When someone says "let me level with you" what does that mean??
That they are planning on telling you their honest opinion. Generally its the not politically correct statement people throw out or it means they are going to tell you something that might hurt you. Such as "I find your new hair cut revolting!" or other such comments. So hold your chin up and anticipate the blast!
Can you tell me why people hurt others in the name of jealousy and why people feel the emotion jealousy?
Have you heard of this example of drawing two lines and asking a person to make the shorter line longer? A normal person will just take a chalk and lengthen the shorter line, whereas A jealous person will rub the other person’s longer line and make it shorter than his/hers.WHY THEY HURT OTHERS?That is because it’s the only thing jealous people can do. They have invested so much time and efforts in ruining other’s lives that they’ve forgotten that they also had to improve. So, since they haven’t even been in touch with their own self, how are they ever going to know or believe that they can improve instead of getting other people down to their level. And because they have been trying to get someone down for a really long time and that hasn’t been successful, they’re angry on themselves, on the people around them and on so many other entities because they didn’t improve and nor were they successful in getting the other person down.WHY YOU FEEL JEALOUS?It is human nature to be competitive and comparing, but all that matters is with whom you’re competing and comparing with. Intelligent and Smart people know that comparing themselves with others is going to bring them pain because the other person hasn’t lived their story and vice versa. The fools think it’s good that they’re ahead of someone else in the race, not knowing that both of them are running different races and at different levels of difficulty and speeds and purposes.A few reasons for a person to feel jealous include:Too much focus on other’s livesInferiority complexLack of self-beliefSelf-esteem issuesThanks for reading!Samyak Shah
What's the Nastiest thing you can say to someone to hurt their feelings?
Turn the other cheek. Be nice to her, it's not worth your time to try and get even.
Why do people get the wrong impression of me?
sorry more haha, okay i did try talking to my friends about what was going on and it was because they felt like i was throwing it in one of their faces that i had more money than her. i felt terrible and apologized and said that i would think more before i spoke. but she didnt seem to care that i was trying to fix things. and the rest of my friends sided with her. i tried talking again and it just got worse. i apologized and apologized. i stopped talking about certain things and wearing clothes that she felt she couldnt afford, which she told me herself so im not make an assumption about her money issues. she said that me saying the word "blah" made it seem like i didnt care about anything so i stopped saying that too. i felt like she wanted me to change everything about myself for her so i kind of just gave up on it and then she said i didnt even try to fix things or apologize. what.. ?
How do you help someone heal after hurting them very deeply on many different levels even though you didn't/may not have mean(t) to? What do you do/say?
First, be sure you are aware of what you did wrong, why you did it, and how you'd like to change — then put in the work. Unless you have drastically changed your behavior or are working on it, you can't do much.If you're doing that, you can either sit down and explain what you did wrong and that you're sorry and working on better behavior, or write a letter explaining these things.It needs to be genuine and with an intent to change. Apologizing and then hurting someone again will destroy trust and credibility.Keep in mind that even if you do everything right, you apologize, you change, you do everything to be forgiven, it is still up to this person to forgive. You can only do your best, then be patient. I don't know the circumstance, but it may be that the best case scenario is that they forgive you 1 day or in 1 year after your apology, or it may be they never forgive you.You do your part the best you can. And ultimately you should be content with the work you're putting in to be better even if this person can't get over what you did.There's nothing more that any of us can do than try to be our very best.
How do you bring down someone who always tries to bring you down?
I am basing this on your personal experience. If this has to do with work, my response would be a little different.First thing, you cannot allow other people to be the indicator and/or responsible for your emotions and/or for how you feel. I know many times it stems from self esteem but it gets to a point that you have to recognize you are responsible and accountable for how you choose to react and feel in regards to certain situations.You cannot hand over your well being to someone else. I think part of it is the take a good look at what is happening and how this person truly impacts you.Thoughts:Can your feelings be resolved by talking about it to this person. Again if you have the opportunity, it may resolve issues but do not go in with expectations. It is a conversation that may need to happen and you cannot control the outcome. The good thing is at least you may get a chance to express your feelings and views - often that makes you feel better;What you can control is how you react and feel. You can decide that this person is not worth you putting yourself down and choose to just push through and be happy;Are they actually be dropping some truths and you are sad about it and it makes you feel down;This person is just is a walking bag of negativity;Do I need to work on myself some more which we all need to do anyway;Let that “bag” go - do not need that negativity in your life;These are all choices - some more hard than others. We all have people and situations that creeps in our mental state and makes us feel some type of way - it is called being human. The key is to note whatever is happening will end and you will move on.If these feelings extends for long periods of time, you may want to seek professional help.Good Luck !
