I don't know how to dance, and I feel stupid doing so. Is that a problem?
Don't feel bad. Lots of guys have this problem. But it's really easy to solve! Here's how! 1. Get any girl who you know, and who can "dance" (most girls can) to help you at 2. Your home, or her home, or anywhere the 2 of you can be alone. 3. Have a music source there, and let her show you how to move your feet, your legs, your butt, and you upper body to the music. Don't even worry about "dance steps", and all that formal, boring stuff. Just use your creativity, and move your body to the rythym of the music. 4. Keep doing that with her for about 2 hours (taking a rest now and then). By that time you are going lo like the feel of it, and you will realize that your whole body is moving sooooo good to the music. In fact, by then you won't want to stop, and will want to keep doing this some more. 5. So it wouldn't hurt to do it again the next day. 6. Now you are ready to go to a "dance". Your confidence will be high, and you will feel very comfortable with your body and its movements. 7. You will never, ever stand in the corner with your arms folded again. Good luck!
Scared to dance in front of people...?
Okay so I LOVE dancing and usually do it in front of the mirror to practice so I know how I look when I'm doing it.. And everyone that I dance in front of says I am a natural dancer but I am scared of dancing in front of my friends like at school dances and stuff..[oh and if you havn't figured it out yet I'm talkin about hip-hop and dirty dancing] Anyways.. I'm scared of dancing at dances because I don't have a mirror in front of me to look at and see how I look when im dancing.. So anyways... What do you guys think I should do?
If you don't know how to dance, does it mean you are less confident? Is it only people who lacks confidence afraid to dance or can't dance?
That’s a good question.I lack confidence in leading as a dancer, but am very confident in my following abilities as a dancer, if that makes sense.I have always been too self-conscious to dance well by myself, but it turns out, (maybe not surprisingly) I am a particularly good follower of someone else’s lead. At this point I can follow great dancers, good dancers and not-so-good dancers equally well.The benefit of dancing with great dance leaders is it feels like I am flying and is an utterly surreal ecstatic experience.The benefit of dancing with good dance leaders is it’s really fun, we can laugh and be silly, or serious, anything goes and great social connections are made.The benefit of dancing with not-so-good dance leaders is it’s a new challenge each time, and every time I dance with them I become an even better follower, which makes me more appealing as a follower for the good and great dancer leaders I have the most fun dancing with.But being a great follower gets a little old because it’s a very dependent position to be in. It means I don’t control any of the dance, and am completely at the mercy of the leader I am dancing with to call the shots.So my next goal is I want to move myself from being a not-so-good overall dancer, to a good overall dancer.Therefore I am signing myself up for more hip-hop type, solo dancing classes, Zumba classes, and Jazzercise as a start, to begin the process of getting past my paralyzing self-consciousness and inhibitions when I try to dance by myself.And when I go out ballroom, Latin or swing dancing, I now try to come early enough for the pre-dance lesson, where I join the leader’s side instead of the follower’s side for the lesson.It’s been brain-stretching but worth it. I am still a not-so-good dance leader, but I feel confident that I have it in me to become equally great at both following and leading, whether I am dancing by myself or with a partner.Only then do I think I will I feel confident and comfortable enough to call myself a good or even great dancer.
My dancer teacher was soo mean to me. now i dont know if i should keep dancing. i feel like a bad dancer!?
i am 14. and i have been dancing at this new place. ive just started this year. but ive danced somewhere else for 4 years before this.i think im quite an ok dancer. . today at ballet. i had the worst lesson ever! the teacher was so so mean to me. she basically yelled at me throughout the whole entire lesson! telling me im basically doing everything wrong! when there were like.. 2 girls who had NO IDEA on what they were doing. i kept trying to dance but she'd keep yelling at me and such, so i lost focus and started doing it wrong. she screamed and growled me. my eyes were filled with tears but i tryed to blink them away throughout the whole lesson! when class finished i walked straight out.and basicaly burst into tears. she made me feel like i was such a horrible and bad dancer.. and i will never forget this. dancing is so imp to me.i do ballet, jazz and tap. and my jazz and tap teacher is really really nice! and would never do something like that. she is also in this ballet dance. and she was there. and just kept looking at me. i have jazz again in 3 days. i dont want to go. i feel as though i never want to dance again! but i do. its really weird. no way am i going to go talk to either of them or anything. i want to miss this lesson and i want my nice teacher to know that i was really upset and sad. how do i let her know that. like.. should i leave her a note on bebo. but a quite sad one or what? please help me and what should i do?!
Why do some people hate dancing while others enjoy/love it?
I can tell you why I hate it. (I enjoy watching it; hate doing it.)1. I'm an introvert. As much as possible, I avoid socializing with strangers, and most dancing involves that to some extent. True, one can dance at home, and occasionally I enjoy doing that--just by myself or with my wife--but the idea of a dance club or a big party with dancing is horrible to me.I've also noticed that people who like dancing can be aggressive about it. They think people like me need to be dragged onto the dance floor, and they feel as if they've won points if they bully me into dancing. Or they think I secretly want to dance by am too shy to start. In any case, there's social pressure, and I don't like it. 2. Nowadays, most people dance to music I don't like. I'm a fan of classical, Jazz, and a small amount of aging Rock (e.g. The Beatles). People dance to all that stuff, but not often. I have never been a fan of the music that my peers have danced to, e.g. Disco and later Hip Hop. 3. I am clumsy and uncoordinated. I don't feel free or sexy when I dance. I feel like a mess.4. I don't generally enjoy drinking. You don't have to drink and dance, but the two activities tend to go together.
Where do you look when doing a partner dance e.g. salsa, bachata?
My advice, for traditional social dancing:Relax your neck. Your eyes will look forward, horizontally (level) in the same direction as your toes. Do not tilt your head down or up, or sideways. Do not twist your neck left or right. Do not swivel your neck from side to side, like windshield wipers.None of this needs to be said to someone whose natural posture has not been compromised by dance instructors.If you are following, you can close your eyes.When you twist your neck awkwardly, it destroys your posture, and puts harmful force on your partner’s spine, hips, knees, and ankles.And in a turning dance it will make you sick.
NO OFFENSE!! But why do most white people look so goofy when dancing to Hip-Hop music?
I have been looking at So You Think You Can Dance show and everytime the white competitors do a hip-hop dance they always look so goofy. Don't get me wrong, some of them can dance really good,(better than me), but why the funny looks?