How to stop being a loner?
I sure do know, Killa K....you have interests right...you just pursue those interests with other people... Are you into exercise...join a gym...participate in more than just the basic workout...keep your eyes open for opportunities to connect with others there like spotting or asking for some advice even if you don't really need it...take a few classes at the gym, whatever. That is just an example, but you see my point. Check online or in the newspaper for local stuff going on and just start going to stuff...and maybe take a course or something if you are done high school and make a point to chat with anyone in the class who will listen. Practice conversation skills everywhere you go...with cashiers, people in lineups...anywhere...because maybe you are just a bit shy or lacking in some confidence. Hey, why don't you make a list of all of your interests and skills and brainstorm some ideas of places to do those activities where there are any other people at all. You don't need to make the closest friends at first, but over time, you may meet some people you really connect with. I have another great idea for you...maybe...volunteer someplace...like if you like animals, volunteer at your local animal shelter to walk some dogs or brush some cats. The idea is to meet other people who are also volunteering there. Anyhow...sometimes when people don't have much of a social life in school, they think that is the way it will always be, but you're entering a new phase in your life...your childhood was temporary, but adulthood is the rest of your life and so you will have lots of new opportunities to find where you feel you belong...try to be a positive, confident and decent person and you will attract the same to you. Best of Luck and Take Care.
My mom makes fun of me for being a loner?
I am 14-years-old and I am a loner at school. I just started at a new school about a month ago and I came in having no friends. Everyday I just go sit in the library and use my phone. A lot of people actually do that. Lunch is 40 minutes and I just spend my time doing that, I feel comfortable doing that but my mom is bullying me for that. Whenever I come home she asks me "Have you made any friends?" I always tell her no and she calls me a loser and she laughs at me. She also yells at me. She calls me "Lonely boy" instead of my real name and it's really getting me mad and I am suicidal now. I think about dying everyday now. I prefer to be alone at school. I don't want any friends but she doesn't understand that. What should I do? I hate my life now.
What makes people become a loner?
Introverts, are actually what "loners" are and it is just another personality type. A long term study released in England in the late 90's gave some of these results. Extroverts, it turns out, suffer much more peer pressure, need for attention, need to fit in, need to be accepted. Those who feel loneliness most and often are extroverts. Ppl who have problems with making decisions are extroverts. But most important was the finding that Extroverts need others to keep them interested in life and the world around them. Most extrovert don't seem to be able to stand their own company, least not for long. Introverts on the other hand, are not necessarily shy, never bored, always have something to do and enjoy their own company. They don't feel the need to cause others pain, to prove anything to anyone, fit in, for acceptance, suffer little peer pressure. They tend to be more insightful, better listeners, more independent, open minded, decisive, just as confident, able to speak their minds when "they" feel like it. Introverts tend to be more creative and imaginative. They can go as far in life as any extrovert, example of just one... Donald Trump. They also choose their friends differently than extroverts and they do have friends, very few who understand their ways or at least accept them. And the one thing we're "not" is unhappy. Introverts do not need others to keep them interest in life and the world around them. Introversion has little to do with mentality, nor choice, most are born so and there's nothing wrong with it, those who are feel if it was choice that is where they'd choose to be.
What do you do if you're in love with a loner?
You reach out to them. And respect their decision.Approach them, get in contact with them, be sure of your feelings, and try to develop a relationship.If they insist on being alone due to their “lonerness”, then that’s that. Respect their decision, and move on.
Should we make being a "Loner" Illegal??
Actually, needing people around just shows that you are weak. The ability to thrive while alone is a positive quality. The media portrays killers as loners often because they want to polarize and perpetuate differences between them and "normal people" when there are really no differences. The term "loner" is not to be equated with killers. 99% of the killing throughout this world's history has been done within the comfort of companionship. Do not forget this. .
Is being a loner a bad thing?
i've been a loner ever since i can remember. i have no friends or girlfriends. i give everybody who tries to get close to me the cold shoulder. i'm not particularly happy or sad about it. that's just the way i am.
How do you flirt with a loner?
Odds are your last sentence was dead on. If hes anything like my type then yea, we are used to women who take advantage of us so we dont try to get into a relationship. So we dont respond flirting and if anything we really will test your patience to see just how badly you want us. If you really care, dont let up. make your presence know but dont impose anything apon him. Talk to him about w/e if possible just make him know that you like being around him and that your willing to stick around. So be patient and dont treat him like a jock. We dont want any of the body parts we want a personality that will be there for us. But who knows he may not be like me. But if he is then he will certainly be able to make anyway who tries hard enough at him very happy.
What do you think of loner person?
Of course there are people like you. The problem is that as loners, it’s hard to forma “loners club” because no one would want to go to meetings, or if you did you wouldn’t be a loner. (Sorry, I just had to get that one out of my system.)If you are getting depressed about being a loner, it sounds like you are ready to begin not being a loner. But take it easy. Don’t try to make a bunch of friends. That seldom works because the friendships are superficial.Instead, pick something that interests you and pursue it. Art, sports, reading, science, hiking, eating, cooking, knitting or just about anything. Then pursue your interest. This will lead to meeting people with whom you have common interests.Sometimes it will be just conversations about your common interest, and some people may have more in common with you than you realize. In a relatively short time you will begin to have friends. Be patient, but do make an effort. Nothing comes from doing nothing.
Befriending a loner?
I have an acquantance who I don't normally see, but I've been trying to make an effort. He's a bit of a loner, and I don't think he has friends to hang out with on the weekend. I'm not doing this out of pity--I truly want to be his friend. Any tips (perhaps from former loners/misanthropes?) about befriending someone like this? I know he doesn't mind my company. How do I ask if he has any friends to hang out with on the weekend? I worry about him a bit.