Well do you think spending every day with my boyfriend is over the top?
Yes. Couples who do that usually end up losing their other friends and become totally dependant on each other. It's ok to stay in contact every day, but spending every day side by side IS a little over the top. Spending a few days together is cool; just make sure to spend some time to yourself too doing the things YOU like to do.
If you feel happy every day, then what is your secret?
This is my life, 2 perspectives:Job:I need to travel more than an hour one way, I need to leave 40 mins before my colleagues to reach at the same timeI travel in an AC cab paid by my office, I’m free to read, talk, browse the net, or anything I can do sitting at a single placeLiving styleI live with my family, I cannot go out till late partying, I cannot go out too frequently, I feel boundedI live with my family, when I come home my brother hugs me and welcomes me, if I’m tired my mom brings me food I just have to sit on the bedRoom shareI need to share my room with my sister, she keeps everything shabby I get tired of her messI share my room with my sister, she cannot wait for me to get back from office, listens to my rants, praises me, makes me laughLong Distance RelationshipI’ve been in an LDR since more than a year, and will be same for atleast another 3.5 years. We meet each other once in 3–4 months, I miss him!My boyfriend talks to me when I go to sleep, talks to me anytime I’m sad, sings to me to make me smile, will send me stupid selfies to help me through a bad day in officeI can go on and on but you get the jist. Nobody’s life is perfect. Everyone has happy and sad moments in their daily lives. One is not happy because of money*, not because of love, not because of education. One is happy when he/she is content with life and always thinking of making himself/herself better.Be satisfied and groom yourself.Stay happy.*Recommended to watch “I am Kalam”. It is on Amazon Prime, amazing movie.
How do I stop comparing myself to others? Everyday I compare others around me and think they have better, happier lives than I do. I always think they are smarter and more involved socially.
I think i have a perfect example of why we should not compare ourselves.This is story about three friends including me among them.It began with an awesome picture.Five years BackThere were three friends those were in their 12th standard all want to achieve success in their life.Success in their own opinions.One friend A was excellent in academics who always make fun of Friend B and Friend C because they are not of that level.Friend B(Me) always stay unhappy because of A making fun of them but Friend C never compare him and stay happy(Because he knew academic success is not the only success).Friend A Got really good marks and Got admission in some great NIT engineering college.Friend B got a medium level of college and Friend C didn’t get any college he started his own business.Friend A always thought that he is very smart and success than these two and always laugh at Friend B and C.Current TimeFriend A is working at 25K a month in TCS consultancy.And there are lakhs of employ like him in that company.He still compares himself to Friend B and C but now he felt really sad because he can’t make any fun of them,Friend B is me Abhishek Dhiman I am studying in computer science department o IIT Bombay.I think I not successful but happy that I never make fun of anyone and believe in myself.Friend C was really a champion because he never wastes time in comparing himself and never stop he believe in himself.His business chain is one of the best chains in our area.He earns lakhs in just weeks but he never makes fun of anyone.His thinking was academic Success is not the only success.Lessons from the storyBelieve in yourself you have what it take’s to be a successful person.Never compare yourself to anyone less or more strong, less or more smarter, less or more skilled etc.Because you never know what the future.Academic success is not the only success every parent should understand this point.Please do upvote if you like the answer that would motivate me in writing more.Happy Reading.
How can I be happy and keep everyone happy around me?
That is a very nice thought.But before spreading Happiness one himself needs to be Happy.And unless you yourself arePhysically FitEmotionaly RelaxedForget about making anyone else Happy.If you yourself are not Physically Fit you will always end up getting tired early or end up being lazy ,having less stamina perhaps with a back or knee pain…etc etc..making u miserable.Exercise a little daily..Being Healthy keeps you happy and will give you more energy to make others Happy.Your Happiness is in your hands and is not dependent on anyone else or any thing.Spend some time with Nature and Meditate.You shall be more relaxed and stress free and happier in turn spreading Happiness.Come what may always keep an unconditional smile on your face and you will be Happy.Happiness is in small things of your everyday life.You should realise to stop worrying and being Happy right in this moment and not to keep delaying it for getting something or the other.If you desire less and your expectations are lesser more happier you are.Dont just be caught up in I,ME and Myself.Dont just think about yourself.Help others as and when possible.Selfless help without expecting anything in return will make others as well as yourself happier.Materialistic things are delusions. They may surely give you temporary Happiness .Dont get caught up in them.Perhaps if one has control on all his 5 senses more centred he shall be and more Happy he will be.Dont run behind lust. It will only make you tired ,feverish and eventually frustated.Instead loving someone will elevate you,give you satisfaction and contentment.More inward you go more Happier you and your soroundings shaĺl be.Thanks for reading.Happy living!!!
How can I be happier with myself? Everyone around me is getting more beautiful everyday and everyday I feel more and more worthless. What can I do?
Stop believing the fact that others complete you. YOU complete YOURSELF. You don't need other people to make you happy.If you think you need other people to make you happy then, in that case, you are giving control to others for your happiness. You also look for other people’s approval to make you feel better, you give control to others. Expect less from others.And if you start believing and thinking in that way, you are no more dependent on the company of others to make you happy. In this way, you have more control over your life. You become the ultimate source of happiness for yourself and also for others too.Stop comparing yourself with others.The only person you need to compete with or compare yourself in order to improve is with YOU.I don’t think people like Usain Bolt, Serena Williams, Roger Federer, DR.APJ Abdul Kalam needed themselves to compare with others to improve.Find and do things that make you happy.You can work on your hobbies, watch movies or TV series, Go for a walk, read books, learn new things, explore nearby places around your home, talk to new people where ever you meet.Improve yourself daily. Take daily small challenges. Build self-worth by mastering that one skill that you think will have a great impact on your life.Don't try to do anything to please others or ask for approvals.Be inspiring.
What brings you happiness?
My family & being at peace with myself & the world about me.
Nothing makes me happy anymore?
Ok you have to WANT to get over this, if you don't then you wouldn't ever get over it, look at it like it can't get any worse, it can only get better from here, look at the positive side of things, you probably struggling with school, be the mere fact that you feel lonely, friendless, sad, depressed, on your own, like you have to fend for yourself, my brother is going to college too and his friend is in a similar situation as yours, he's in the 3rd year of college and is depressed as well, be more social, you have to be friends to people before they're friends to you, making other people happy can make you happy too, as the saying were all like angels but every-body's only got one wing so we have to fly embracing each other (meaning that we can't live without each other) that we depend on people and people depend on us, we look up to people and people look up to us, making other people miserable is only going to make you miserable remember "misery loves company" look for role models, people you admire famous or not and strive to be like them, also even if you don't believe in God just act like you're talking to Him and say what you wrote or how you want to be happy, this can make you feel better, trust me. Besides I can and would like to be your friend. Hope I Helped!!!