Is my dad mentally ill?
I think the best approach (which it seems like you have already tried) is the direct, diplomatic, assertive approach: "Dad, I cannot live like this anymore. You are hurting me beyond words. You are my father and I love you, but If you do not change, I will not be able to have a relationship with you." I had a father who was also emotionally distant and socially awkward and detached. However, it was not his habit to blow up at anyone. He would sit silently in resentment and stew. My parents had a miserable marriage. Our household was full of anger and tension. The only thing you can do is be nice and calm and do not add to the tension with angry outbursts of your own (how I wish I could go back and do that myself). Get yourself a therapist, someone you can vent to and say all the things you cannot say to your dad. Ask your parents to join you for a session or two. Tell them how you feel in the safe, neutral environment of therapy. If nothing changes, find things to do outside the home, spend more time with your friends, join a social group at church, and know that you did all you could to improve things. Above all else, do not blow up at your dad. You seem like a really sweet kid. I am very sorry you are having this problem. Clearly your dad has some issues which you cannot allow yourself to be responsible for fixing. It's kind of like living with an alcoholic. Every day is some crisis and everybody walks on eggshells to avoid upsetting him and triggering his abuse. Trust me, this will hurt you, and it will hamper your ability to have healthy relationships of your own, if you don't get some help.
Fathers Day quotes?
My Dad has had a tough year so far, unfortunately my Grandmother, his Mother, fell very ill and sadly died quite unexpectedly a few short months ago. Myself and my brother are doing family based Fathers Day gifts and I'm doing a personalised card on Moonpig which will have a collection of pictures of my Dad, my brother and myself all together in every picture. I want to put a quote on the front stating that it's time that matters and he's given a lot of that, evidential by the pictures. I like the quotes 'it's the little things that count' and 'your children need your presence more than your presents'. However I feel the second one sounds like I’m informing he needs to do that, rather than stating he has done that and we love, respect and appreciate him for it. Can anyone else think, or does anyone know other quotes that may be appropriate? Thank you!
My step dad called me ugly and my mom did NOTHING about it?
I don't have a myspace so i can't see them. That was really rude to be called that from your own parent (even if he is a step dad, he is your legal guardian). Talk to him and tell him how you feel. EDIT:Try using http://photobucket.com with your pics
Seeking forgiveness from my dead father.?
My father died 3 years ago from complications during an operation. He was, quite literally, all the family I had left. Just before he started getting ill, I was dumped by someone I loved and I fell into severe depression, and as my dad got sick I resented having to look after him and longed to live a normal life. I would go out after work and didnt come home til quite late, and gradually my father became quiet and distant, he must have felt that I didn't care about him. Then I found out he had some money saved up when he insisted we open a joint account so he could put all his money in there.. This was the key to my happiness...him dead and me with all that money. So, I wanted him to die. Gradually he got so ill that he needed an operation. On the day he went into hospital, I ran back home, excited and started paying off my credit card bills with his money. I wasnt even there when he woke up. I phoned the hospital to see how the op went, praying for them to say it wasn't successful, they did. He had weeks to live and stayed in hospital while I spent his money. Finally he died and I was with him with all his friends. I felt free. Now, 3 years on, the anguish, shame and guilt is destroying me. I miss him terribly.He was a lovely man, who deserved so much more. I miss him, But it's the guilt and shame that I cant take anymore. I cant even look at photos of him. I want to kill myself some days, because the pain is paralysing...and I deserve this pain. Is there anything that can help lessen the pain or must I live like this forever? There is a lot written about forgiveness, but how can I be forgiven by someone who has died?
Did Hospice Kill My Dad with Morphine?
It is quite common for someone with advanced cancer to become very ill in a short period of time just like your dad did. My 56 year old brother was hunting in Nov. and had no idea anything was wrong when he suddenly started experiencing terrible back pain. By Feb., he was dead from lung cancer that had spread just about everywhere. He had no idea he had cancer in Nov. and was actually diagnosed 2 weeks before xmas. He died within 6 weeks of being diagnosed. He went from being a normal active person to being bedfast in 2 weeks wracked with horrible pain. Your father needed the morphine to be comfortable. Hospice is a wonderful organization that really does understand the process of dying to put it bluntly. They are there for comfort measures until the end comes. I will honestly say it was a blessing when my brother did die in that short time because he was truly suffering. I would not have wanted more time for him in that condition. Pain medicine was the one thing that did keep him comfortable, so we along with hospice gave him all he needed. They don't overdose, but they do give enough to take the pain away which means they often sleep or are in a semi conscious state since that is the side effect of morphine. They just sleep or go into a coma until it's over. I would not want them writhing in pain just so I can talk to them some more. The morphine did not kill your dad. Cancer did. The morphine did exactly what it was supposed to do which was make him pain free as possible. The reason hospice is liberal with morphine is because people often hurt at the end. There is hardly any disease around in which you go pain free into death. When the body breaks down, there is usually pain involved. I worked in nursing homes for many years as a nurse and giving morphine to terminally ill patients was quite common and normal. You do not want the patient to have to ask for more pain meds or get to the point of having intense pain between shots. You want them to be comfortable and pain free all the time. You don't want them to have up and down episodes of horrible pain. This is why you keep giving the morphine on time. Hospice only follows the orders of a doctor that controls the amount of morphine allowed to be given. The doctors are well aware of how much to give. If they go into a coma with no response, then you know the end is very near.
My Dad is LAZY?
This is quite embarrassing but here it goes... I have a lazy dad!!! He is just so lazy I get mad thinking about it. My mom literally works her a** off to provide for us while he sits on his a** doing nothing. My mom even has health issues and all her hard working affects her body causing her to be sick, etc. My dad lost his f****** driver's lisence so he cant even help my mom by taking us to school. He has been out of work for 5 YEARS and always makes up some dumb excuse of... "Oh ill get a job" or he comes up with these bright ideas to try and start a business. Right now is not the time to try and start a business!!!! He needs a FREAKING JOB...my mom is the most hard working person and my dad does nothing but go over his friend's house and play video games. I wanna help my mom but I dont know how...any tips?? Sorry this was so long...thanks ! :)