My Sister Is Selfish and Immature?
My grandfather is dying but all my older sister can talk about is herself. I want to love her as a sibling but she is so selfish sometimes it is difficult to do. She also hasn't ever accepted the fact that she was manipulative and pushed my parents into arguments when we were younger, or the role she played in their eventual divorce. Instead she's constructed a life narrative in which she's always the victim, and nothing is ever her fault. She's also never apologized for wrecking the first car I owned. I want to deal with these feelings and reach some peace, what should I do?
How would you deal with an immature/over-selfish friend?
Just before you read: if you don't want to read the detailed below, I basically just want a little advice what I should do about my supposedly best friend who's being overly immature and self centred, to a degree that I'm being very negatively affected by it; my sick mum wants to be sure I have her as a resource, and she's also been my best friend since I was 14. To those who want to read the details, remember, it'll feel like I'm whinging. Basically, my best friend started off being very mature when she was in highschool, but lately she's been very "ME ME ME" in a way. Mostly it's been just, that she'll want me to hang out with her when I've already made plans with my partner (which has been hard, considering he's been overseas for a few months). She also picks fights with me whenever I do something she doesn't like, and that's whenever I do something that isn't her way. I guess that's not the issue: she admits she's selfish, and I'm selfish at times, as everyone is; but it's got to the point where it's affecting me badly, such as... When my mother was in hospital and I was distraught (due to why she was in there and how far away she was), she promised to come and see me to get my mind off it. The day before, she said she was going to a party that night and wouldn't be able to see me until the night after, and only for about an hour, because she wanted to stay at that friend's place. When I confronted her, instead of hearing "She was in a really bad way and needed me there, I didn't think you were that bad off, sorry" or something like that, I got "Well, you never hang out with me for that long because you talk to your partner everyday, so I'm teaching you a lesson by hanging out with her!" I do talk to my partner everyday because he's oversees for the next few months with family troubles; even then, I've been late to talk to him because I've been hanging out with her all morning, and have left early to hang out with her for the night. I've even not talked to him when my best friend needed me. That's just one example. She's done more since then. What should I do? Thanks for any advice!
Is it immature to not want to be friends with your ex?
Nah. It's completely mature to make your mind up about that.I was not an exactly clingy and reliant girlfriend back in my prev relationship, but my former bf did enough for both of us. It was difficult to breathe, to let things unfold naturally, he always pushed forward to be more and more serious.Therefore when we split I was happy to rediscover my own space and my own needs, just after I got through the heartbreak, obviously. I found it relieving to be a whole person again, as the relationship made me feel like neither of us makes up a complete person on our own.He arrived to see me couple months after a break up and due to distance issues he was spending all his time at my place, or hanging out with me. I was happy in the first day, wanted to chat about everything and just enjoy the day together. He asked if he could stay one more day and I was hesitant, I think I knew this is not the best idea for the two of us. He became all nostalgic and acted as if things got back to where they were and I felt the need to remind him that we're not together anymore.Although I was happy to see him and talk, these days really made me tired and self - conscious because he spoke about things that were no longer his business. I was relieved to be by myself again and reminding myself that even though it is an amazing person, we would never work as a couple.So if you do not want to be a part of all this chaos that comes out of the relationship, I fully understand.
My Friend is Being an Immature Brat?
So she recently started dating and now she doesn't talk to me at all. I tried to say hi to her in the hall but she ignored me. The dumb thing about it is that she was right next to me. Yesterday, she was hugging all my friends and talking to them but not me. So I wrote her a note saying don't talk to me anymore. She only wants to talk to me when she's upset or when she wants to brag to me about her bf. I wanna seriously curse her out. I can never talk about my happiness to her because she think everything in her life is always better! I gave the note to her bf and i told him to give it to her. But I think he didn't give it to her. I blocked him and her off of facebook and i defriended both of them. Some of my other friends don't like her and some don't say anything to her. Also she's disrepectful. My grandmother died and all she said was "oh i didn't know" she didn't say sorry or nothing. I really dislike her. I told her in the note to leave me alone and i can't see you as a friend anymore. She doesnt appreciate anything, i gave her a birthday card and she didn't say thank you. I invited her to a place my friends and i are going, and she didn't say thank you either!!!! How come im being the mature one but yet she's ignoring me??? I'm crying right now, not because im upset for losing a "friend" but how she can be so heartless and not even apologize. What should I do and should I talk to her in school on monday about it
Why do people think that childfree people are immature and selfish?
