Do every girl behave inconsistently?
I mean one day she'll flirt with me, the next day she'll ignore me. Is every girl like this or she's trying keep me interested and keep me in the back burner. One friend said that girls are all like that, my other friend said that I should avoid inconsistent women. So which is which?
How do I deal with inconsistent men?
Don’t run to meet them when they decide to call. (I did that once, and as soon as I did, he lost interest in me. It hurt to realize that.)Go out with friends and don’t text any of the guys you are writing about—don’t tell them where you are going or when you will be back. Take a weekend off with friends—go to a concert—don’t clue these guys in on what your plans are. Let them call you and talk to your message machine or voice mail. Live a life that is not dependent upon any man at all.Think of things you like to do with your consistent friends, (who value you) and then do them. Learn to enjoy spending time with yourself. Take a walk—read a book. Don’t answer the phone when you see one of them calling. Let it ring—let him wait. Let him figure out that he really wants to be with YOU. Or not.Be inconsistent. It’s hard because we like our boyfriends and hate to lose them. But they are already lost. They are not committed to you at all. They are committed to themselves and their own entertainment—a long-term relationship is not in their minds at all.They may call you when there is no one else to call. That sounds cruel, but it can be true. Don’t always be available. You are not playing a game. You are being true to yourself and taking care of yourself. Because these types of guys are not taking care of you. Someone who really cares about you will be consistent. It’s hard to see the guys we like as selfish, but maybe they just are not ready for a steady relationship.These guys are tempting to FIX. But don’t try to fix them. They have to grow up by themselves. They are not ready for a steady relationship. Worst case: they use you. If one of them did date you exclusively at this time in his life, he would probably cheat on you. Don’t put claims on him. Let him be who he is—and enjoy the true friends you have.Join in on activities where you can meet men who are attractive AND consistent. Who value YOU. Who value themselves in a relationship with YOU. Who feel lucky to have found you.They are pretty cool men. And they are all grown up and you don’t have to fix them.
My ex has always been inconsistent & unfaithful etc. Now he makes the same empty promises to our kids, and never helps me support them or calls to check up on them. Would it be wrong if I kept the kids away?
My ex has always been inconsistent & unfaithful etc. Now he makes the same empty promises to our kids, and never helps me support them or calls to check up on them. Would it be wrong if I kept the kids away?I am not an attorney or an employee of the court system. I am and always have been single and childless. However, I used to adjudicate divorce documents for one of the Federal agencies to determine former spouse benefits for a specific retirement system.I would advise you to check over not only your divorce documents but your child custody documents—in short, everything. I also recommend that you speak with your attorney before you do anything drastic. It would seem to me that if your ex is endangering or harming your kids in any way and you can prove it, that would probably be a no-brainer for the court system. However, things are not always as cut and dried as we would like them to be. I would recommend that you discuss any actions that you are considering taking with your attorney. Make sure that you bring a copy of the documents in their entirety with you so that s/he can review them again. After all, most attorneys have way more than one client.Don’t do anything drastic or foolish in the interim.BTW, I think that most kids come to the realization as to who is participating in their lives and who isn’t. Sad and pathetic as s/he may be, at some point, the kids will realize who is spending time with them and supporting their activities. Don’t become as much of a jerk as your ex is. Think before you act, and make sure that you have at least one legal leg to stand on.Good luck!
Why are Taurus men so inconsistant?
There is a Taurus man in my life who has shown interest in me then disappears. Everytime I move on, he's back in my life pursuing me. I've gotten the impression from others that he doesn't have much dating experience and that friends would be surprised if he had a girl. He sometimes comes on so strong and direct then retreats when I return the interest. Most of the time we see eachother in public, he sits with his friends and stares at me then looks away when I look back. It's like high school and we are in our twenties. He does have something about him that always lures me back. I wish he would either give in or leave me alone. Why the back and forth? Most of the time I swear I could do absolutely zero and he would still behave like this with me. I never notice him do this with other girls? Why!?!
Why are conservatives inconsistent with their pro-gun argument?
It's because the two parties are so bent on disagreeing with each other that neither of them see sense. I think pot should be legalized (it's not any more dangerous than alcohol, and we may as well regulate and tax it), but drugs are a different issue than guns. Stricter drug laws won't stop illegal drugs, but we also do not stand to lose anything from them. Stricter gun laws mean impeding our ability to defend ourselves. We stand to lose a lot more from that. So I don't necessarily agree with it, but I can see where they're coming from.
What makes ladies lose interest in a man that they once were interested in?
There are a number of things that will usually turn a woman off even when they were interested prior to the fact. Most of these revolve around: congruence.What do I mean by congruence: Are you what you appear to be?a) Women are inherently attracted to a man because of particular attributes or character traits of their personality. Confident, smart, humorous, funny, modest, humble, alpha, aggressive, successful, presentable. . . you name it.b) Women, are also inherently repelled by certain traits; desperate, needy, insecure, dishonest, pushover, showoff, egomania. . . you name it.Overtime, men have - mostly through old-school PUA (Pick-Up artist) conditioning and ‘Guru’ boot camp training or whatever - learnt to fake most of the traits in a), and simply appear to possess the traits that women find attractive, instead of actually taking the time and putting in the effort to become the kind of man women find attractive.Faking the traits in a) will help a man ‘attract’ the woman but pretenses usually don’t stick for long. The veil gradually wears off. Leaks in personality start to show. She makes a run for it.Women generally do not take well to being manipulated or to false pretenses. They do not appreciate ‘phonies’. This explains the ‘nice-guy’ paradox, but that’s a discussion for another day.Act cool and laid back, she’s interested. Later, punch the waiter straight in the nose for spilling your drink; not congruent.Pick her up in a friends ride, wearing fancy clothes, take her to a fancy restaurant for dinner; you bet, she’s interested. Return to your place later and it doesn’t quite match the ‘apparent’ status displayed thus far; not congruent.Act secure and non-needy, she’s interested. Take things wayyy too far the first time you make out; needy, not congruent. Not interested.Act confident and secure, she’s interested. Start a fight with a looser guy that’s hitting on her while you’re grabbing drinks, on your second date . . . well!P.S. Unrelated, you might find this free resource helpful: 10 Powerful Tips, Tricks and Free Tools To Make Your Internet Life Much Easier!