In the story "The Great Gatsby", What does Tom's behavior reveal about his character?
SparkNotes has an entry on The Great Gatsby. Always helpful! There's information on Tom Buchanan in the Character List section. There are also a couple of mentions of him in the "Analysis of Major Characters" section. Finally, you may also find more info about him in the chapter summaries of the chapters in which he appears. Good Luck!
What does it reveal about someone's personality when they like BDSM?
LOL, someone wants to play pop shrink again. Just watched Criminal Mind? Dexter? Lie to me? or any of 10 thousand other crime shows that make you think you can judge people by what they like to drink, how they play with their hair, how they stand, how they grow up, what they like to watch on TV…Whatever people do behind close doors is between consenting adults and reveals exactly nothing about their personality or their morality or whatever the fuck you think someone's healthy sexual preference reveal.You want to actually know about people's personality? Really know what people's behavior says about them? Go get a PhD in psychology, practice counseling for over 2000 hours, get a license and practice psychology. And THEN…. you get to say shit about people's personality and their behavior.But I suspect by then, you'd realize people are individuals, and you are trained not to make snap judgements about their “personality" based on one or two behavioral traits.
Why does Yoko's family live in Korea in So Far From The Bamboo Grove?
1. How does being Japanese affect them as the war develops? 2. How do the Kawashimas act toward the patients on the train? What does their behavior reveal about their values and character? 3. What saves rhe Kawashimas from the Korean soldiers? 4. Yoko refers to her sister Ko as "Honorable Sister." Sometimes they exchange words that are not very honorable. What sort of relationship do they have? Why does Ko seem "bossy" to Yoko? 5. Yoko ,Ko and their mother face exhaustion, hunger, danger and gear on the way to Seoul. How does this life-or-death situation affect their ability to deal harships? 6. Where does Hideyo go after he escapes from the factory? 7. Describe the living conditions of the Kawashimas in the train station in Seoul and then the factory in Pusan. 8. Why does Mrs. Kawashima stop in Kyoto? 9. What values does Mrs. Kawashima have? Do the girls share these values? 10. At this point, how would you describe Ko? Yoko? 11. How does Yoko treat Mr. Naido? How do the other girls treat him? What does this reveal about her character? 12. After Mrs.Kawashima returns from her trip, what news does she share with Yoko? What happens next? How does the event affect the lives of the girls? 13. How does Corporal Matsumura find Yoko? How is his friendship so important and so helpful to the girls? 14. Why do you think Yoko writes about her school experience rather that her ordeal in Korea? 15. What skills and qualities does Ko have? 16. Which character in the story
How long does it take for a narcissist boyfriend/girlfriend to reveal his/her true self?
I have dated a covert narcissist for about 5 months on and off before I decided it was time to quit with that bullshit for good. I was not educated about narcissism or sociopathy and all that jazz, but still... there were many strange things about him, that I knew were not "normal". After a few days that we met he was already love bombing me and behaving like he could not stay away from me, which I found strange and unattractive. Even so, he was extremely handsome and was also fullfilling my need for validation: reason why even though I knew the wisest thing to do would be to drop it I kept dating him. Red flags were everywhere, from his unrealistic attitude, to his fake and constructed sentences, to his over the top ridicoulous jealousy that I imagined was coming from his culture (he is from a different country). I would catch him lying about trivial things there was absolutely no need to lie about. Being covert, he would never openly brag about himself, instead looking quite humble. But after some time it was obvious that he thought really high of himself and that I was somehow "less" than him in his eyes. It was not a relationship between equals and this showed also in our sexual lives -I realized that after all giving me pleasure for him was not very important, since all that mattered was him reaching an orgasm. Several times I decided I wanted to stop seeing him and I was stunned as he would ignore my decision to cut contacts and try in every way to get me back. And I did take him back every time (since it was already a co-dependent relationship) until he had a violent outburst that cleared my mind about what was best to do. I started learning about sociopathy and narcissism and went no contact. Red flags are most of the times there from the start and easy to spot for someone educated about these personality disorders. Unfortunately it is difficult to just listen to your guts in these situations because we all want that person to be what they seem to be. In my case I knew for sure something was wrong with his mind, and I suggested him to go to a psychiatrist many times. I am also bipolar so I felt compassion and imagined that whatever problem he had I could help him find out and get a cure. It was naive, arrogant and probably plain stupid for me to think like that. We always create reasons to make our partner's flaws acceptable and go to great lenghts to cover those red flags with pink paint, often to our own danger.
