How should I handle this situation?
My friend told me about innaprooriate things her dad does like slapping her butt, giving strange compliments, buying her alcohol. And not a little dainty glass at restaurants, but bottles and beers. At a cottage my friends and I went to: I had a water bottle which I drank out of. He asked if he can have some. He drank directly from the mouth area. Another event that happened was at lunch time, I asked my friend if I can have some pasta and she said yes. Her dad walks over and says "I will serve you" smiling. I took this as a polite gesture and thought it would be a bother so I said "I'm ok" and continued. He said "you just seem to do whatever you want" and "how would you feel if one of your parents made a dish and your friends just took it without asking." I told him they wouldn't mind and explained the cultural difference. He went on to tell me other things that bothered him which I didn't think twice of. Ie, it wasn't right for me to make breakfast the same time he was making his coffee, I should have waited until he was finished. It made me uncomfortable for the rest of the time as I didn't know how to act the way that he wanted. I woke up today at a text from him at 4AM with pictures from the cottage. For me it was an excuse to try and talk to me. I don't want to have interaction with this narcissist but if I block him it will create tension with my friend and I. I want to know if I'm over thinking it as my friends have just made jokes about it.
How should I handle this?
My finace is an alcoholic but has not drank since we have been together and attends AA meetings every so often. The problem is...he just has a flat out addictive personality no matter what the substance is. When we first met, he was a heavy pot smoker. When I say "heavy" he smoked pot the way a chain smoker would smoke cigarettes. It was constant. He didn't work, trashed the house, etc. He was high during almost all of his waking hours. From the moment he woke up until he went to bed at night. It was almost as if he was trading one addiction (alcohol) and replacing it with another (pot). I put my foot down and told him to give up the pot or give up me. He stopped, went back to work and all was well. I felt he proved himself to me and he asked me to marry him which I said yes. I have been so proud of him for turning his life around and love him so much. He has so much potential and I was full of joy that he was clean and sober of all things including pot. It would be different if he could just smoke socially or once in a while but like I said, he has an addictive personality and is unable to do that. Anyway, we went away for the weekend a few weeks ago and I went to kiss him and smelled pot on his breath. I called him out on it and he admitted that he smoked it. He got defensive and said I was blowing it way out of proportion because I was upset. I was just so disappointed. He said he had been doing it for a few weeks and boy has he done a good job of hiding it. However, he deceived me. He had promised that he would stop. When busted he dumped it downt the toilet and left it at that. I'm just so scared he will go back to the way he was. If you only knew how bad things were in the beginning when he was smoking you would know why I feel the way I do. I haven't caught him again but that's not to say he isn't doing it behind my back. We are getting married in June and I just want him to be honest with me. Please give me some advice. Should I flat out tell him that I will not tolerate him smoking pot at all and it will be a deal breaker?
How do I handle my wife?
The biggest problem comes when an argument takes place between you and your wife(Wives because of their glib tongues always win the fights).The wives never let their husband speak anything for his defense.Last month I faced this problem for 1 week, every morning we use to fight over unnecessary issues(but obvious created by her from nowhere).My office work and my kids were the major sufferers.I wanted to solve this all, but the fat ego of me and my wife was coming in between.Life was giving me lemonsOne morning the fight went into heavy duty mode with verbal attacks from her side and she was not allowing me to speak.I had good content to speak but she didn’t allow me to speak and I was helpless.That day after the fight, I left for my office bit early but couldn’t able to focus on work , then to have peace in mind I started watching motivational videos on you-tube.In one of the videos, one line struck me that line was “The best way to be out of a fear is to get into that fear”.That moment I decided to get out of this issue, but the biggest problem was she was not allowing me to speak.I decided to take the help of technology to get out of this mess.I immediately installed WhatsApp Web on my laptop. It took me 1 hour I wrote all the content(regarding the unnecessary issues she had) I had , the points where I was suppose to apologize I apologized and where she was at fault I clearly accused her.Poor girl , that day she realized that speaking is the most easiest job in this world.To my surprise, she was not having too much to write. That day I realized that the best way to handle your wife during verbal arguments is not to speak anything, take a chill , bring on board the content writing talent you have and start writing.Believe me your wife’s writing won’t be as smooth as her tongue.The biggest strength a woman has is her smooth tongue .Don’t let her take advantage of her biggest strength called tongue.Force her to write instead of speaking.It worked for me and I am damn sure this strategy will work for others too.
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