What Do You People Think About Me

Should I care about what people think of me?

Caring too much about what others think about you is an extreme just as caring too little. Caring too much limits your freedom and enjoyment, caring too little limits others freedom and enjoyment. .We all live between these two extremes. Both extremes lead to unhappiness. You cannot be a good leader or a good follower at the extremes. I would not want to follow anyone at the extremes, and I would not want anyone on my team with the same problems.The irony of this is that these extremes are caused by the same malady: self centeredness. The difference being one is an extroverted selfish person and the other is an introverted selfish person. It took me a long time to understand this. It is easy to see that the person who always gets theirs first and does not care who gets hurt along the way as selfish. It's all about THEM. But what about those that feel inferior to those around them? They are only thinking about themselves. They are worried about what others think about THEM. They are forever a victim.    You recognize this imbalance in your life and want to correct it. My best advice to you is to experiment. Try something that is outside of your comfort zone. It can be small, like changing the the way you shake someone's hand or look them in the eyes. Observe their reactions. It's okay to do this because it's about the experiment, not about you. Your experiment gives you permission to act in ways contrary to your tendencies. As a bonus you find out what works and what does not. I am just going to flat out tell you what is going on here. Your experiment is really just a ruse to train yourself to be goal oriented instead of self oriented. If you can do this you will be happier, and so will those around you.

How do I change what people think of me?

It all starts with the self.If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change - Dr Wayne DyerThis answer will sound like a cliche “Love yourself before you love others” or “stop caring what others think” but even if you wanted to follow these pieces of advice, how? How do you love yourself? Are there any guidelines to follow? How do you measure your self love? How do you stop caring what people think? Here are a few ideas that I’ve learned by experimenting and being curious.From what I’ve learnt, you cannot please everyone in the world, but you can please yourself (okay that sounds wrong, but if it’s entertaining you I will keep it in this answer). If you’re continually trying to please others in this world of ours, you’ll never find your happiness. The truth is you have to dig deeper within yourself to find this happiness. (Dare I say it, but please yourself first. Take this however you want to, I’m here to spread happiness, so I guess I will achieve my aim either way… back to the task)Start with gratitude. What can you be grateful for right this second? Your eyesight? Your ability to walk? The fact that you have access to clean water, electricity or the opportunity to think about what you’ll eat for dinner next week? We all have so many things to be grateful for, and once we realise this, we stop wanting more than we need.Secondly, stop placing your happiness upon others. You should be the reason you are happy. I think I need to write that again:YOU should be the reason YOU are happy. YES. YOU! (I added the bold writing for your entertainment purposes, did it work? back to the problem…)Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason, you’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you - Deepak ChopraWhen you realise that happiness is a choice determined by you, you will not only stop caring about how others see you, but they will start to value you as you begin to love yourself more and respect who you are.You cannot fill other peoples cups when yours is empty.I hope I’ve helped whoever has stuck along for this answer, and please continue to love yourself.If you liked my piece of writing you can read more of my stuff by clicking here!

Why do I care so much about what people think about me and how do I stop being so paranoid about it?

Been there, regretted that! :PThe problem is not that you are afraid of criticism,the problem is that you want to be appreciated.More you depend on their praise, more you shrink away from criticism.Don't let your sense of self be based on their appreciation.I have read it somewhere:"Praise is like honey dipped razor,it might be sweet but it certainly creates split in you".      Don't be in a hurry to change, Its not a problem mere a misunderstanding ! Be honest and embrace yourself. Maybe there are some parts of you that you don't acknowledge (Even i am not there yet !I am just learning).The "people" you are talking about are also like us. The more you understand yourself, the better you understand them.      Start maintaining a diary where you can release your paranoia,it surely helps.       The level of attention we give to other's opinions is a direct reflection of attention we give to our own opinions. Write your own opinions for a month and then read it at the end of month. You'll be surprised how quickly your opinions changed about people/place.This will give you an understanding of how fleeting and silly opinions are. Once you see you won't be scared of opinions, neither yours nor theirs.         To love yourself is to laugh at yourself - Mickey Mouse ( I am sorry for this but i love mickey mouse) :P If they laugh at you,you too laugh with them(the best way of dissolving an enemy is by joining their league). :PGood god! I am turning into motivational speaker. Ugh! :|