How do you feel when someone is better than you/smarter than you?
I feel intimidated. I feel stupid. I feel embarrassed. I feel uncomfortable.And this happens to me frequently. I suspect part of the reason for that is that I love to be in the company of people who are smarter than I am.I approached Luis Alvarez to be my supervisor for my Ph.D. work. At the time, it seemed that everyone in the Physics Department at Berkeley considered him to be the smartest person they had ever known. Years later Richard Feynman told me the same thing about him. So most of my time with Alvarez was one of awe and a strong feeling of inferiority. I consoled myself that even if I eventually learned just a little of what he knew, what he could do, it would be an enormously valuable eduction.One day I recall putting my hand to my head and pretending to turn a key. I called it my “ego key” and I had to turn it off in order to keep working with Alvarez. Forget ego; just learn everything I could possibly learn.I recall when I first joined JASON (Alvarez had nominated me) and I found myself working with dozens of people, every day during the summer, all of whom were vastly smarter than I was. They included Freeman Dyson, Dick Garwin, Steve Weinberg, Mal Ruderman, Walter Munk …. I remember the stress that being surrounded by such smart people triggered in me. But I took solace that I was in the most stimulating, learning enviroment that I could imagine. I knew it would be tough, but if I could survive, I would emerge as a much better scientist.I survived. I later learned that it was a member of the Jason group who nominated me for my MacArthur Prize. In my mind, every one of the other Jasons qualified for that prize. I was somewhat awestruck to discover that any other of Jason actually considered me to be smart.This habit of keeping myself surrounded by super smart people continues today. It has not gotten any easier, but it has remained extremely stimulating and a great way to learn at a very deep level.I’ve tried to teach my children (and now my grandchildren) not to avoid discomfort. All adventures are characterized by discomfort. I recall some of mine: being lost in a deep cave, backpacking off trail in snow and sleet with no prospect of shelter for the night, wandering around in Moscow, struggling to find a way to study the Big Bang, facing a steep slope in Squaw Valley, writing a book, being a member of Jason ….
Is it better to respond to someone who is humiliating/insulting you by saying something nice or rude back? I don’t want to seem passive, but I don’t want them to see me angry.
THERE ARE FEW THINGS I FOLLOWED IN MY LIFE AND TRUST ME IT MAKES ME A BETTER PERSON DAY BY DAY :1) If someone insults you, do not insult them back out of the anger, this would be one your weakest self-defense power you will be manifesting to that person.It shows that you take their words seriously and you are ready to fall to their low standard level..2) If the person weighs or holds a little value in your life then try to communicate with them in a humble way to stop this obnoxious behavior else you are not going to be in touch with them.3) In case person is not important to you then ignoring them is the best you can do . For instance , you can change the topic or move out of the room.4) If its done by your so called friends, which is often termed as playful teasing then try adding humor to it.5) Keep your circle a quality one and try avoiding negative people because good people will always support and aid for your over all development.Once you start taking baby steps towards improving your overall personality then remember those who mock you for your weakness are the one who have the fear of being intimidated by you.(what if you converted your weakest point to to your strongest one!)Hence, no one in this world has the right to suppress you.BE CONFIDENT !BE BOLD!AND RISE UP TO TAKE A STAND FOR YOUR SELF NOW!SO , WILL YOU STAND UP FOR YOUR SELF AGAINST THE WORLD?P.S : ( MAKE SURE TO AVOID BEING INSULTED, WE NEED TO STOP INSULTING OTHER PEOPLE TOO!)For getting better insights of the psychology of the people who insult you , I have written a blog on it .Go through the link given below:http://03inspiration.blogspot.co...Hope this will help you!