Am I wrong with not wanting children?
WOW!!! Sounds like my life! I'm 36, my husband is 37, we've been together now for 16 years, married 8. He ALWAYS said he didn't want kids. Though I did, I tried to convince myself I didn't because that's what he wanted. I was on the pill for all these years, I got pregnant on accident (still now sure how THAT happened after all these years!) a couple years ago, we were both freaked out. He didn't want it, I was SOOOO close to packing my bags & I was going to raise the baby on my own. Well, then we lost the baby. My husband and I had a heart to heart, I finally convinced him how important being a mom was to me & I lied all these years to make him happy. He decided to give in & have ONE child. After I was cleared to get pregnant again it took 6 months for me to get pregnant. He wasn't all that excited during the pregnancy, which made me REALLY worried but the first time he held our daughter really melted his heart. She is 3 months old now & the apple of his eye. He said he can't imagine our lives without her now. Really think about your decision before you say no. If you really don't want kids, that's fine, but maybe you and your wife need to go separate ways or you just need to give in, which I really think you would change your mind like my husband did.
Why do single men without children go on dates with single mothers, then tell her after the date that they don't want to date someone with kids?
I’ll answer this from the other side. I’m a man with children. I have three. I have an unusual parenting schedule. Any woman I have dated knows immediately that my children come first. Now, after a little time I’ve made a concession here and there. The first few years I never missed a weekend. Never. Now, after 7 years I might miss a few per year and fight for make up time. Also, their mom will take them on trips where I’ll miss a weekend. I do not want the kids to miss out on a ski trip or other fun excursion so I don’t put up too much of a fight. I’ll plan “us time” around their schedule. “My Kids will be away X days. Let’s get away and do something.”Women with kids understand. Women without kids or empty nesters understand…at first. Eventually, it wears thin. I get that. My relationships with women without kids never worked out and it was always about the kids, my time and what I put myself through to get time with them. I enjoyed those relationships as each one enriched me in some way, but I have no regrets.To answer your question, I had one woman with whom I had a great relationship who did not have Kids say to me, “I think to myself, he is good and kind. He has amazing emotional intelligence. He treats me great. We have such a great connection. Why should I hold it against him that he has kids?” Ultimately, she was trying to sell herself on me and clearly put my kids in the negative column. It was not the only thing that broke us up. I have to take responsibility beyond the kids, but in the long run, she would never be able to relate. She had never dated someone with children before me. We had a great connection and she thought she could get past it, but she couldn’t.My current (and possibly last) girlfriend has 3 kids, each a couple of years older than mine. She is very understanding of my situation and aware that I give our relationship all the attention I can. I’m lucky we found each other. I should tell her more often.
Do you agree that a marriage without children is meaningless?
People that don't want children shouldn't have them. it isn't fair to the children. Marriages where one partner wants children and the other doesn't usually creates conflict. I've heard of many marriages that were successfull without children.
Will God punish me for not wanting children? I really don't want them, ever.
Why should God punish you? Where did you get such an idea? Jesus never married and had children, nor did St. Paul. In fact, he admonished the first followers of Christ that it would be better not to marry (and have children), but to only do so if unable to contain one’s passions. There are multitudes of renowned unmarried Christians who have led good and holy lives of service to God and neighbor down through the centuries.You did not say, but I assume that you are not married. If, however, you are married, then this presents a different and more complicated question, as the primary purpose of marriage is the begetting of children. In the Catholic and Orthodox Churches it would not be possible to enter the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony with the purpose of children closed.
Are parents disciplining their children?
I saw a question concerning spanking and it got me thinking. In the past decade, there has been much attention paid to spanking children, and as a result many parents have stopped using this as a form of discipline. It seems, however, (through my observations), that many parents take the "do not spank" idea to mean that discipline in general is a bad thing. As a result, it seems to me that many children are not being disciplined. Do you feel that this has become a problem? Also, it seems that many parents are now expecting schools to do more disciplining that was once the realm of the parent. If you think this is a problem, do you feel that it is contributing to this attitude? It's possible that my observations are completely wrong, however I would like to know what other people think on these topics.
Is it ok for a marriage to be without children?
Marriage is about two people committing to one another and living this adventure called life together. Each couple's adventure is going to look different. Some cannot have children, others choose not to have children. It is up to you and your Spouse to determine meaning and purpose for your marriage and what that looks like. Having children out of obligation is never good.
Will I regret not having children?
I don't dislike children; I think they can be very charming and funny, but I've never ever not even once wanted any of my own. It's been like this ever since I was 15 years old. I'm now 32. So my biological clock is ticking. I'm an only child and my husband is an only child. So I'm definitely going to be family-less at some point in my life. It's scary to think about. Should I just deny my feelings and just grit my teeth and have children? Also I'm a christian and I haven't felt comfortable in the church for many years b/c it's against my religion to choose not to have children. If I had children I would be accepted by my church and wouldn't feel so sinful
Why do people call childless couples selfish for not wanting children?
So I was watching a video on YouTube about people who don't want children reading the comments I was shocked by how many people disagree with this.They say because its for "selfish" reasons and I can be honest and say my reasons for not wanting children may be a little selfish, I don't want the responsibilities of a mom.I'm the type of person to babysit not have a Child 24/7 18 years. And children are expensive. Even though we have the financial means for kids we'd rather just travel and enjoy out self's I simply like having my money and my freedom and I'm glad I found my husband who agrees that having children isn't for everyone even if it is for selfish reasons. I'm 28 and know I'm not a mother type person I like to go to work and take vacations when Ever not worry about getting a sitter or sending a kid through college. And I far from hate children I have a lot of nieces and nephews who I love to babysit and love getting presents on Christmas and on their birthdays. I got an IUD but then my husband got a vasectomy and we're happy being child free and happy for people who do have children I know parenthood is great but why don't people understand that it isn't for everyone?