19, Two Babies Under Two, What do i do ? advice ?
I’m going on 19 with a 5 month old. I’m currently working full time, in school Part Time to get my nurse aide certificate, and getting into my new apartment soon. I just found out I’m pregnant but I haven’t scheduled an appointment because I’m sure I’m only about 3 or 4 weeks now. I’m wondering if there is anyone out there with the same experience? Any advice ?
What advice would you give to your 18-year-old self?
Don’t move in with him!… Too late, you did it when you were 17.Don’t compromise your education for him. If he was worth it, you wouldn’t have to. So turn around, go to UT, and study biochemistry like you’ve always intended.DO NOT GET A LOAN IN YOUR NAME FOR HIM. I guarantee he’ll miss the first payment! Same thing when you buy him a car in your name. He’ll miss that first payment, too.Stay away from pot heads. They’re just going to be bored all the time and want you to be bored with them. Stay busy, keep your mind sharp, and save your money.Be nice to your little sister. Mom will play into it, choose her side, and pit you against each other. Don’t fall for it. Just be nice, and be the better person.You’re hot. There’s nothing wrong with showing some skin. You’re always covered up to your neck! Once you have kids, you’re going to wish you had a picture of teenage you in a bikini. It doesn’t make you trashy.You don’t have to marry the first person you sleep with (*GASP!*). Figure out what you like so you don’t miss out in life. Go against everything you were taught, otherwise you will have regrets later.SAY NO TO CREDIT CARDS. That “food” card Dad said will help your credit? Yeah right. He’ll miss payments and then hand you a card with an excessive balance at 28% interest that day you graduate college at 21. Super cool to start life in the red. Thanks Pops!You’re not better than anyone. You’re an 18 elitist-wannabe.Chill. Stop being angry. Keep active. Work on being beautiful inside and out. Everything your parents taught you is wrong.
I can't get a girlfriend. Anyone have any advice. ?
I can't get a girlfriend. I'm so depressed. First off, I don't like going to clubs or bars to meet women, so I don't even know any casual places to meet new women. Secondly all the girls I've ever wanted don't want me, and all the girls that want me, I'm not really interested in. The women I find attractive don't seem to find me attractive, they think I'm too short and skinny. I'm only 5'7 and weigh 135 lbs. I'm not looking for love, I just want a companion that I'm attracted to physically and mentally. Ugh, I feel pathetic on here asking this question. I used to be really confident, because I used to be able to get almost any woman I wanted, when I weighed 155 and was lifting weights. But I screwed up a good relationship, and lost all my muscle, and none of the women I find attractive find me attractive. It's so depressing being short, I think I wouldn't mind being short if I was back up to 155 or 160 and had some muscle, but I'm skinny on top of being short, and women find that less attractive than fat men. I don't know what to do, I have a good personality, and an awesome sense of humor, but women seem to like muscly tough guys with a bad attitude, and I'm not muscly or tough, or have a bad attitude, I have a sad attitude right now but it's because I'm so lonely, and women don't like that either. I guess I'll have to settle for someone I'm not attracted to, because it seems that's all I can get. Do I have to really eat 5000 calories a day, and lift weights 3 times a week to attract a woman I like, because my metabolism is so high, I have to eat more food than overweight people eat, just to gain a little bit of weight. here's my picture, you can't really tell how skinny I am in it though. http://s437.photobucket.com/albums/qq95/kctocho/?action=view¤t=k613.jpg
Any advice for a "mature" college student?
First of all good luck! I was a single mother and had to go to college while working at a full time job. It is hard but you can do it. It paid off very well for me. 1. Sometimes you will get very frustrated. If you feel overwhelmed just remind yourself how good it will be at the end. 2. It will be very hard on your kids, but make sure to pay enough attention to them. Remember you are not the only one who is going through a big change. 3. Keep positive attitude. Things always have a way of working out. Especially for those of us who works hard. 4. Don't regret any decision you make. At times you will hesitate. It is normal. 5. Set goals and do your best to accomplish them. even if things change make new plans. 6. Don't give up. Remember everything is for your kids. 7. Take one day at a time. I wish you the best luck :)