How can a babysitter impress parents?
I'm meeting the mother of a 3 month old baby boy tomorrow morning about a possible babysitting job. She has three other people coming over throughout the day who are also interested in the job. I don't know anything about the other people, but could some current mothers and experienced babysitters give me some general advice about what to wear, what to bring, questions to ask, etc. that would give me a leg up? I really want the job.
As a parent, how do you overcome the fear of trusting a stranger to take care of your children during a night off?
From some of the other responses I have read it makes it seem like a crime for a parent to want a night out or a small break. Everyone is different in their approach in caring for their children but I am a big advocate for having a break to either hang with friends or a few hours to run errands alone.For you to be able to leave your children with a stranger you will need to do some background checking. First interview the possible candidate and offer them the opportunity to spend an hour or so with you and your children to see how they behave. Ask them questions about their patience levels, their views on children, their stance on spanking etc. Get a general vibe from them, request to have recommendations from others and to be able to contact and speak with these people.If all goes well and your mom instinct is telling you to go with this person then I would then proceed to have a few nanny cameras set up in general areas of the home. You can choose to disclose this information or not. I have known people who haven't. Give the person a test run, leave them with the children and possibly have a neighbor or family friend drop by while you are away to see what's going on.There are bad people who do bad things to children but generally if you do a thorough check you can spot those people from a mile. Another suggestion is to pay the sitter well and let them know that you paying for their undivided attention so, keep their cell phones away during that time. Rule is, if you're calling to check up, you will call the house phone.It's not an easy road to travel but I believe there are trustworthy people in the world and please do not feel bad that you are taking some time to care for yourself.
How should domestic violence against men be recognized?
When a man is the victim of domestic violence, it's treated more as a joke or an item of great humor, kind of like when a male gets kicked in the testicles. Have something similar happen to a woman and there would be an uproar. I blame men for not pressing charges, putting up with it and not taking legal action. Also for treating it like a joke themselves. Hey...if they don't mind or are afraid to look weak by having been under attack, why would others care? You can see a living example here... itsalltrue12 ....where men are shamed and verbally abused ....as being a pathetic excuse as a man if they get attacked by a woman, so men fall for this manipulation that women use on their egos and keep quiet about it as women hope they will....Men don't talk! The above attitude is typical, as would be found with a woman who abuses her husband with physical violence. We have been so pushed at with "men don't put a hand to women", that men won't defend themselves or put a hand to a woman. The only ones who do are themselves perpetrators of domestic violence, or will be accused as such if they attempt to defend. You can't restrain a woman indefinately...they can be kind of persistent as well when scorn is the agenda. Hahaha! There are huge varriation in strength from one man to another, as also from one woman to another. Some women are very physically strong. There is much pressure on dealing with"violence against women". The focal point needs to be "violence".... and not women. Where violence exists, there will always be violence against women, and men and children. Violence is no respecter of plumbing. Me! :- )
Do teachers have the right to tell students that they cant use the bathroom ?
Check this out:My daughter was in 5th grade when she was repeatedly denied use of the restroom. Unfortunately she did not tell me what was going on until after she was vomiting from a severe urinary tract infection, which then moved to her kidneys. I contacted the school's principal regarding the issue and he assured me he would handle it. My daughter missed WEEKS of school due to this infection and when she returned, she had a physician's order to allow her to use the restroom whenever needed. Despite the physician's order and the principal's assurance that the matter had been taken care of, my daughter was again denied use of the restroom. I again called the principal, who became extremely angry at the teacher in question and assured me again that the matter would be taken care of. I assured him that while I was playing nice now, I would not be if the teacher denied my daughter again. I let him know that if anyone in that school building denied use of the restroom to my daughter, I would not be calling him again, I would be calling a lawyer. Needless to say, my daughter did not have any further problems. The physician's letter has been made a permanent fixture in her records and goes with her from school to school. So far, there have been no problems and she has just entered 9th grade.
Why is it unprofessional for teachers to kiss or hug or make out with partners when kids/teens can see?
Still dont get it? All the students going to do is tease a little lie Sirs got a hicky if polo neck or miss loves so in so miss loves soin so. In fact they may get protective... ie make sure nobody messes with sirs girlfriend. ie why is it a negative thing... affection is a good thing. Professionalisim has F all to do with kissing, suits, approiate behavour... a professional Plumber fixes pimpes properly and makes sure tidies up prperly after and makes sure has the right tools. A professional cake maker makes good cakes and hygeneically and makes sure no nuts if danger of alergies... If I emply a professional I dont care what they look like or if they kiss anyone... Surekly it should be Can you teach or not? Do the kids understand you and can you keep disciplin or not? Do you know all their ticks and secret spots ie smokers corner... or not? ie can you do the job or not? Isnt that what professionalisim is all about?
How do polyamorous couples handle children? Do they tell the children that the other amours are "friends," or more? How do they handle the difference between what society expects of a marriage and what you have agreed on between each other?
My husband has two partners, myself (his legal wife) and another, who is the mother of our child. We live together and raise the child equally. We are not competitive and I consider my metamour very generous for how completely she has shared her daughter with me. I am "Mama" and she is "Mummy". We were together at her birth (at home), so our daughter has known no other way of being. In terms of handling what society expects, we go in to situations confident and without any discomfort on our part - it's amazing how far that goes in eliminating discomfort in other people. For example, we present ourselves as 3 parents with our daughter to her teachers, her pediatrician, her dentist, her babysitter, etc. We simply say, "Maya has two mothers and one father, and we all live together." The typical response is, "Oh, ok," and they note down 3 contact numbers instead of two. No one who is not a personal friend has asked for any more details. They really don't care, as long as our daughter is well cared for, which they quickly see that she is.In terms of how we present our partners to our child, they are known as special friends. All our daughter knows is that they come over a lot. She doesn't yet know or care about who we sleep with, and we don't share any more information about our sex lives than any parent would with their children. If a partner bonds with our daughter, it's a wonderful thing. And if they don't, they might not be our partner for long...Many people wonder about what happens if our daughter gets attached to a partner and then we break up. It's no different from when a beloved teacher, friend, or babysitter moves away. It is sad, but it happens to all children, poly or mono. Fortunately, we stay friends with 99% of our exes, meaning they still get to see each other.When she is a teenager, I assume we will need to have much more explicit conversations about all this, but for now we are simply building a foundation in which she feels secure and loved by all of us.