Why would a sociopath show you his true colors and reveal himself to you? Does that mean that they care about you?
The father of my children is a sociopath. He’s a womanizer, a compulsive liar and has no compunction about ruining a person’s life if it suits his needs. He’s super sloppy. He’s a closet drunk who claims to be in recovery. Can’t remember his lies, or slips up. I’d catch him in abhorrent behavior over and over again and I allowed him to talk his way out of it.It took a decade of incredible lies, betrayals and stark abuses before I simply stopped playing by his rules. The straw that broke the camel’s back was when both my daughters came to me, at separate times, unknown to each other, to report Dad touched them the wrong way. Both girls said he caressed their back and buttocks inappropriately. Both girls reported they screamed at him and shamed him out of the room.When confronted he tried to turn it into them lying. He started his same denial routine and I instantly recognized his lying. I instantly understood he’d always been lying to me. About everything. He stole my life with his lies.I went off. I listed every single fraudulent, abusive and downright disgusting act of betrayal he’d committed to my knowledge. I railed at him for five minutes while he cowered and stuttered. He admitted he was a sociopath who liked young girls. He admitted he was a compulsive liar and he doesn’t know why he does it. He admitted he was a disgusting human being who didn’t deserve his wonderful kids or his current generous wife. He admitted he purposely smeared me to escape having to be married to a cripple and to help hide his pedophile friend’s crime against our own daughter.He came completely clean. With the caveat that he believed everyone was a sociopath and we’re all just hiding it behind decent behavior.I think at this point he’s relieved to not have to pretend with me anymore. I know what he is. He can’t hide it. I can see he’s lying still, all the time, about anything. I don’t care, that’s who he is. As long as it’s not impacting us personally, I’m not going to waste my energy. I call him on things when it does impact us. Otherwise I just say something really subtle so he knows he’s transparent. If I do find out he’s hurting other kids - my children say he’s kept his hands to himself - I will lay down a wrath he’s never experienced before.
What is a good question to ask a narcissist to reveal themselves?
Ask them about their childhood. If it’s idyllic or really bad, that’s a possibile negative.Ask them about anything. See if their answers are always black and white. They either “love” or “hate” whatever it is.Ask them about a failed relationship. See if they blame their ex for everything. Ask them if they think there is something they could have done differently.Ask a possible narcissist if there’s anything they regret.Ask them about a parent or loved one who passed away. See if you detect any grief when they speak about it.Ask them something they are grateful for. See if their answer is only self referential.Ask them how they have improved as a person. Ask them how they’re planning to continue to improve. Here you’re looking for confusion or insincerity. A narcissist has to fake an answer here.Ask them what their dreams for the future are. One of the symptoms of npd is being preoccupied with unrealistic fantasies of power, money, fame, the perfect mate, etc. You’re looking for something realistic here.Ask them to describe their relationship with their parents. Here you’re looking for anything that strikes you as “off.”When dealing with someone who is narcissistic, they will be having to fake responses for thoughts and feelings they don’t have, but want you to think they have. They don’t do this consciously, so they can come across as sincere, but even here, your intuition should warn you something doesn’t feel right, even if you can’t put your finger on it.Narcissists tend to want to push relationships along very, very quickly. Look for patience, calmness, balance and nuance in the way they handle questions and approach things. And if you can distinguish between empathy and attention, look for empathy. When you tell them something, see if they empathize.