Why did I do wrong in my back handspring?
I was practicing my back handsprings, and I was doing good, until the last one I did today I really hurt my elbow bad. it's not broken because it only hurts a little now, but when it happened I heard it crack and it hurt a lot. this is a regular thing, I do (round off) back handsprings every day and this usually happens about once a day, should I get this checked out since it happens so much? what did I do wrong in my back handspring that makes my elbow hurt like this?
What could be wrong with my back and how do I fix it?
Quite honestly I know exactly how you feel. My back is terrible as well. Your lower vertebrae are called the Lumbar vertebrae. Continuous stress on them from lifting, walking/running/, even sitting will hurt them and eventually damage them. Your best bet is to go to a doctor. Find out what is wrong. I have heard of a new therapy that actually "vertically cracks" or pulls to return space between vertebrae for cushion...here is the link and good luck! I know it sucks.=0( http://www.southdenverclinic.com/nutrition/
Do you think it's wrong to stay away from your family because you don't want to burden them with your bad choices that lead to a narc partner? I'm going thru a difficult time and I want my family back?
No I don’t think its wrong to stay away from family. At the time you did what you thought was best to keep yourself safe and your family safe. Sometimes those bad choices are what lead you to see that you had a narc partner. I, myself know that I have a somewhat narc husband, I too am staying away from my family but not because I don’t want anyone seeing my bad choices. I stay away because I am aware of the situation that I got myself into and I WILL get myself out of it without my family. I don’t have the best family anyway, as soon as they saw signs of a difficult path in life choices I made, I was pretty much abandoned by them. My husband saw this coming from a mile away meanwhile I was giving them everything I could. Now I’m completely alone, with my husband and son.What I do think is wrong is to think that if you go back to your family, that you think nothing has changed between you and them. Nothing will ever be the same between you and them. Some may forgive you for leaving them, others may pretend to be there, some will walk away from you just like you did. Always be prepared for the worse. Being in a relationship with a narc will give you thicker skin but not to use it with your family because when they hurt you its the worse.My biggest and most sincerest hope is that you have the type of family that will pick you up when your down. And if you don’t, I’m here to listen. Good luck and I hope your difficult times become your strengths.
Do I have something wrong if people talk about me behind my back?
Let me express my opinion on this question that I see and hear from people who are seeking validation and approval from others. I am going to be direct, straight forward and blunt here.I think you do. You are giving these people your time and attention as to what they think or say about you.It is none of your business what others think or say about you. They are all entitled to their opinion of you. Let that be.I suggest that you start focusing on yourself. Not in a selfish way. Not in a self centred way. Not in a self absorbed way.I mean start to focus on what you want from your life.Instead of focusing on “I don’t want people to talk about me behind me”, direct your focus, time and energy towards your goals. Be goal orientated. Set yourself a goal, small to begin with, work towards achieving it daily, weekly and monthly. Be productive with your goal achieving mindset. Write down your goal and it must be “SMART”. Look it up. People who set SMART goals achieve them more than those who don’t use the “smart” goal tool.When you are focused on your goals each day consistently, you shall have a higher quality of life. You shall be soaring leaving those who talk about you behind your back stagnant. They are the ones who have a mediocre life. They are the ones who are never going to fulfill their goals and live a higher quality of life.I recommend this book to you. It’s full of humour at the beginning to set the scene. You must learn to give your “f*cks” to the more important things in your life. You only have a limited amount of “f*cks” to give each day. If you’re giving them away to peolle who don’t matter to you, you’re dragging yourself down, exhausting yourself and you shall burn out. Keep your “fu*cks” for your important things. That’s what matters. That’s what counts. That’s how you live a higher quality of life.Last piece of advice from me is………. laugh, crack a joke, smile, have fun, each day. Allow your inner child to connect with you and bring them out to play each day. This is the best way to let go of what others think or say about you. Nobody looks silly when they are having fun!
How do you deal with people who say wrong things/ bad things about you to others behind your back?
Well, that is a question not many people will respond to the same.You can be the bigger person and ignore it. Take it with a pinch of salt. After all, who are they to judge? Is their opinion of you even true? Does their opinion of you matter? …. the answer should be “let them talk about me… who cares, whilst they talk about me, someone else gets a break".Or….Confront them. Don't get upset about it. Remember the above. Do they have facts? Does their opinion even matter? It shouldn't. They have no right to belittle or judge you or bad mouth you, and if they do, well, it says more about them than it does about you. Some people do it to get a reaction, don't rise to it. Whilst they're stabbing you in the back to person A, they are probably stabbing person A in the back to person B and so on.These sorts of people are, usually, the ones with more flaws than anyone else. They try to drag people down to feel bad about themselves because it's a reflection of them on the inside and they don't want to be alone in it. Be the better person.
Why do people call back wrong numbers?
