What did you discover about yourself in the past hour?
I scared myself.I shouted at the guy in the other car!I shouted!! In anger, totally in anger!I don't shout…this isn't me!I was heading down off the bridge, and the car in front of me stopped suddenly because something happened in the front.Naturally, I pressed the brakes. The car that was behind me, speeded afterwards and when it's next to me the driver said to me “wake up, madam!” in a manly women-cause-problems tone. He was bugged and annoyed,“No one stops suddenly like that”!!He said that…and I don't know what happened…This isn't my first time to hear silly comments, it happens sometimes.I'm not talking about the times I make any mistakes, I'm usually careful, but if I made any I apologize. Though usually they are insignificant ones.I'm talking about silly people, usually men, who just say anything, and I usually ignore them, and move on in my way.But, today I didn't know what happened, I found myself shouting at him, “I had to! Should I hit the car in the front?”I scared myself, I'm a nice person, I'm the one who would have tears in her eyes because someone was rude, but would just move on like I heard nothing. It's just a stranger after all.Because I've been treated kindly all my life, I get really shocked at the world.I never shout, I never raise my voice, not in the street any way, I mean I'm a teacher and I have to make sure every student hear me.I could see the look on the man's face, he stopped talking and looked like he didn't expect that.He expected me to act like me.How?! I look like a peacful person, apparently.I stopped as soon as I could and I cried in shock.Oh God! I'm soooooo angry!All that anger……I hold so much anger……I must find away to release it.This is what I discovered few hours ago.I'm angry.I called a life coach and, he thinks I need to express my anger…so be careful everyone!
How did you discover yourself? What made you realise your uniqueness?
You can never discover yourself.You change constantly. Almost everyday. You aren’t the same person you were a week ago. A month ago. You can only keep on discovering yourself.What tool do I use for self-discovery?Only pen and paper.Every morning after I make my bed, I open a notebook and ask myself questions. Through questions you can search within yourself. You can meet the person that is you.Some of the questions I have asked myself include:“If I would to write a book, what would it be about? Why?”“How do I spend my free time? Why?”“What are my fears and how to get over them?”“If success was guaranteed, what would I do for the rest of my life?”“What are people going to remember me for?”These questions are not as easy to answer. Deploy patience because you may not get answers so soon. Think of this as a process of meeting yourself.Be interested in what you do and why you do it. Slowly, you are going to learn about yourself and discover things you didn’t previously know. You’ll finally understand what parts of you make exactly you.UniquenessProbability of you being born is estimated to 1: 400,000,000,000,000. That helped me understand how unique I am. If your parents had sex just 30 seconds later, you wouldn’t be born.Then you have to take into account every single experience you had since the day you were born.That exact sequence of them, at those exact times made you.Congratulations! Never since the beginning of time existed a person same as you!P.S. I’m starting to write and want to improve. If you have any feedback, I would appretiate it greatly. Thank you!
What are the things that you have just discovered about yourself?
I have discovered the following:I am imperfectI have many tendencies to do wrong .I have a good sense of right and wrong, although the sinful tendencies sometimes overpower me, but I get up again and pursue to do my best on not hurting anyone.I need to become more vigilant with my heart for it is very treacherous and induces me to wrong thinking and lures me into difficulties, but I battle to correct my pathway with God's word, the Bible.I am aware that I am not greater than anyone or more important than anyone. I am their equal.Becoming self aware of whom I really am in essence hás helped to survive on this world of violence and very unhappy place to live in.I am aware of my limitations.The list could go on and on……
How did you "discover yourself" when you got sober?
“How did you "discover yourself" when you got sober?”I have been in and out of recovery for about 2 years.The first thing I’ve done is focus on not being codependent anymore. I used to be an independent woman when I was single and slowly slunk into dependency during my relationship with my husband. THEN I began abusing alcohol about 7 years after we were married (so although I drank, I was not an alcohol abuser consistently the entire time).Now, I try to get what I want for myself, from myself. The example I use a lot is flowers. Instead of longing for my husband to get me flowers as a gesture of his love for me and/or being pissed off when he gets something I don’t care for like carnations, I get flowers for myself when the mood strikes. It makes me happy and it doesn’t create a situation where I feel deprived.I am still, however, working on other things like friendliness. I am an introvert and shy by nature. I struggled for many years learning how to be more friendly and decided that I was not getting the satisfaction out of being warm and friendly I wanted to get out of it. In an effort to be more “unapologetically” myself, I am still experimenting with that.In the same way a cloud in the sky doesn’t do anything wrong, I am the same way. The things I say and do may be perceived as offensive or not depending on who receives it and their baggage, I can only be myself and do my best. Since I am new to atheism and agree with humanism, I support the greater good. I don’t usually do things to purposely hurt people so, for the most part, my conscience is clean there.Nobody is perfect and spending less time on the mistakes I’ve made and continue to make and more time on positive things and trying to help others is a good way to discover one’s self.If you haven’t already, you may want to check out the Myers Briggs personality test. This can show you where your strengths are when it comes to your personality and possibly help lead you in a direction to use those strengths to help others. For example, I am an INFJ and a good career for me might be as a psychologist/counselor. This might be a good choice to understand what I am good at and share that with others.Also, I highly recommend Happify dot com. If you use it every day, you may discover things about yourself as well as help maintain (or improve) a level of contentedness in your life.DM if you’d like other ideas. I have TONS!
How was your year 2016 ? What did you learn about yourself?