I am not sure. Perhaps jealously. I know a lot of Child-Free people. Most of us are pretty quiet about it. Keep in mind, that most people who have children secretly wished they would have put some thought into it first.
Why do people defend the selfish and immature (crying) person rather than the nice and mature one in a friend fight between them?
Because they want Peace!
What is a selfish and immature woman like in a relationship?
Selfish and Immature,Inconsiderate of your feelings, manipulative, and significantly more likely to intentionally hurt you through words, or actions if they feel that you deserve it.Selfish and immature individuals don’t reasonably consider the long term impact of their actions.So lets say you struggle together in a relationship for a year, you’re both unhappy, and then you get in a fight one night and she decides on a whim to go out and cheat on you. You obviously break up, and while you run through all of the reasons why she cheated on you, at the same time you also wonder why you wasted a year of your life with such an individual in the first place.Eliminate selfish and immature women from your dating pool — I don’t care how hot they are. Not worth the trouble man.
PARENTS: Do you think all teens are selfish and immature?
As a fourteen year old, I feel that a lot of times, older people stereotype teens as "lazy, ungrateful, immature brats." They just assume that's the way we all are. I'm not saying ALL adults do this, but some do. Why is that? Why do y'all think we are incapable of making a good decision? I would just like to hear some opinions on this. Do you or do you not feel this way? Why? Thanks :)
Is my bluntness immaturity??
Is it fake not to say what you think? Really? It's fake if you say the opposite of what you think. Or if you act as though you agree with something then walk away and tear it down talking bad about it. It's immature if you are hurting people by not thinking before you speak. It's called tact. Tact allows you to speak your mind, while wording it in such a way that does not hurt others. Also, it's not always your place to speak your mind. Do you have a relationship with the people you speak your mind to where they will listen to what you say? If not, they will not hear what you say, but they will hear that you spoke "rudely" to them. They will not tell others what you said, but they will tell others what a b**** you are. You say you know your limits, but if you are asking this question, I question whether you do know your limits or not. I am glad to hear that you speak your mind though. It is much easier (and more socially accepted & smiled upon) to become a "nicer" person, so to speak, in learning how to say things nicer, than it is to be a naturally silent person who must train themselves to speak up more often. All the power to you.
How can I stop being so selfish, immature, ungrateful, mean, arrogant, rude, self-centered, indignant, and all around worthless?
Things you are accusing yourself of being are normal traits that people feel at some point. Everyone once in while feels some and every trait from your list and it is only natural.Take into consideration that you asked about that question. With this information only I can say that you are not arrogant nor self-centered. I think you are just taking such attitude as a firewall against people who could hurt you.If these traits have overcome your personality, but you really want to change first you can ask yourself do you like to see other people happy, caring, smiling…No one can change overnight without a some kind of exceptional trauma. You could try what most people are doing. Act kindly when you see other people, try to be pleasant. It will probably be hard at first, and people that knew you as how you described up there won’t believe you, but once you start seeing difference in how people respond to your new personality you might like it.People change and that is normal, everyone has ups and downs and that is normal. If you really want to change which I believe you do. You can, you will. Try to wake up tomorrow and as other person. You won’t succeed, but try again every morning. Wake up with smile, and try to compliment first person you see in the morning. When you get in fight, ask yourself is it worth it, and did I start it. If it is not worth it, then the weather you started it or not doesn’t matter. Say that you are sorry even if it is not your fault, try to feel compassion towards every person you interact with, and understand that each and every person you ever interact with, that you ever pass by on street in market and so on, all of them have as complicated lives as you do. They all have fears and insecurities. Once you are able to understand people as beings just as emotionally active as you are, with just as much complicated lives, then you can change for real. It is easy to be good when there are no problems pressuring you, but if your kindness cracks with the slightest appearance of misfortune you need to change.And when someone else is giving you the hard time, he is the one who needs your kindness the most, because he is the one who is feeling bad and he is building a wall to protect himself.I believe that you want to change. I believe in you that you will change.