I dialed a number and realized just after that I had dialed the wrong number. Instead of waiting to tell the person that I had dialed the incorrect number, I hung up after like the 1st ring. Shortly thereafter, the person called ME back wanting to know why I was calling them!! What's up with that? Are people so paranoid that they feel they have to know every single person that called? If I get MULTIPLE wrong numbers from the same line that won't leave a message, I may be inclined to call and inquire, but after one call? Really.
Is it very wrong to meet someone behind your boyfriends back?
I know exactly what you mean because I've been in a very similar situation. No matter how much you love your boyfriend you will always find somebody else who gives you the attention your long term boyfriend no longer gives as much as he used to. It's that attention that makes you think maybe your long term relationship is no longer working, or has lost the spark, but beleive me when the spark goes from this new ''relationship'' with some new guy that comes along you will be glad to be with your boyfriend still. I would suggest not going to a meal with this new guy. No matter how appealing it feels, it might reinforce your feeling towards him, giving you positive reinforcement when you think about him. This could mean that whenever this new guy asks you to meet him, you will think ''yeah! attention! that's what i need because it makes me feel good and so this guy is making me feel good!'', and therefore giving positive reinforcement. You don't want that, because the more positive reinforcement you get from this guy, the more negative you will be towards your long term boyfriend. Instead, I would suggest going for a meal with your boyfriend! Maybe if you start doing new things again, such as going on dates and doing something different it will remind you of how it used to be when you first started being together and he might even start giving you the attention he gave you before. And anyway, you don't want to be a hippocrite, because if your boyfriend finds out you will be the bad one who goes against her own words, and that's a nasty thing to be accused of. If you want to get this new guy out of your system, I suggest just talking on an Instant Messenger for a while, and avoid meeting up with him. After a while, online chatting will get boring and so will he. Trust me, in the long run you will always want to be with your boyfriend, no matter how many ''new guys'' you meet! Hope everything goes ok for you! I'd like you to email me or something some other time to tell me how it all goes! Kat xxx
As an adult looking back on your childhood, what do you think your parents got totally wrong?
Credit Cards. Of course, my mom was ‘right’ at the time. Unfortunately she didn’t know how important knowing how to manage a credit card and the impact that the length credit would affect my credit score. Of course, if I screwed up and charged for stuff I didn’t need, I would have been better off.I believe that you need to train your children to use the tools ‘of the future’ properly. Sheltering them from them will only breed ignorance.If you don’t have one (credit card), get one ASAP. Low limit is ok, no annual fees. Get one with rewards! Cash back, airline miles, something you can/will use. ONLY use the card for true emergencies and day to day expenses. Gas, pay bills, money you have to spend no matter what! NEVER use it to buy things you can’t afford. A shopping spree, or some other frivolous purchase, unless you have set aside the money to pay for said purchase already.Never pay interest! Always pay your card off on time. I recommend paying it in full every time you get paid. Plain and simple. You do this and you’ll be ok. Never ever pay late!The younger you are and the more disciplined you are, the better your credit will build as long as you don’t make a mistake. Get 3–4 cards, raise your limits every 6 months.Do this!
We Just got back from Costa Rica not feeling so good, What do think is wrong?
I think that both answers have a lot of truth in them. You could have picked up a stomach virus. It's very easy to do. When I first moved from Chicago to Costa Rica, I picked up a couple of stomach viruses. The way you describe things is how I felt. Also, food manipulation leaves a lot to be desired, not only in Costa Rica, but most everywhere. Finally, even if it is only a few hours difference, the bit of jet lag or even the stress from traveling could have lowered your immune systems enough to be affected by something which you would otherwise have fought off. And thanks for mentioning the TicosLand website. We try to furnish as much information about Costa Rica as we can in our directory.
Do you think it's wrong that my boyfriend keeps helping his ex wife behind my back?
You might be the better judge of whether wrong or not. Do you feel like you are contributing more to the relationship than him? Or is he contributing more. Or is it 50/50. Does giving to his ex take away from you? It really depends on individual circumstance ( and you are probably the only one that knows everything). If your bf is just a generous person…….like if he gives plenty to you, then maybe not so bad that he gives to his ex too. After all that's his decision. But if giving to his ex……or helping his ex is taking away from you…..or worst of all, if it's jeopardizing your relationship with him….you might not want to devote all of yourself to him. In other words…..if he is having second thoughts or constantly thinking of his ex….you might want to keep a piece of your heart saved for only you….it's not that you don't trust him….just protect yourself and your own heart. Maybe talk to him? See what he says. Use your gut instinct. Protect yourself….. but,there is possibility that it's nothing (him helping her). Either way, keep your confidence up….don't be overjealous if it turns out to be nothing ( if you are the one he truly cares about) but at the same time cautious ( just in case he still cares for her) …keep a piece of your heart to yourself…so he cannot hurt you, until you know for sure all the answers.