your background, you know your triggers. What do these experiences have in common? You can research this on your own. You can turn to friends to help work through your issues. (However, if your friends have issues, you may just be adding more dysfunction to your choice patterns. eg. your seductress friend that you don't wish to emulate). Journaling can be valuable in identifying recurrent patterns. Generally, the shortcut to figuring these sorts of issues out will be a bit of therapy. You'll learn new and effective thought patterns. You'll learn to frame your issues in ways that are solvable. You'll gain insight from a trained and experienced professional. After all, this is your first time trying to fix this, they are seeing this sort of problem with all kinds of people. Here is an interesting video to get you started. Someone Please Tell Me How To Stop Dating The Same Awful Men This wikihow could be a way to start the introspection you want to doHow to Attract Better Men
There are probably multiple factors at work.Among men who show interest in you, jerks and egotists are much easier to see and remember because they approach you assertively and don’t take no for an answer, or they have a shit-fit when you turn them down. In contrast, a shy but nice guy may approach you so subtly that you miss the signs. Especially if you are accustomed to men who are very direct.You are pretty. This causes more guys to approach you and the guys know that. Brashness and obnoxious behavior may be partly because they feel competitive for your attention (even when another guy is not immediately in sight).You are responding positively (perhaps unconsciously) to their behavior. That might be by simply continuing the conversation. I.e., Suppose an obnoxious guy asks you out on Tuesday. You say, “Sorry I am busy.” (By which you mean “Sorry, I am busy Tuesday and always.”) I can more or less guarantee he isn’t done and will continue to hound you. The courteous response was enough to encourage him to keep going. If you really want to shed this loser, you have to go gray rock. That means make your exterior like a gray rock. Speak in a monotone and act completely uninterested in the conversation. Otherwise, this type of guy interprets your engagement in the conversation as interest in him.You are sitting back and waiting for guys to approach you, thus you are encountering a random collection of guys. Unsurprisingly, a random collection contains a lot of bad apples. If you take more control, you will get better results. This doesn’t mean you need to do the pursuing. Take control by consciously putting yourself in social situations where the decent guys are. I.e., avoid the frat party renowned for its drunken bro’s and instead attend the party with guys who are pursuing their future, rather than drinking until they vomit.Hope that helps.
FILIPINO GIRLS: Would you date a guy who was a "Douchebag"?
You know there are douchebags in the Philippines too. I have this female friend who I really like. Were close friends, she can talk to me about anything. She's currently going out with the usual big muscular asshole. I really wanna steal her.. In the Philippines, like any other country, you can see douchebags with good-looking women all the time. In the streets, in the mall. You can tell they're douchebags from their physical appearance (Slim, wearing "Jejemon" caps tilted at an angle, sleave-less shirts, usually a cigarette on the hand that's not holding his girlfriend's hand..).. Also, every night at street corners in some of the poor-lower average neighborhoods (Like where I currently live) you'll usually see a group of guys drinking; usually shirtless with a bottle on one hand, a smoke on the other. Some of those guys are douchebags and some of them are married and have kids..
What kind of education do you think newspaper horoscope writers need?
...... Sigh.......... chainlightning - what was that, seriously? Well now astrology must be evil and wrong, if people get frantic over horoscopes that astrologers NEVER have said, or will say, are true? And I agree, Richard Dawkins is rather a dweeb... not only that, he is obviously a psychologically disturbed and hateful man, and you would do wise not to quote him or listen to what he says. To liken the swarm of poor people who become frightened of the horoscope as 'pathetic' is childish to say the least - they obviously have debilitating psychological problems. These problems do not have anything to do with the validity of true astrology - you cannot cast something aside just because people take it the wrong way. If that were the case, every field in the world would be useless purely because of the ignorance of the half-educated idiots who so often teach their subjects. Dawkins is a hate-mongerer, and is very misinformed on pretty much all matters he discusses. He lives his life in a struggle with religion and spirituality because it frightens him, he does not understand it. He is one of the most ignorant people I have ever seen gain fame for 'intellectualism' - surely even most atheists think he is a joke. He makes them look stupid, and true atheism doesn't have to be stupid, or fearful. Anyway... I have no idea how they get that position in a newspaper. I really hate them though, their comments are so blah and they give astrology a bad name. I also hate those ridiculous pictures they often put up of themselves. And the stupid names they give themselves. All in all I think most, if not all of them, are first-class idiots. I'd be interested to find out where the hell they crawled out from.
What is it you get out of being a racist?
Ever since joining this website last week, I have seen more racism than I ever have in my entire life. I just want to ask the racists of all races, what do you gain from hating someone else simply because of their color? I see so many people wasting so much time on negative things. Instead of sitting around all day thinking about why you hate these people or those people, why wouldn't you go out and do something productive. Plant a tree, save and animal or question the government :) Also on a side note for black ladies and white men, I am a white woman who has been dating the same black man for 2 years. Why is it a lot of times, when I go around my boyfriend's friends, they are all so nice to me, then as soon as I leave, he gets the "Why are you with that white girl?" He gets made fun of a lot for it. The white men do the same thing to me. "Why can't you find a nice white guy?" I have dated people of all races. Not my fault I happened to fall in love with someone who is black. Why is this so hard to accept?
Can anyone give me more information about the law of attraction book called "The Secret"?
It's pretty funny actually...my wife always had a horrible drive home from work. Everyone seemed to be driving too slow, cutting her off, and generally "driving like idiots". I kept telling her to look at our beautiful son sitting in the backseat and be happy for the wonderful things in life. She wouldn't do it, saying that it was impossible to be "happy" with all these idiots on the road! She saw "The Secret" on the Oprah Winfrey show and insisted that we buy it (the DVD). The secret has changed our lives. The basic idea is that you change your way of thinking. Focus on all of the wonderful and positive things in life. Focus on your hopes and dreams...and they'll come true. It's a very simple idea. Positivity breeds positivity. It's a great freedom once you realize that you have the ability within yourself to change your perceptions, and alter your reality!!