Is there any negative effects for the secret habit on girls??
I don't have a secret habit. My bf knows all my habits.
What things in life should be a secret in your opinion?
I keep most things secret, not because I killed anyone, or robbed a bank (although you'll never know unless you read it in the news, and then don't ask to borrow 3 million dollars. I'm saving that until I get out, and the last guy who asked to borrow money disappeared), but because people don't need to know everything about everybody.Not revealing something is not the same as lying. Too much information has its own designation in today's lingo, TMI. There's a reason for that. People are telling the world too dang much.If you tell me something incriminating about yourself or someone else, I might be obligated to do something about it. And then I have to decide what that is, and whom to go to with the information. It's too much of a burden, thank you.But besides not revealing deep, dark secrets better kept for hidden journals or memoirs-published posthumously-I don't tell anyone I'm on a diet.If you announce that you're going on a diet and are going to lose weight, right away you become the recipient of unsolicited opinions and attention from the Food Police:'You don't need to lose weight,' (nice, but not true; these people just want someone to feel superior to, and want you to stay fat) or, 'That diet isn't good for you. You should just eat balanced meals', or, 'Why are you eating that? I thought you were on a diet!'This same thing will happen if you announce you're getting in shape. They'll check your every mouthful, your every spare moment not spent working out.If you announce you're quitting a bad habit like drinking too much, or smoking, you'll encounter similar statements from pretty much the same people.Or, if they indulge in the bad habits you indulge in, they'll resent the fact that you're trying to quit, wondering why you think you're better than they are.They'll try to pour liquor down your throat, invite you to bars and drink Mai Tais in front of you. Or, they'll light up one cigarette after another, and blow smoke in your face. These are the kinds of friends you have.Some people think any cosmetic enhancements you've had should be revealed. I'm not sure what the psychology is here. Maybe it's because now you look better than they do, and they'll tell everyone just why you do, and add how vain they think you are.At least, until they can afford to do it, too.Others don't like to reveal their age. I don't mind that, because I add twenty years to my real age, and enjoy the compliments I get about how young I look.
Is it Haram to reveal your sin to your sister.....?
Salam No it is not haram to reveal your sin to your older sister as long as your niyat or intention for asking help or advice and for good reasons and your sister should keep it as a confidential or secret.Telling aib or bad behaviour/act of other(which is called ghibah) is not allowed in Islam as stated in the Qur'an.If you keep it to yourself unsolved ,it will make you stress.
Do you ever feel guilty when you keep secrets from your parents?
yes, i always do, it makes me feel all paranoid and stuff. i hate it.
How do I stop sharing secrets with people and later regret they know too much about my life?
Very nice question!I am happy that you observed this thing in you and want to work on it.It's a human tendency that we need someone to vent out our emotions, feelings we have faced in that situation & feel light and better. But it's also important that you are venting out with the right person.So, only vent out with that person who is your true friend, who understands you without judging you, who is worth of your trust. That true friend can be anyone- your parents, your siblings, your counterpart or your friend.See, their is nothing wrong if that person knows too much about your life, though it's always advisable to be a bit mysterious. But if that person matters to you in your life and you matter for that person like your family, believe me, their is nothing wrong in it! So, stop regretting for it.And before sharing with that person just stop and think once-" why do they need to know, what you are about to say". If it's for getting a sort of advice then I think only experienced person can advice you better. People who are going through your age might not haven't gone through the same problem or some would be even undergoing it. Sometimes they themselves need guidance. Sometimes they advice you but those advices are just wild solutions.If they are just for the sake of sharing, I would advice you to create a journal of yourself and vent out whatever you feel , just write down in it. You can also make voice notes.And also, try to have some self- control over yourself!!Cheers!Hope this helps :)
Is it good to share your misery and problems with everyone?
No, its a very bad idea to share you misery with everyone, but its always a comforting act to share with someone in whom in you can confide to. Let me try and explain and make more sense to you.Everyone has their own share of perils and problems in life. Life is not a bed of roses as we see in movies or on facebook timelines of other people. Its a big pain trying to shelve everything within yourself, keeping calm and behaving as if things were normal. These problems may be a very much hypothetical things, a procreation of events around you which inadvertently made you feel insecure or created some kind of discomfort. These emotions tend to put you down, push to the wall and put you in a corner. Now, it a concept of physics which says if you push something hard, its bound to come back with a greater force. So, when some of these emotions and feelings make you feel low, corner you, one is bound to act in an insane way unless you let go of the feeling and the best way is sharing with people. Thats very much comforting, telling others what made you feel low and getting a warm hug in return. Works like wonder 99% of times. The problem happens when you tell your worries to someone who is not a enthused audience(is not actually bothered to hear about your problems). Thats when people start talking and when this person talks to others, he/she adds his/her predicament and judgement to it. And the judgement may be completely wayward and uncalled for. Worse, people can actually take advantages of your situation by making you feel worse.The best way to cure yourself of this is to figure out a person who can be your best confide. Share things with that person only(can be anyone, you mom, sibling, spouse or even a colleague). Remember this person is one who you know will not turn your back against you even if things turn sour between you guys.
How can I stop myself from telling other people's secrets?
Speaking from personal experience, your biggest problems are that you: want to command attention; get people to like you; please people; don't want people to feel like you're boring; feel conversation must continue; hate to be criticised; don't want any dry moments because people might feel you have nothing to say; lack true self-confidence; are overly concerned with people and their life issues, and too concerned with how people see or judge you. You have to deal with each of these one-by-one until you can discover that true happiness is only from within yourself. This trend got me into so many mess until I came out of them recently. You must reverse all the features above on your mind before you can get out. It took me six months actually, so don't think its easy-peasy. (follow me up and I might be able to help.) Hope this helps!