If someone says, "You're thick" does that mean they're calling you fat?
I remember back in my Junior year in highschool when I was about 16-17 I had a smaller frame than what I do now. I am currently 19 and people are saying I'm "thick." I feel like the person who is telling me this about my looks is saying I am fat. Then, the person tells me I'm not fat. There are times I would want to be smaller than what I am now. Now, I have hips, etc. I used to weigh about 125, now I weigh 135. I don't know what to think or do. Should I take the "thick" term as a compliment or insult? I'm so paranoid about it I am going to get a rec. center card to go workout, and try to lose those 10 lbs. Please help.
How do you deal with someone who always thinks they are better than you or cooler?
I don't know anything about you but Just maybe You could use some help? I don't know any of the details your age or the background of the people involved. I do know there have been a few young men I have known that would have greatly benefited by someone with Kind and caring thoughts to encourage them to dress appropriately for work have some manners and speak with words that are understood clearly by others (instead of mumbling under their breath) and use some mouthwash. Unfortunately, no one did. They are well educated in their late 30s and alone. Sometimes a little help socially is not a bad thing.
What should you say when someone thinks highly of you and say that "bhai nahi batana to jhoot mat bol"?
Honestly I never lead myself to that situation.When you suggest, advice or say something ensure you are as comprehensive as you can be or at least demonstrate an effort that you are making an attempt to keep it as comprehensive as possible. Then that expression should never arise, as you are trying to help honestly.What it take to make it comprehensive:A. Articulate - what is the need, and why you are attempting suggest/advice or sayB. Ask - Ask more to understand the situation betterC. Analyze - Place all the possibilities openly and analyze so your analysis process is also transparentD. Arrive - Arrive at a best fit state of suggestion which both of you agree. Good luck :)!
If someone says to you that you are mad, then what should one do to react?
I believe there are 3 ways to react when someone says to you anything.Hear the comment but do not listen to it. It means do not allow it to penetrate into you. It means do not allow your mind to think about the comment. It means you were walking on a lane before the comment was made and you still continue to walk on the same path. You heard the comment but at the same time you stayed on your path. You gave no importance and also no sort of control to the comment as well as the speaker.2. React to the comment in a good and positive way backed by a smile or a friendly body language. It means your behavior to the comment as well as to the speaker does not vary because of the ill nature remark passed. It means you are applying your mind to the comment at the same time you are employing stability in the way you conduct your behavior in that particular situation. In this case the mind experiences less damage because of the stability provided which helps to be in control whilst reacting.3. Thirdly, if both the above ways of dealing with a remark is not you, if you don’t connect well to the above ways of reacting then you should speak what you feel and speak well and clear to the person. If you choose to speak make sure you express yourself clearly. Do not speak just to talk. Talk sense. Talk with authority. Don’t hold back. Go all in. Teach the person a lesson. Do not indulge in physical contact. Words are far more powerful if chosen and spoken correctly.I hope it helps!
What if a person thinks that you hate them? what do u do?
Apparently you've probably gave this person a reason to feel that way (no offense, because the person who thinks you hate them probably have issues)..............So just run up to him or her, givem a hug, and say "I love you!" After that, tell them: "I don't know why you think I hate you, but I don't, so whatever made you feel this way can you please think positive & get that negative thought out of your head." Okay, only say this if you're really being sincere about not hating this person.
How do you respond to someone who says "you're cute"?
How do I personally respond? With a humble, "Why, thank you!" Now, if you were to ask me how do I feel when someone says to me, "You're cute", I would have a be a little more authentic, and say that sometimes, I think it is socially inappropriate to reference a 55 year old man as being "cute." In my view, "cute" is for wet puppies, curious kittens, a bear cub, a pair of white patent leather boots (Nancy Sinatra - now she was cute!), etc. I think the age range for cuteness in males falls somewhere between birth and maybe mid-adolescence, anything beyond that, and you're pushing it. But I would still say "Why, Thank you", as a measure of good etiquette.
What do you do/say when someone you care about calls you a liar when you are telling the truth?
Pause!Yes, pause..Let me tell you a story first.Once upon a time ( yes seriously, that is how this starts ;) ), there used to be a kid name Rahul.Rahul was a prankster and everyday he used to play the same prank of climbing up a tree and screaming like there is no tomorrow and say the exact same thing.“ There is a tiger around, please save me else i will die! “Every. Fucking. Time.This is how it went.Instance 1: All the villagers used to run for his help with all their handmade weapons, axes and utensils ( whatever they could get their hands on) to save their child as soon as they heard his scream for help.Instance 5: The numbers reduced as now almost everyone knew this is a prank and no one used to believe his call for helpInstance 12: Only a handful used to come ( mostly his family and close friends who still believed that this time he might really need help)After a few days, Rahul was just roaming around the garden when out of nothingness a tiger came. In real!He ran for his life and screamed and screamed for help. Everyone could hear him but no one listened or paid any heed to it. Because even if he speaketh the truth this time, everyone else thought he is bluffing.HE DIED…Now coming back to your question. If someone you care about doesn’t believe you even when you are saying the truth, you pause. Take a long pause and backtrack all those times and instances which led to this day. Ask yourself these questions.Why does he/she thinks i am lying?Did i lie to him before?Do i keep things from him which i shouldn’t?What changes can i make to get back to what we were before?I am sure an amalgamation of the above will give you your answer. Works for me every time!
What should I say when someone says "whats up?" to me?
Neurotypicals have a variety of social protocols that are non-rational (i.e. not irrational, but not rational, either -- just there). This is one of them.Most people who say this (or equivalents, like "How's it going?") don't want a true, non-terse answer. They simply want to fulfill the "mutual acknowledgement protocol."As such, any neutral and short response is acceptable. "Not much. How 'bout you?" "Great day. Hope you're having one too." "Enjoying the weather." "Looking forward to the weekend." Or anything along those lines.I generally vary it up, sometimes coming up with a date-specific response in advance. Otherwise you risk appearing unfriendly due to a disingenuous/unoriginal/stock response.
How do you respond when someone says you are stupid, or that you cannot learn/understand something?
Did you get a chance to read the book "I am ok, you are ok"? If not, do read it. It gives you the correct information about how to handle this and similar 'insults'.Based on what I remember, I would say: "You could be right." This is a 'fogging' statement. They will most likely not have an answer or a comeback for this, as you are simply agreeing with them.In reality, almost all of us are 'village idiots' in front of, say Newton or Einstein, or even compared to other bright people in many fields. So, we should have no issue in 'agreeing in principle' to what the person says. Then tell them, 'Yes, not understanding is the first step to understanding'. If it is worthwhile to pick up the topic, make the effort later. Otherwise, forget what such people said.Not harboring bad feelings about such people or what they said is the best thing to do. This will allow you to not get disturbed, keep your peace of mind and go ahead. Remember this, as you may not be able to get (physically) away from such people, who often are among the family or colleagues and unavoidable.
When someone says they're fat, how do you reply?
If they were legitimately fat (not just someone fishing for self-assurance), I would ask them "what makes you say that?" Or something like "are you feeling down about yourself today" or something that is unopinioned and could easily transition into a real discussion of how they feel about their weight and if they plan on doing something about it or if they are just fishing for a "No way! You're not fat". I fully support friends who are trying to make a positive change for themselves, but I cannot stand it when people fish for the "what are you talking about, go ahead and order those fries".