What are some things most people do but don't talk about?
Things Everyone Does But No One Admits To1. Place your hand on your clothes or shirt while watching TV2. Imagine on stage playing the songs you listen to.3. Wonder if people who have long disappeared from your life (or did not meet only once or twice) still think of you from time to time.4. Remember something you've done years ago.5. Post something on Instagram or Facebook, then delete it when you have only one similar.6. Feel like a quack.7. Place your hands on your chest in the bathroom, let it fill with water and then release it immediately.8. Let the cat fly freely when there is no one else around.9. Imagine what will happen if you suddenly hit or accept the person you are talking to.10. Shake if someone does not return the text message in five minutes.11. Walk in the street as you listen to music and pretend you're in a movie.12. Chase people on Facebook.13. Have plastic conversations with yourself in your head.14. Look at your tube in the toilet before throwing it away.
Can you be engaged to two people at the same time?
I have a friend who has been openly dating two girls at the same time. Both are aware of the other girl. He decided that he wants to marry one of the girls and bought her a ring and asked her to marry him. Now they are engaged. This seemed to upset the other girl and she gave him a song and dance about how she is right for him and not her. So he bought another ring and asked her too. Now both girls are aware of each other engagements. He both STILL openly dates both of them and both of them want him to take back the engagement from the other girl. But they still date him while he makes a decision. He told me, during guytalk, that he is quite comfortable being engaged to two women and he would like to just leave it like this for awhile and see if one jumps ship, making his decision easy. Have you ever heard of this? Do guys do this? Is it right? He says he is comfortable so now what? I don't get it.
What are some things that people with autism don't notice in conversations that the rest of the people do?
There is no “typical” list of problems as we are all individuals, but here are examples of things I do which create a world of problems I try to avoid:I have trouble finding precise moments when conversation topics change.I try to finish thoughts or stories even when NTs cut us off to change subjects.I have trouble at dinner parties connecting with the two or three chats going on at once unless I am seated by friends who keep me engaged.I try to find common ground with the speaker to support the subject he discussed, but it makes me look self involved - the reverse of what I intend. I.e. “That happened to me once…” I need to just internalize or wait until I am asked if something “like that happened” to me.I shut down if somebody who expresses hostility towards me is also in the room. I don't try to belong when I know I should make an effort to ignore them and engage with others.I stayed in some toxic relationships too long.I have empathy but it is misplaced at times, resulting in relationships that should not happen, or I come off too needy (even though I am not and needy people drive me crazy)
If there is no such thing as inner beauty, then why do people engage in selfless acts?
Inner Beauty is not a silly concept, just greatly misunderstood. There may BE nothing else stopping you from doing those things, other than the inner beauty you feel when you do them.
Could you be charged with a crime if you are with people doing illegal things, you don’t engage or help them, you just don’t stop or report them?
Depending on what's going on, yes - the concept you are beating around is called Willful Ignorance and the law is very aware of it. Ie. Turning a blind eye to a crime "I don't know what they were doing or what they have" only works sometimes and in some instances.There are plenty of people in jail and with felony convictions that got caught up in a raid and got hit with the same charges as anyone. No one will believe you were unaware, unfortunately.While it sounds good on paper and I totally understand - they are your friends and you don't do the stuff or sell it - you just hang with them -> the charges and a large sweep arrest won't see it the same way. Sure perhaps you can weasel out after ratting out a friend in exchange for immunity..but you don't want that.
Why do some people engage themselves in a futureless relationship?
Sheesh, you really asked the billion-dollar question.There could be any number of reasons depending on the person. The first thought that comes to mind is loneliness—they don’t have many close friends. All you have to do is join an online dating site to see that a lot of people want activities partners to do things with—things that they like to do, not what someone else might want to do, and not new things that can be explored together. They’re not too interested in what drives and motivates other human beings. Concomitant with loneliness would be the need for physical intimacy. So basically what you have is a glorified friends-with-benefits arrangement.Lonely people who need sex aren’t going to have great partner-picking skills; they’re going to choose the first decent person who throws them a bone. A lot of folks reading this might think, “Well, isn’t that the reason why you get into a relationship in the first place–because you’re lonely and want to knock boots?” Er, no. That’s not the reason you get into a relationship with an eye to making a long-term commitment (domestic partnership or marriage).People who engage themselves in relationships without a future are likely not that self-aware as to their own motivations, otherwise they wouldn’t do it. Or if they did, they’d be honest about it.
Getting re-engaged to the same person, will it be OK?
I broke off my engagement this year to my long term boyfriend. We decided to stay together and work thing's out, things are great now the pressure has been taken off. And we had a talk last night and decided that we will defiantly get wed in a few years when we are about 28ish. We decided we was too young to get wed and needed to sort our careers out etc. My family are very 'told you so' and did all that when it was cancelled (We cancelled it 3 months before the big day) that's why it took so bloody long for me to say anything, due to the lack of support from them. Our engagement was doomed from the start, Ring was too big, it all very rushed and he proposed to me where my dad got re-married to the woman that wreacked my parents marriage.(Our local park). I am worried in a few years time when we do decide to get wed, it wont feel the same as it did the first time, our first few months together of been engaged was great. just really worried that it wont feel the same again and all the fun of been engaged to him has been taken out. I suppose one way to word it would be that the 'shine has been taken off' the whole idea. Sorry this is really long it is just playing on my mind a lot at the moment.
Why do people hate when a person engages in a conversation with someone on their speakerphone?
“Don't invade my space” used to relate just to physical space that is normally considered sacrosanct.Now our space gets hijacked on another level by private phone conversations gone loud and public that suck up the oxygen in the room—on the morning commuter train, in the doctor’s waiting room, at the adjoining restaurant table—all places you cannot readily vacate.And then the incivility begins.If you ask someone to talk quietly (or turn off their lit phone in a movie theater), you take your safety into your hands when you even insinuate that someone should dare obey the rules and modulate their behavior for the benefit of others.A nasty retort is not uncommon.