Caught dad cheating, should I tell my mom?
Well, I know you may not want to hear this. However, the marriage between your parents is the marriage between your parents. They dd not marry you. You are their child. Keep it that way. If it really bothers you so much, tell your Dad you expect him to tell your Mom. If he does not, tell him you will write her a letter (you can even make it anonymous). Sometimes when people hear bad news, they blame the messenger. It might change the relationship you have with your Mom forever if she knew that you knew. If I were you, I would do nothing. You need to think about all of these issues before you take your next step. Good Luck. Peace.
What do you do if your mom is cheating on your dad?
If you know for fact that your mom is cheating and has been for a while now, then even though she's your mom, she's cheating on the entire family as a whole. Therefore, i think you and your brother should spend some time with your mom alone without your dad and mention the facts of your knowing of her cheating and how long it's gone on. It's certain she wouldn't want you or your brother to mention it to your dad, that's when you have to tell her if she doesn't tell your dad you will. It's not right and being an adult your mom knows this. Being the parent she should be doing all in her power to set good examples not the examples she's clearly displayed in cheating. Ask her if she's cheating first, she has to be the one to admit to her wrongs before she'll ever admit the truth to your dad. If she deny cheating then you have a right to present verb,documented, cell phone text and or email proof to your mom so she understands that you do really know she's cheating and not just accusing her. I wish you and your family luck. But sometimes people do grow apart, they still love and care for one another but do manage well as a couple. So give your mom a chance to tell you the truth and be fair before casing judgment.You only have one mom and one dad please dear continue loving them both no matter who's at fault.Main thing you must remember is that sometimes couples do resolve martial differences and hardship with counseling and sometimes no matter how hard couples try things don't always work out so they part.
So I found out my mother cheated on my dad...?
So my parents broke up when I was in the fifth grade, and I was always told that it was because my mom left my dad for smoking pot a few times around us. And my dad always backed up this story, saying it was his fault. Now, many, many years later, (im 23 now), I find out that was not the case at all. Now I have learned that what really happened was my mom was having an affair with her tennis instructor (to whom she is married now). I have had huge problems with my dad growing up because I always blamed him for the divorce and he always went along with it. So my question is, do you think it's right that I have such an animosity towards my mother now for ruining my relationship with my dad and playing the role of the helpless victim (plus she would get child support from my dad every month and spend it on herself, I don't see how that's fair at all)? I hate her so much now and cannot get over that fact. Any advice?
Should I tell my mom that my dad is cheating on her?
So I'm 16 and I was out skipping school with some friends one day. Yeah I know I shouldn't have been doing it anyway. But we were at a restaurant and as we were leaving out, I saw my dad with one of the nurses he works with but he didn't see me. I knew it was him because when I went outside I saw his car out there as well. I confronted him about it and he begged me not to tell my mom, and I told him I'll think about it. I don't want to be the cause of them getting a divorce or anything and I don't like the fact of my dad lying to my mom either. What should I do?
How do I tell my mom that my dad cheated on her?
People seem to like to say “don't tell her” but I doubt most of them have been in the situation. As someone who has been there I know what it does to you. The guilt of it is overwhelming, especially for a child.Sure, you can keep it quiet and keep the sham marriage going, but you'll also hurt everyday. Every time your father leaves you'll feel the pain. Every time your mother blindly trusts him, you'll hurt. Every day takes a toll on you. You'll feel guilt you don't deserve. You'll feel pain you shouldn't have to feel. So everyone who hasn't been there that's telling the OP to stay out of it don’t understand — it's not as simple as “stay out of it.”Now the part for you — I want to point out that this isn't what I did but what I wish I did. First, be sure you want to intervene. I'm assuming you've already thought this through since it isn't a conclusion you just jump to. Then, decide whether or not you want to be the one to tell her. You can give him the option to do it himself.Now whoever you talk to first it may be difficult, so here's an option: Write a letter. Write down exactly what you want to say and hand it to your father or mother (whoever you wish to approach). This way you get to say exactly what you want. Wait with them as they read and be ready to continue the conversation.Another side note: If you wish to confront your father, either through a letter or telling him, make sure he is free. If he is anything like my mother he will use whatever excuse to get out of the conversation. Be sure you know he has nothing else to do at the moment.Be ready for whatever happens next.
I think my father is cheating on my mother. What should I do and what should I tell her? Should I tell her anything?
Good question. When I was at the age of seventeen my father was cheating on my mom seriously. Rumours were roaming around that my dad is with another woman in smugle and all those rumours were raised by my Mom’s friends but I knew everything-I shot my mouth. One day, my mom caught him red handed with the lady but my mom was smart she didn’t say anything either the lady. The day after the scenario, my mom called me in the morning in the room and my dad was there but stayed silence. Mom explained all her feelings toward the situation to me in front of my dad and all I could do was listening carefully and made a fully eye contact with mom. After all her explanations, I only said two things and I quote,”Mom I have heard everything you said and I understood your points, mom. Mom forgive dad for what he has done.” Both of them couldn’t uttered anything and I walked out politely by saying ‘excuse me mom and dad.’ And both of them replied thank you. I was happy because I set myself free.So this is my short story. I could have told my mom everything because everything was happening under my nose. But I kept asking myself ‘if I tell my mom what could be the consequences? How can I express myself to my mom without creating any intrigue? The answer was “ let the eyes see; and keep your mouth shut!” Because I don’t know how far both my dad and mom have come before I was even born. It’s five years now since I lost my dad. So I didn’t want to end a relationship that I was not present in the beginning of that relationship so this was my points to myself. And I kept my mouth shot. No problem. No confusion. No hanger. No broken bonds. And I kept my family legacy alive till now! So I would like you to do the same if you could, please?Best regards.
How do you know if your dad is cheating on your mom?
any changes in a man especially that he is trying to look younger is a huge red flag. if he is getting defensive it usually spells guilt too. its not exactly something anyone would want anyone else to know. he sounds like he is cheating, and its hard to know just what to do. but if it were me i would confront my dad with what i knew, and tell him how unhappy this makes u because its not only cheating the wife, but the child too.
Should I tell my dad that I know he cheated on my mom?
If you must say something to him, keep it short:Tell him that you know he cheated. And although at the end of the day, it’s ultimately between him and your mom, you dont want to see your mother hurt. Look him right in the eye as you tell him this.And that’s all you can do. Dont bring it up again. And DEFINITELY DO NOT TELL YOUR MOM!!!!