What Does A Jr Bridesmaid Do

What does a Jr Bridesmaid do?

So I just found out I'm going to be a Jr Bridesmaid. I've never been one before and I know nothing about it.

What do I do during ceremony?

What do I do before the whole wedding?

Do I have an "escort"?

What's the after party going to be like? (When you go to a fancy place and eat and dance lol)

What to expect overall?


Thanks :)

Does a Jr. Bridesmaid HAVE to stand up with you at the alter?

I am getting married next year, and I am having a really hard time keeping peace between my family and my fiances family as far as who will be in my wedding. I know everyone is going to say its my choice, but I really have to accommodate everyone or I will never hear the end of it.

I have a cousin who wants to be a Jr. Bridesmaid (I think she's going to be about 13 years old), and I would love to involve her, but I really don't know her very well. I want her to walk in my wedding, but I really want to keep just my 4 bridesmaids who I'm very close with, and our 4 groomsmen being the only ones standing. I want to keep it an even number of people on each side, and I want it to just be the people who are closest to me. Would it be rude/unkind of me to ask her to sit with the flower girl during the ceremony? I know everyone in my family has good intentions, so I don't want to hurt anyones feelings. Please help me!

Where does the jr. bridesmaid sit at the reception?

I think it depends on her personality and relationship with the other people at the table.

Is she a mature, outgoing 15-year-old who is close to the cousin who is also a bridesmaid? Put her at the head table.

Is she a shy, reserved 15-year-old who doesn't know anyone else in the wedding party? Let her sit with her mom.

What order do we stand in? Jr. Bridesmaid?

A junior BM is somewhere between a flower girl and a full BM- in terms of age-too old to be a flower girl and too young to be a BM.
Junior BMs should attend showers and help with making favours, cleaning up etc.
You can also take her wedding gown shopping- although you've probably already got your dress by the sounds of it? She should attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, she can help ushers take guests to their seats, hand out bubbles or confetti or programs at the reception. If the junior BM is your child, they can especially do things like read a poem or perform a song or participate in family vows.

As to the order, experts like theknot.com say the height thing is a matter of opinion, not rule of thumb or etiquette. So if you care about the appearance then line up people by height. Lining up according to how important they are to you also makes sense. MOH first, then best friend, cousin, etc. So that of course might create issues since they're all important to you and you don't want some to feel less important than others.
If you line up according to height then the shorter ones are furthest away and may feel bad. So now what?
I've seen in the weddings I've been to, brides who are shorter than their MOH, but it's OK because the focus is naturally on the couple and the MOH and other attendants are set apart by their different (coloured) dresses)
If you're doing a religious processional then you could use that to your advantage. in Christian ceremonies, generally the best man and MOH are at the altar waiting for the couple to arrive. Then the attendants arrive, beginning with the one who will stand furthest from the bride.
In Jewish ceremonies, however, the groomsmen walk in pairs and then the best man , and the groom and his parents, and then the bridesmaids.

Good luck and congrats!

Should a 13 year old be a flower girl, jr.bridesmaid or Bridesmaid?

I would say that she would be a junior bridesmaid. Her dress should coordinate with the bridesmaids, but be a style suitable for her age. The same with her shoes. She wouldn't be expected to wear three inch heels, but a dressy shoe with a lower heel would be fine. I think that she should sit at the head table in order to be seen as part of the bridal party. Not seating her there might make her feel that she wasn't really a part of the wedding. So, make her a junior bridesmaid with all that goes with the title, i.e. attending the bridal shower that the bridesmaids put on as well as attending the rehearsal the night before the wedding and the dinner if there is one.

Can my Jr Bridesmaid walk with my ring bearer?

My son is 6 years old and he gets shy very easily. I my sister is only 14 and I want her to be a part of my wedding party. I don't feel that she is old enough to be my maid of honor. but I am going to ask my maid of honor to include her in activities (age appropriateness) but I am wondering if I could ask her to be my Jr. Bridesmaid/Flower girl to walk with my son and carry a bucket with flower petals.

Would this be wrong of me to ask of her?

Can a Jr Bridesmaid escort a Ring Bearer?

My husband and I are FINALLY having a real wedding ceremony for our 5th anniversary. We didn't have the money when we first got married, so we just went to the courthouse with our parents. This time it will be special because my father can finally walk me down the aisle and our children will be a part in it as well.

I plan to have my son be a ring bearer and my daughter a flower girl. However, I know my son will need an "escort" since he will barely be 2 when our wedding takes place. I have a little sister who is 11, and I want her to be a junior bridesmaid, but I don't have any junior groomsmen to escort her.

Do you think it would be acceptable for her to "escort" my son as the ring bearer, since he is so little and might have a tendency to wander off the path and need someone to guide him a little so he is not distracted? I know my little sister would love to escort him, but I'm wondering if it wouldn't look weird to the guests?

Has anyone ever done anything like this before? Any suggestions? This is obviously the first time I've ever planned a wedding so I am trying to make sure that everything is planned and goes smoothly. Thanks for the advice! I appreciate it!!! =)

Flower girls versus jr. bridesmaids

You don't always need a flower girl. The 12 and 11 year old are junior bridesmaids , they are too old to be flower girls. Jr. Bridesmaids can still sprinkle petals , or cary pomanders , and still look cute.
http://weddings.theknot.com/ODB/themes/r... Most often they carry smaller bouquets than the bridesmaids and the bouquet consist only of one flower. Brides tend to stay away from junior bridesmaids sprinkling petals because it might make the girls feel baby-ish. But , it is your wedding , and you ultimatley decide