How was your year 2016? What did you learn about yourself?2016 started out like shit. I spent last New Year's Eve at a pub in Whitney, England. I was there with my then-girlfriend, her friend the drug addict who was so drunk they wouldn't serve him, her other friend who kept hitting on me (and later blamed me for being a tease, because I just went home with my girlfriend?), and a bunch of her other friends, whom I didn't really know.The year progressed with a C on my exam, a break up, a make up, one of the best vacations of my lives, a lot of stress, a definite break up, surgery, therapy, a little bit of light stalking, a B on an exam, a lot of working, Germany, Austria, Italy, Switzerland, a victory at school, a C on another exam, an awesome internship, an awesome birthday, a lot of stress at work, a few wins at work, the finishing touches on my novel, and a bit of Christmas stress.So much has happened this year. I swear I'm 5 years older now than I was last year. I've tackled problems weekly all year in therapy. I've broken up with my first girlfriend. I've started new hobbies. I've been lost about my future. I've pretty much been all around this year.So what have I learned? So much. A bunch about fashion, thanks to my course and my internship. A lot about bjj, thanks to fightworld. Some about writing, thanks to my novel. Of course a whole lot about myself!I've learned to do a couture stitch, and how to sew a dress with raglan sleeves.I've learned how to do a rednecked choke, and how to not hurt myself when I fall. (Hopefully tomorrow I'll learn how to avoid spraining my knee during sparring.)I've learned what kinds of answers quorans enjoy, and how to finish a novel.I've learned to be happier. I've learned to take a second to breathe and relax, and to recognise my panic reactions. I've learned not to accept when people treat me badly, and to stand up against manipulation. I'm still learning, of course, but I feel like I could ace my 2016-exam, if there was a such thing.
What have you learned about yourself this year?
I've probably learned the most I've ever learned in a single year this year...it was a complete turn around for me, very productive :) This year, well I started out really pessimistic, judgmental, and confused...unhappy to be honest. The beginning of the year, I was coming out of a lot of family stuff, and I let it get to me... But now when I look back, I actually kind of look down (I guess you could put it that way) at my whole mindset....And yet I have no regrets because of what I learned! This year...I learned "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger," "you can't change the cards you are dealt, but you can change how you play the hand," I also learned that anger and sadness are not productive, and when you want peace, you have to *be* peace. Also, I learned a lot about what I am...a lot about how to be happy and how to find peace...I also learned a lot about what I believe...I learned that I'm not my parents religion...I figured out what I want to do in life, and what's important to me. My spirituality increased like tenfold, lol! :) I also learned a lot about Love:) And I've discovered how connected everyone and everything is :) I can only imagine what next year has in store! Thanks for the question! You should share too, Alex! :) what have you learned about yourself? Peace&Love:)
What did you learn about yourself in the last year?
I learned several things that made me listen more than talk, observe more than judge, and most importantly compassion had filled my heart toward my own self, toward all living creatures.I learned:I’m almost like a dot/or nothing in the ocean of knowledge .I need so much time, and deep presence, to be able to understand my own-self.I’m in need for a superior guidance, from the one who knows me more than myself, who is so compassionate and of deep compassionate perfect listening capability to heal me from all flaws that keep me blind from the truth. I need him to fill my holes with his love, forgiveness, compassion, and complete presence. I’m in need to feel & experience his presence into my life to learn presence, compassion, listening, and love.I’m not what anyone expects , I’m in a transformation process, and indeed my Lord is tender unto whom He will. He is the Knower, the Wise.I’m in love with art, science, & sports.I don’t have advises to whom I respect deeply, who seek advice from time to time, unlike before, in which I tend to give many. Now, I don’t see anything wrong, I pray for them all the time.I feel a considerable need to give something to the world. still not sure how and what. I have a feeling from inside, that can’t be controlled or suppressed.I love simplicity in expression, and living.I love red and light purple colors. I though i didnt previously. and I enjoy taking care of my hair, skin, nail, and every single part of me. Its a delight.I realized that most of my previous decisions were stemmed from fear of rejection, and a desire to look perfect. but it weakened me so much, my freedom to express, to choose, to be who I am truly. I felt like the truly Ruqaia was hidden, in prison, or maybe blind, and it hurts.I need to read more, and travel more, and to be with him (almighty) more. I want to be as closest as possible.I learned that the the seeds of goodness and badness are all in me, and it is a bless from him (Almighty) to succeed in cultivating and taking care of the good seeds.Question, experience, then believableness comes.Information comes easily, and goes easily, but believableness comes and stays forever.Gratefulness is a source of abundance and a sign of being present.
How do you find yourself?
Hi Alexis. Finding yourself is a journey, not a destination. A lot of it is trial and error. That's the price you pay in return for the satisfaction you receive: More often than not, you hit a bump in the road, and sometimes you fall flat on your face. Be prepared to understand and accept that this is a part of the process, and commit to getting right back up and starting over. It's not going to be easy - it never has been for anybody - but if you learn to see that as a chance to prove how much you want to find yourself, then you'll find fulfillment and security in your pursuit. When you are yourself, everyone will respect you more and treat you kindly. Best of all, you will always feel good about yourself. Get away from the expectations, the conversations, the noise, the media, and the pressure. Take some time each day to go for a long walk and think. Plant yourself on a park bench and look. Take a long, thoughtful road trip. Whatever you do, move away from anything that distracts you from contemplating your life and where you want it to go. In solitude, you should feel independent and self-sufficient, not lonely, needy or afraid. Being yourself is celebrating you, as an individual - learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are. You can't be yourself if you don't know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn't like to do, Believe in who you are. If you're always working to be someone you're not, you'll never be a happy person. Be yourself and show the world you're proud of the way you are! Don't worry about anything but being yourself and living life to the fullest! "Life's not worth a darn until you can say, I am what I am." When you can sincerely say it, you will know that you can be yourself. Wish you all the best..) Never forget that life is so precious live life to the full appreciate every moment. Put your hole heart in to everything you do.
Do we learn better when we discover things for ourselves?
Yes.