Is my mom holding me back?
Im 19 and i live at home with my mom and i think she is holding me back for whatever reason. my senior year of high school i got accepted to NAU and i was 17 at the time. she pretty much told me straight out that i couldnt go because we couldnt afford it. she made me go into a medical assistant program that i actually liked and convinced me i wanted to do pre nursing even more. now flash forward two years and ive been taking all my pre reqs at a community college but i feel like im ready to finally pursue my dream of going to NAU which is in Flagstaff, AZ only a 3hr drive from home. my mom is pissed saying i only want to go cause my friends go there and insisting that i go to ASU so i can live at home and help her pay bills because obviously if i go away i will need my money for my own bills. i have been doing this for the past two years and i dont think i should plan my whole future around helping my mom pay bills. im in enough debt because she has made me get student loans i didnt need to help pay bills, she justifies this by saying she did it to take care of me and my siblings while she was in school so she doesn't feel bad. i even have two payday loans in collections cause she guilted me into getting them to help her by promising to give me the money when it was time to repay them. then when the time came she said it was my responsibility and she had enough on her plate. she if you havent noticed my mom isnt the type you say no too unless you want to be homeless. plus whats driving my decision even more is that my younger sister is graduating this year and my mom is pushing her to go off to clark-atl or spellman in atlanta even though we are no better off financially now than we were two years ago and out of state tuition is way more expensive than resident tuition. she says its because my younger sis can get loansand she never had a job or helped with bills anyway so it wont be a big deal.also when i talk about leaving in the fall cause ive already submitted my app, she gets mad and guilts me by saying "fine go if you want, ill just prostitute to pay bills i dont need you" is my mom holding me back? is it time to cut the cord and live my own life or should i stay and help my mom out?
What should I do if my family is holding me back?
Sometimes we need to ask ourselves what is CONVENIENT and what is GOOD for us. The two things might relate, might sound they are the same, but they are not.In most cases the convenient is not good for us, and the good is not convenient. Rare times both happen together.You definitely should take hold of your life, and your little one's life as well. You are VERY young and of course it's not late, it's NEVER too late. This will demand lots of work and attitude, but the results will be GOOD for you (and for your little one) in the long run. You will be independent, will decide where you are and where you want to go. It might seem scary but only in the beginning, once you get it going on, it will come naturally, and you will ask yourself what you were waiting for before you took the decision.All you need is a good conversation with yourself, lots of self confidence, self-love and belief in yourself.Many parents tend (not for the benefit of their own children) to keep them always close, always under their "supervision". It's all about control. This doesn't make them happy, neither their children could ever be happy without their independece, with the chance of trial and error in life, with the chance to achieve their own GOALs, understand?Please make the right choice, you are only in the beginning of your life...and your little one deserves a determined, strong woman for her mum. And you could be this one, for your child...but most important, for YOU!So choose whatever you want to do, and GO FOR IT!Hope this answer helps! ;) Good luck
What is holding you back from being the person you want to be?
Fear and embarrassment.Especially fear.Fear of being laughed at, the fear of making mistakes, and mostly, the fear of failure.One thing that was holding me back is that I don't have the balls to do what I love doing. It's a mind-killer.What I didn't realize is that I should take risks if I want to achieve something.It wasn't until I decided to do something I wouldn't usually do: get a chocolate for the girl that I like at Valentine's Day, face to face, in her classroom, in front of her classmates.That might not be a big deal for you, but I was amazed by myself after doing that, that is the time when I can truly be proud of myself. I was so ambitious that I don't experience any fear. I realized that I should go against my fear, so I can find meaning in life and be proud of myself.•P.S.At the end, I ended up being rejected by that girl. I wasn't embarrassed, in fact I feel proud for taking that risk. Since then, I finally have the balls to take risks to do whatever I love doing.That's what entrepreneurship is all about: taking risks!•Thanks for the question, and thanks for reading!
What do you believe is holding you back from complete happiness?
I have read a lot of stuff around happiness. What is it? How to find it? Does it exist? Why to chase it? Why NOT to chase it?We make the term ‘happiness’ so complicated that at times it seems to run farther and farther away from us.Happiness as I have come to know, understand and accept is an attitude. An attitude to be happy and try to keep to it.It is a consistent state-of-mind. It does not align to reason, outcome or achievements. It just is. By default our brain is in a state of happiness. It knows nothing else. That’s why babies are happy by default.As we proceed with our lives and the ups and downs with it, we start latching on to events. Associate them with happiness. This makes me happy, that makes me sad. By doing this we move away from our default state and then we try to keep finding what we call “happiness” from external events. The more we chase the more far away it seems.Happiness to the brain is to just be. To breathe and keep breathing as long as we live. That is happiness.So what holds us back from complete happiness? Nothing really, just a small signal to the brain to acknowledge it’s default state. A signal that we forget to send many times as we get busy in riding the waves of life.
What are your biggest fears? What is holding you back?
My fear is that I'll never be good enough to do the great things I want to do with my life. I don't think I'm smart. My dedication and passion is the only thing that has a possibility of making up for that. I want to help people. I want to make people happy. Because what's holding me back is my utter exhaustion. I've got so many things going on in my head, and outside in the real world, responsibilities, etc. that are extremely tiring to constantly keep up with. I'm headed towards my goal, but it's so difficult and just so draining of my energy.
What is holding me back from being successful?
Your question doesn't provide much in the way of detail, so I'll answer in pretty general terms. Each of us is where we are in our lives because of the decisions we have made. To put it another way, each of our lives is the sum total of the decisions we have made up until right now. Effective decisions and the actions they produce take us in the direction of our goals. If our decisions, and the actions they produce, are ineffective then we will almost certainly not be where we want to be.If you are not where you want to be then the solution is to learn to make more effective decisions. This isn't terribly complicated. It does, however, require that you have a very clear understanding both of what really matters to you and what you really want. Once you have that understanding, you design goals with appropriate action steps that take you in the direction you want.I know that one of the hardest things for me to learn and truly accept is the idea that I have done everything perfectly to wind up where I am right now. that wasn't what I wanted to hear. What I wanted to hear was that my life was not the way I wanted it because of external factors. It didn't matter very much whether those external factors We're other people, politics, taxes, corrupt business owners or any of a number of other things. I just didn't want it to be me. But it was me. It was many years before I found a teacher who would tell me what I needed to understand. So when I made a list of all the things that have kept me from achieving my definition of success, my teacher noted that the biggest problem with the list was that my name wasn't on it. it was only when I accepted the truth of this that my life begin to change in a very positive way.The challenge then, is to determine what is of value to you, what you want, and then to look at all of your past decisions in light of your values and what you want. It might be that your decisions have been very effective. It might be that you are taking all the proper actions to take your life where you want it. If that is the case, you simply need to continue with what you have been doing and give your decisions and actions time to produce their cumulative effect.I wish you the very best of luck.
I feel like my virginity is holding me back?
So here's some background info: I'm an 18 year old male, and I'm a virgin. Now, I was a christian for all of my life, but when I moved out and left for university far away I've come to think that perhaps I don't believe it anymore (There's only a small part of me that thinks christianity's teachings are actually real) Anyway, despite the fact that I'm basically not religious, I still feel like I'd like to wait until marriage to have sex. But then what's the point of waiting for marriage if you're not even religious, right? I guess I just feel like I don't want to engage in all of this impersonal causal sex that happens in the dorms here... Also... there's been a couple of girls who I've hit it off great with, but I hold back from relationships because I feel that me being a virgin is weird and the fact that I'd be dating a girl who has already been involved with many other guys just doesn't feel right. Im confused and I need some insight here. Thanks