Should I beat up my dad? You have no idea how much I want to.
Absolutely not. I am speaking from the perspective of a person who had to make that choice a number of years ago based on a very bad family situation where I truly felt he deserved it.If you take action because you can not control yourself and are overly angry about things and you decide to use violence, you will pay dearly. Almost certainly law enforcement/social services will get involved and you won't like the things that follow.If you want to beat him up because of really bad things he is doing or has done, you are not going to help the situation by beating him up, it will only make it more complicated. Instead, resolve that you are going to be absolutely sure you break up the cycle and don't end up like him. Your first step can be to show yourself you are capable of the self control needed to step back and wait the couple of years it will take to be an adult on your own where you can continue to grow and make sure you are a better person. If the anger is continually at the boiling point where you are afraid you might lose control, find a trusted (calm-natured) friend, high school guidance counselor or other adult you can trust to remain confidential, vent to that person to help talk you down. No matter what, if you get physical and in a fight with your dad, it is not going to end or solve the problem, it almost certainly will make it worse.
How to split up my stepmom and dad?
That depends on what she says about you and to you. If these things are disciplinary and intended to try to get you to improve, then take them for what they are and use what she's saying to make yourself a better person. However, if those things she's saying are unfair, insulting, and/or verbally abusive, you should inform your father and let him deal with it. If he dismisses you, start keeping a journal. Write down exactly what your stepmom says, and when she says it, including date and time. After a few weeks, make a copy of the journal and give your father the copy. "See?" you should say. "I told you she was mean to me."
How can I get the courage to stand up to my dad?
This is a long story, but please read it anyway because it's important to the question. My parents are divorced and my dad is always bashing on my mom and saying nasty lies and insults that relate to her, and I am sick of it. I'm surprised I don't hate my dad right now because of all the crap he's put me through. He also bullies me into doing things that I shouldn't have to do, and I don't want to spend the weekends with him anymore because of his ugly behavior, and he's always putting me in the middle of the arguments and using me as a weapon. He also complains about having to pick my brother and me up for the weekends because it's "too much driving." He bullies me, uses me as a weapon against my mom, puts me in the middle of the arguing, and constantly bashes on my mom. I'm sick of him, and I don't want to spend weekends with him anymore, and I want to stand up to him. How can I get the courage to stand up to my dad? He has an awful temper, and when he gets mad, it's nothing short of ugly. What can I do?
I just beat up my dad, what should i do?
A little back story me and my father never got along, he is an alcoholic and used to beat me as a kid when he got drunk and would always verbally abuse me as a child. Although he wasn't as violent when he was sober he would still hit me every now and again when he got pissed. He would always curse and yell at my mom, older sister and me when he was having a hard time still does even now, he comes form a old age mentality and had a hard life growing up so i do feel for him but it just too much. He has gotten better as we grew up being more understanding and such and tries to be a better man, recently he even quit drinking. But today he got drunk again and started getting loud so i asked him stop but he became agitated and started cursing everywhere and yelling at my mom. So i tried to talk him down but he wouldn't listen and kept pressuring me to hit him so i finally snapped and started wailing on him. After i heard him scream i came to my senses and just ran away, i am not proud of what i did and i know i did something every wrong but all that pent up anger of him abusing me throughout the years and to my mother and sister unleashed. I'm currently looking to move out and never see him again, i just want to know what are peoples opinion on this.
I beat up my dad yesterday?
So im a 17 year old and yesterday i was in the kitchen making some food while my mom and dad was watching tv. My dad was really drunk. Suddenly my dad becomes really angry and starts talking all kind of bullshit. After about 5 min of load yelling, my mom tries to calm him down, She tells him that it would be smart to go to bed because he was so drunk. My dad grabs my mom by the troath and hits her HARD, and she falls to the ground. When i saw this, i lost it. I ran too him, and tackled him to the ground though a glass door. I land on the top of him, and start punching him in the face about 30-40 times. My mom stops the fight and when i stand up, i see blood everywhere. My dad is uncontious, and was bleeding like crazy. For some wierd reason, my mom gets angry at ME, and kicks me out. So now im living with a friend. Explaned the situation to his parents, and they said its ok for me to live there as long as i want. Anyway, what do you think i should do now? I dont want to go to the police, or go back to my parents. I dont really want anything to do with my dad, never liked him, allways been a cynical asshole. But i love my mom. Im really confuced right now. What should i do?
My dad told me to shut up. Is that abuse?
Irrespective of how all the other answers are constructed, I cannot follow their pattern.No, what he did was no where close to abuse. Kids, this generation, need to understand this. Abuse from a parent is when he/she beats up the kids. Not when he is trying to make you strong.Why in the world could you not carry your bag? Why should he be carrying your bag? Kids these days get most things done by parents. Starting from waking up kids, handing kids water to drink, breakfast to eat, carrying their books, dropping them at school, to start in the morning. Most of these could be done by the kids themselves.You would not have felt this as abuse if you did not feel that you were entitled to have your dad carry your backpack. That is not true and completely inappropriate. If you are able to post this question on quora, I assume you are at least over 12 years old. You are a member of a family. Start learning to contribute to the family if you can. Do not become a burden. Habits start very young. Chose which habits you want to learn.
My dad told me "Shut up, bitch." What should I do?
It sounds as if your father comes from a place of very profound pain. To strike out at your child to speak to them in this manner indicates that he, himself, is suffering greatly. In all likelihood, this has nothing whatsoever to do with you and you are just receiving the bleed-over of his own pain. Is it possible that your father has his own pain that he is dealing with — and perhaps has been dealing with since he was a child? Could it be that his model for how a father should behave was his own father, who didn’t treat him well?Often times we do what has been done to us because it is the only way we know how to respond. It would be strange for someone who has been tormented their entire lives and isn’t conscious of this deeply-embedded programming to act with kindness and compassion. It takes an act of profound will to step back from yourself to look at the programming you have been shackled with and to disconnect from that to respond to stimuli in a way other than you have been shown in your life. This doesn’t excuse what he has done — it may, however, make it easier for you to see him as a consequence of his own unconsciousness combined with his past experiences than as someone who is fully in control of what they do, think, and feel.
My boyfriend beat my dad up?
That's your dad! he cares about you a lot than your bf care about you! you must be with your dad and not to your maniac BF!
I hooked up with my dad's best friend?
Don't tell your father. I mean I think that the relationship is probably not the healthiest thing.. you having a father figure feeling towards him and the age gap. But if it is the kind of thing you are not going to let hold you down or keep you from attending school, etc.... then I definitely would not tell your father. It would be majorly weird for him and he could even get angry. I know if I was your dad I would be pretty upset. But be careful. These older guy/younger guy things, just like with straight relationships, can be very complicated and either party can be majorly used and get hurt.
How can I break up my dad and his girlfriend?
You can't break up your father and his girlfriend. What you can do is tell him honestly how you feel and talk to him about your concerns. It's likely he is lonely and perhaps doesn't feel attractive enough to have options. Approaching him with a positive attitude, Sharing why you don't feel his current partner is good for him, and letting him know he's attractive and can do better is probably the best way to get him to upgrade.