Can a married woman hang out with male friends this way?
The reason why I would have a problem with this is because she is putting herself into a position where things happen. T H I S is always the very beginning of how affairs take shape. "Well, we went to that movie and then we had dinner, and after a few glasses of wine, one thing happened after another and ..." Best of intentions DO NOT MATTER. Whether you're fine with it or not DOES NOT MATTER. Whether this is normal or not does not matter. She's walking a tightrope. In essence, she's dating these guy-friends. Unless these guy friends are gay, you have a problem. Ask her how she would feel if you dated some girl friends on nights when she was busy. "I'm going to the movies tonight with Sally" wouldn't sit too well with her, and it's not about whether or not you trust her - I don't trust THEM ! The straight guy friends! You're a man - you know what goes through a healthy male mind on a pretty much constant basis, don't you? So WHAT that they're 'just friends'. Like that matters !! If one of them decided to look at her in a different light, do you really think she would tell you? "Sweetie, Jack came onto me tonight and I'm telling you because I want you to know that I rebuked him." Like that would make you feel any better? I would have a B I G problem with this. You might have to lower the boom, and ask her to re-think all of this. Show her this post and see how she responds. If she respects you and your feelings, she will spend less time with them, and maybe do some soul searching to discover why she doesn't like women. She IS one, and for her to be unable to relate to women needs to be addressed, if she wants to keep her marriage intact. If she says that she won't stop hanging out with whoever she wants, then you have even bigger marital problems than you think. If my man told me that he didn't want me hanging out and 'dating' my male friends, I would drop them (or at the very least, spend A LOT less time with them) because that's what marriage IS !!!! It's putting your partner's needs and wants above your own. It's SACRIFICE and compromise. If she doesn't get that, then you have bigger problems than you think. This is my view.
Is it possible for a man and a woman who are attracted to each other to be just friends if they can’t be together for some reason?
Well I don't think so. People who have attraction towards each other can't be friends. Either they can be in a relationship or move apart with mutual consent.I think Attraction is the precursor of affection and intimacy. Attraction can be of varying degrees but it gets its fuel if you are in contact with the one you are attracted to, it lights up the spark making it more passionate and fierce. Once your feelings are strengthened there remains a high probability that urge for attention, commitment and sex would arise. Especially when both are attracted to each other. And if this desire is not fulfilled there would be constant strain between the two people which may affect their personal and professional life in the long run.
Is it okay for a married woman to go out with male friends?
For you in your marriage it is a non-issue because you do not have a problem with your wife maintaining her relationship with her male friends. You knew when you met her that she is a guy's girl and hangs out with them, You trust each other and that is all that matters. If your friends have a problem with it, chances are they do not have trust in their own relationships which is why they say you are "crazy to let let your wife socialize with other men" they are crazy to think that they can control who a woman associates with because she can choose to associate with whomever she wants, it just makes life a lot easier if the guy is mature enough to be in an adult relationship and accept his wife for who she is instead of trying to control her. It sounds like you are one of the good guys...to bad not enough are like you...best of wishes...
Why don't women want to get married anymore?
I was seriously wondering from an experience talking to my friends, why women don't want to get married anymore? My friends love to be in relationships, yet they never want to get married or work towards marriage with one person, instead it's about "hooking up", or having "mr. right now", I'm married and as far back as I can remember I always wanted to get married to that one special person. Can someone help me understand this concept? This is not to cast judgment, I seriously am wondering.
Is it OK for a married woman to socialize with other men?
I admit I am olderand more conservative, but I have noticed its more common for guys and gals to be friends and hang out together. In my day unless you were dating a girl you mostly hung out with your guy friends. I am friends with a younger couple in their 30's. He works hard and relaxes by staying home and being with his young daughter. He does go out with her couple times a month and a couple more to golf with me and his other golf buddies. His wife has a lot of male friends. She sees no problem going out with them at least once a week. I have seen her at a ball games, and a bar.. I am not saying she is cheating, but I know the guy I saw her with at a bar, he is one of my son's friends, and unless he is 'getting something' he wouldnt be out with a girl. The husband opened up to me while golfing and said it makes him uncomfortable, but his wife says she would never cheat and is appaled he would even question her. These are only friends and 'she can have friends even if they are guys'. But, another golf buddy said she had called him to see if he wanted to go to a movie with her. He did go, and admitted to me she seemed 'open' to any advances had he made them. I am not going to do anything, just want people opinions!
Can married women have guy friends?
Yes you can have male friends. But most of the things in this world comes as conditions apply. Similarly the same conditions go even in the relationships sometimes. There is nothing wrong in having male friends provided there is a limit to that relationship. When your husband gets to know that the guy was you friend in the past the one thing that immediately strikes is your friend was a part of your life that your husband does not know about. Not only your husband most of the husbands are like that it creates a curiosity in them to dig more into your past. Knowingly or unknowingly the old friends general laugh around at many things about their past that their spouses do not understand. Such things create a sense as if they are being alienated from the conversations, their minds do not rest unless they are informed back what you guys really laughed at in the past. It creates a sense of insecurity in many husbands if they are possessive about their wivesI personally have witnessed many of my friends had their girl friends in college who stopped talking to them after they got married. They had nothing in between them expect friendship but they have opted to stay away from talking. The same implies to the guys, they try to cut down the contact with their girl friends if there is a pressure from his wife.Most of the husbands are never comfortable if their wife maintain contacts with their guy friends in the past. I do not say your husband is right but he is not equally wrong also, the same thing goes in most of the husband’s minds. If your husband is good in other aspects except this one then I will suggest you to trim down the contacts with your males friends. You can just keep them limited to Facebook messages or occasional phone calls. End of the day your husband is the one whom you really share the relationship, friends can only stretch to some extent and help us. If you husband has become over possessive and if he is troubling you he seriously needs some counseling. But if he is only feeling bad about it do not worry it is a quite common feeling. There is nothing wrong in maintaining the contacts but you might need to limit them. Same thing implies even to men also.