How to make a frenemy jealous?
she puts me down and makes me feel like im nothing i kno i could ignore it or make new friends, but i dont take that from anyoneee, so i wanna get back at her how do i show off and make her jealous without being obvious? i really want her to be jealous she hates me and pretends to like me, so ive never done anything bad to her...any ideas on making her jealous?
How to deal with a frenemy that's a roommate?
I can't exactly move out. and she's not bad all the time. she's self absorbed enough to not notice that I actually don't like her any more. I'm trying to match her superficiality in conversation and skid by with distant politeness. I won't go into details but she's extremely toxic as a friend, we used to be so close and now I've been hurt by her emotional distance, her rudeness (cancels hangout times constantly, has loud sex when I've mentioned how it bothers me, never cleans). We were once pretty close, but in waves, I would be so happy when she'd open up to me, and then she'd cancel or go back to being cagey. She has few female friends. I don't want to be her friend. I have to deal with her though, since we live together. I don't want to screw up the balance in the house and make it spelled out that I don't like her. But my blood pressure goes up when I deal with her. How do I deal with my emotions and maintain my composure/sanity?
How do you know if someone is a friend or a frenemy (an enemy who pretends to be a friend)?
I have known too many frenemies in my life and I always wanted to believe that I was wrong about this. I turned a blind eye to the insults, put downs, back handed compliments/insults all disguised as jokes. I felt the sting over and over again. Someone said to me it's like being gently pecked to death by ducklings. That's exactly right. I had friendships like these go on for several years and it wore away at my self esteem and sense of well being. When I would spend lots of time with people like this and let my guard down perhaps over drinks or just long talks I would feel incredibly conflicted. On one hand they were my best friend and confidante. On the other I could not even possibly convey the feeling of abject dread that they were out to get me. I could cite a billion examples. I was so desperate to have "close friends" that I ignored my gut screaming at me very loudly. That (ignoring my intuition) was almost worse than the cruelty itself. The betrayal of myself. The lying to myself. It made me feel completely crazy. Ever since ousting those friends I can't even express the relief of feeling I was not completely crazy and re-adjusting my radar to attract those who don't make me constantly wonder, the ever present feeling of sleeping with the enemy. The hardest thing about frenemies is that at least for me some of these people are completely awesome in many other ways so it's not like they have horns and a tail. In fact you feel a very tough time letting them go. But at the end of the day I have just come to realize that I need to ask myself how do I feel when I'm with that person? Do I feel safe? Do I feel I trust them? Are they watching my back? If the answers to all of these questions are no they are not your friend plain and simple. One non specific example I can give was when someone I was very close with met the person I was dating and completely ga ga over and she knew this. One evening I introduced my friend to this person. She made comments that not only embarrassed the hell out of me but cast me in a very negative light in front of someone I was crazy about. So much so that the guy might even rethink his choice of me as a girlfriend. Of course she was "just kidding". Whatever.I was completely red in the face and tried to smile and pretend I wasn't offended while I was dying inside. Why would a friend do that? Because she wasn't. That's why.
I have this frenemy who has become my envious stalker and who wants to penetrate my social circles?
Her brother told me that their parents encouraged their children to marry Jewish in order to get to their money and feed their destitute family. I understand that being poor may be very hard and turn you into a thief, a liar and a psychopath, and I truly hope her spirit will heal and find peace in goodness, honesty and decency, but I really don't want to have any type of relationship with her after all her betrayals. On top of that, she is still jealous and envious of me: nobody is crazy enough to entertain a relationship with an envious person. She has convinced her boyfriend (my ex-bf, lol) that she is a good person and wants to intrude my social circles because she likes me (he is incredibly malleable and gullible) but I know her since high school. I believe she is in the way of becoming a better person and I have seen a lot of progress, but I don't think the day will come when I want to be her friend again. She would have to apologize and repent sincerely and give me back all she stole from me and take back all her curses. I don't think she wants a relationship with me, she is ashamed of herself, but he can't live without me and is convincing her that she must be my friend. How to convince my poor ex-boyfriend that I don't want any relationship with a person who has victimized me and others? I admire his kindness and determination to help her improve herself and integrate society. He is a wonderfully good man. But why can't he understand that I have the right to refuse socializing with whoever I want, I don't hate her, I understand she suffered a lot, but we are not in the same spiritual realm. HE is the one who doesn't want to forget me.
What are some good ways to get revenge on mean frenemies?
*write something nasty in the bathroom (make sure it is nowhere near your handwriting, you might want to practice.) also make sure its something completely out there and its not just a secret between her circle of friends, then they could suspect you. *start a rumor. drop a note somewhere that looks like it was between two girls (no names or information) talking about your "friends" and saying nasty things. drop it in a hallway or a bathroom (make sure no one sees YOU drop it) and let it go from there. *when you are at a sleepover or something. ask if you can go to the bathroom. find their shampoo and remember exactly how it was placed. take out a small container (small enough to fit in your pocket and not be noticed) of vinegar. while "flushing" the toilet (just incase they are listening, sick perverts) pour the vinegar in and shake just a little. (by the time they realize it will be totally mixed in.) while "washing your hands", wrap the container in a tissue and then actually wash your hands so you dont smell anything like vinegar (just incase) they wont get the smell out for days. but make sure to make other noises like toilet flushing so it doesnt sound like you are sabatoging them. *dont invite them to parties, this ticks girls off alot. later, post pictures on myspace or write stuff about it on aim or anything. remember, revenge is best served cold so act like you normally would when your frenemies are torturing you. try to space these events out a little if you are going to use all of them. i suggest doing the shampoo thing during the school year for the most pain. also, next schoolyear, GET NEW FRIENDS! talk to other people and you'll see that you can get along with other people. cya ;)