What do you hate the most about life?
For me, i hate how busy everything has to be, there is so much to do so that life can 'improve' e.g. studying for more knowledge, working for more money, and if i stop and relax i know in the back of my mind that i could be 'improving' life with this time so there seems to be a constant rush with no choice as if there is no more true freedom no relaxing or reflection on the beauty of life but one destination of gradual improvement. what are your thoughts on this?
What do you do when you hate your life?
First of all, congrats on finishing college. Most people dont make it to their college goals so good for you. I'm 29 and I've been fighting depression since I was 15, everything you described is very familiar. Nowadays when I start feeling depressed or sorry for myself about all the ways my life didnt turn out like I wanted, I start thinking about those who actually have a right to complain. People who have witnessed a loved one die before their eyes, rape victims, people fighting for their lives in hospitals, people who will never walk again, etc. You probably have a damn good life and dont even realize it because you're selfishly engrossed in all the things you dont have. If you want friends, go on craigslist and post under platonic relationships. There's a TON of people out there just looking for friends or someone to talk to. Look for groups on yahoo under whatever topic interests you. It may seem like nothing will ever change and this is how life will be but you're WRONG. You have your entire life ahead of you, things will drastically change in the coming years believe me. Your life hasn't even begun yet, don't give up!
Which people do you hate the most in your life?
Like everyone else I too have some people whom I hate. They are.The braggers- These kind of people are hated by almost everyone. They brag about each and everything even though they do not deserve it. I feel when people start bragging about themselves when they are begging for attention. Good qualities of a person seek the attention of anyone but it does take time. Bragging sometimes is fine but always talking about yourself is really irritating.The backbitchers- They have a sepearte place in hell. These backbitchers seem to be your friends and then they start bitching about your bad qualities. In our school there was this girl who was pretty infamous for this reason. Girls used to say “If you met this girl on the road and say hi to this girl the very next moment as your back turns she will start bitching about you. I mean these people don’t have any other work than gossiping about other peopleThe backstabbers- In case of backbitchers you at least know the person who is like this. But a backstabber disguises like your best friend and leak all your secrets. I too have been decieved twice in school by a group of school friends who later made my least known secrets spread like a wildfire. The third time it was luckily not me but my college friends who were decieved by someone who not exactly backstabbed them but was Friends with Benefit with us.So these are three kinds of people I personally hate. Maybe all of us hate these kinds of people… A sad world we live in :(
Is there someone you hate the most in your life? Why?
Up until recently, about the last year and a half or so, it was me. I hated myself. A lot.You see, I was bullied for being overweight and smart and different. But, I'm a cisgendered white male and that's not possible. Yes, it is possible. You see, overweight is seen as weakness. Smart is seen as threat. Different is because I have ADHD. Undiagnosed until I was in my 30s lead to impulsive behaviors and lack of focus.I am smart, but I was called lazy. I can outwork many physically and literally broke my body to prove I wasn't lazy. I have bone spurs and pinched nerves, torn muscles and broken bones, and many ailments most get in their geriatric years. I was a boilermaker and I was determined to work harder and longer than anyone. I got hurt a lot. Not accidents, just overworking my younger body to make up for laziness accusations.See, I hated myself enough to hurt myself to prove to others I wasn't lazy. That's self-loathing.I heard how terrible I was from teachers, students, peers, family, and saw the dissappiontment in my mom and dad's eyes. They never beat me or told me I was worthless. They were so supportive superficially. But, body language doesn't lie. I was smart. I knew I was a mystery to them.I really did internalize all of that criticism. I knew what I should do, but couldn't do it. I treated romantic partners like fools for being with a piece of crap like me. I sought out people that were as broken as I felt to have sympathy for me. That backfired. I allowed myseld to treat people and be treated like crap.I entered therapy several times. Then, a magic thing happened, I was diagnosed ADD. With treatment and medicine I found out how to be better equipped at life. It's helped me face my demons and admit my shortcomings. I also learned healthy ways to cope and released my anger from years of abuse from my peers and teachers. I absolutely hated myself. I absolutely believed I deserved the abuse. I didn't. So, I don't hate anyone anymore. Not even myself.I hope anyone reading realizes that there is help and you shouldn't hate yourself.