My boyfriend of 5 years cheated on me at a stripclub. What do I do?
Does going to a strop club mean cheating? Cheating is secretly engaging in an intimate relationship with someone other than your partner. If he went to watch women dance naked or close to, he isn’t cheating. If this bothers you, then you need to help him see that it does. Try to understand him. Many men find it normal to want to see sexy women and they are visual creatures. Many men that go to these clubs don’t cheat on their spouses or girlfriends, they just like the stimulus. Men that cheat usually do for physical needs that aren’t being met or for excitement, never intending to take it to a level of seriousness or leading to a relationship. Women usually stray because of emotional reasons. It’s more the romance, attention, being payed attention to, maybe seeking love.If your husband goes to the club and comes home to you, believe it isn’t worth getting overly upset about it. If you know he does go, that means he isn’t hiding anything from you.Try to see what he is looking for that is not home. Maybe some innocent variety? Men love to see women in sensual, sexy ways. Try to bring that to him yourself. It may be hard for you to play that role, but it’s worth trying and experimenting with. Sexy lingerie, seduction, toys, pornography, exploration and fantasy role playing, erotic discussions may bring him more satisfaction at home. If you aren’t overbearing, trying to understand, willing to try new things, then his visits may become history. If he enjoys it occasionally, I see no harm. But getting bitchy and bitter about it will drive him away.
How can you tell when a blonde is having a bad day?
A blonde's house is on fire. She calls 911 and says, "My house is on fire." The dispatcher says, "Well, can you tell me how we get there?" "Duhhhh, in the big red trucks, of course."
Why striped karate belts?
Because "the people" are hooked on quick fixes and feedback. Back in the old days, we had this: White belt. Green Belt. Brown Belt. Then black belt grades. There were 3 levels of brown, 2 levels of green, and 2 levels of white. We knew, nothing below Shodan (first degree black belt) meant anything. At Shodan, you were at "the first step", you were not a master, or an expert. Today, everytime a kid gets an "A" or doesn't fart, or learns something about the history of their system, or shuts up in class, they get a colored stripe for something. We are programmed to "color for candybars" in today's culture. Instead of "coloring for the pleasure of coloring". We give out stripes, to keep kids and adults around, instead of letting them discover something within the art and within themselves - that keeps them sticking around - life.