Was my boss being inappropriate?
We all ordered lunch together yesterday. I ordered a personal sized pizza, about 10 inches. My boss saw what I had and said "wow thats a lot. If I was you, Id be embarrassed". Keep in mind that I am five months pregnant. I laughed it off. A few days prior, I was snacking on a cupcake while I told her that I had a doctors appointment coming up. To this she said "oh so he can tell you you're eating too many cupcakes?". I laughed at this too even though I was offended because my doctor told me that I wasn't gaining enough and, in fact, lost 10 lbs. He told me I should eat what I can and not worry about the carbs or fat, just focus on eating enough. I told her that and she laughed like she didnt believe me. I am not sure how to feel, I don't know why she is acting this way when she knows that I am pregnant. What should I do?
Is my boss being inappropriate?
My boss treats me like one of his daughters. He has called me cute, patted me on the head, decorated my arm with stickers to celebrate a "job well done" in addition to giving me "bonuses" in the form of candy, and most recently asked about my dating status. He only does these things when everyone else in the office has gone home, so it's not like he's embarrassing me in front of my coworkers, but it still makes me uncomfortable. One of my coworkers is barely older than I am and she doesn't get any of this treatment, I asked! Should I bring this to HR, or am I supposed to suck it up and somehow earn his "grown-up" respect?
What can I do about my inappropriate boss?
I have documented everything. This man is a senior manager, and his manager is related to me so even though I have made a complaint to them they can not get involved as it would be a conflict of interest. I have also complained to our HR department, which consists of one co-worker and he said he'd follow up on it (two months ago) and he has yet to do anything. I know because we are a fairly small office, and I am essentially the backbone of the organization having quite possibly the most institutional knowledge regarding our organization. There is very little that happens in this office that I do not know about, and most everyone likes/favors/supports me. I love my job, the things I do, the majority of the people I work with. This place is a golden opportunity if not for the one bad apple.
How do I deal with a colleague who thinks I'm inappropriately looking at her cleavage?
More background for the question: I hope you can help! I'm in a job I love, with a fantastic team and really see a long future here. I do have an issue (?) with one particular colleague however, which I do not feel comfortable bringing up in the workplace, due to sheer awkwardness. The colleague in question is actually my manager - we are of a similar age (mid 20s) and I have great respect for her and feel I get on with her well. However, during our interactions, I've noticed that she will often cover up her blouse, or close her sweater, as though I am looking at her cleavage. My first thought when I noticed this was one of embarrassment, but after monitoring this situation in recent weeks, I always keep good eye contact and never look elsewhere whilst talking. For the record, I am a gay man in a very committed relationship and have no desires for this individual or anyone else for that matter, so this offends me somewhat. At the same time, I would hate to be unconciously making someone feel uncomfortable and wonder is there something about me that is doing so? I've never encountered a situation like this and have always maintained good relationships with coworkers, male and female alike.
My boss is inappropriate with my girlfriend, what should I do?
Sho_Nuf - I really honestly do not feel like her and my boss have anything going on like that. There's only maybe two people over her, and that's her direct boss, George, and my Father who is George's boss. My boss has been with this company for over 17 years. They'll never get rid of her or reprimand her. That's why we're both hesitant to say anything.
A co-worker reported me for behaving inappropriately in the office, causing her to feel uncomfortable. I like her, but she never once acted uncomfortable when I was around her at her cubicle. Should I try and talk to her in private?
It might be better to have that conversation with your manager. Instead of broaching the subject in that way, it might be better to mention to your manager that you’re unclear how your behavior was inappropriate and ask if your manager can explain it to you so you are sure not to offend the co-worker again.With such a co-worker who will likely report you for other things imagined or not, I would also start submitting my resume elsewhere.Many would agree things are getting a bit ticklish with cultural integration. So, if this somehow relates, many have learned it’s better to not speak or look at those who take offense to a multitude of things for things we are oblivious too. When they ask you to do something as in delegating authority, since you cannot do anything but agree without offending them, it’s better to direct them for manager’s approval. This way the offense if minimized. Granted, if the manager doesn’t grant approval, they’ll still be offended, but at least the manager is in on it now and can suffer along with everyone else…Best to you with that. Personally, I’d be updating my resume right now…
Guy at work keeps making inappropriate comments?
At my new job,apparently my boss told all the other employees that I used to be a stripper. I'm trying to keep the past behind me, but it's hard with all of them, 2 guys in particular, making rude inappropriate comments about my past. I've talked to my boss about it, and she said that it's all my imagination. She also claims that she did not tell them about my previous "work" experience. So how else would they all know what I used to do, and how can I get those two assholes to stop acting like ignorant dumbasses.
How do you deal with having an inappropriate crush on your boss?
Do away with it as much as you can. There are far too many risks outweighing any possible reward. Here are some practical steps to take:Be accountable with someone trustworthy and ask them to help you get rid of your inappropriate emotions. If you are married, or in a relationship, be accountable with your spouse or partner. This will help in preventing you from acting on your emotions.Avoid being alone in a room or car with your boss. If it cannot be avoided, either you bring someone else along, or keep the door of the room open.Stop ogling. Look at something else instead when tempted to stare.If it gets too difficult to handle, seek to be transferred, or even employed somewhere else. That way, if your boss no longer has any direct influence on your career (and you are both single), then you will be free to pursue your intentions with your (ex)boss.
What do i do if my boss asks me inappropriate questions at work?
so here's the situation. i just started work as a hostess at a local question, and since i'm new to the job, the manager has been helping me out a lot. he's a good guy, but he says certain things that i feel uncomfortable about, even though i can tell from his tone of voice that he doesn't mean them in a sexual light. for example, when i walked in today, he said, "don't *you* look sexy," to which i didn't really know how to respond. most of the time, my hands are entirely full and the restaurant is a chaotic mess so he helps me with that, but sometimes during the few breaks we get, he asks me questions about things, many of which have felt really inappropriate to be answering. for example, he asked me if i smoked pot, and he's a chill guy so i felt comfortable saying "sometimes, but don't worry, i would never, ever, come here stoned," which he was of course fine with, but nonetheless, i still wasn't sure whether i should really be divulging that kind of information with my boss. it happened again today, when i told him that i studied classical singing. he asked me if there were any prohibitions, and i told him that often you weren't supposed to have dairy before you sang, and to tease me, he asked what about blowjobs. i told him that those were fine, and from the series of questions he then asked, i guess i implied that i had given blowjobs before or whatever. which is true, and which i don't *really* care if he knows, but i don't know... this is my first job, and it's not that i feel that he's coming onto me, it's just that i'm not sure whether this kind of personally-explicit relationship is appropriate to have with a boss, even if he's a cool guy. i'm not sure how to handle this. i would greatly appreciate some help!!
Whom do you approach with your organizational issues if your HR person, himself, is the issue creator?
Little more details about the issues would have been better, nevertheless, ‘ll try to take a dig at it.Please understand your HR is also an employee of the organisation just like you. If you have an issue with your HR, you can:-Contact your manager and ask her/him on how to go about it, depending upon the culture you have in your organisation.-Contact HRs’ skip level manager (Boss’s boss), only after consulting your manager and his boss.-lastly, if your organisation has a flat hierarchy, write/approach the leadership, but make sure the ‘issues’ you mentioned here are genuine and not just baseless allegations.Thanks!