What should you do when you realize that your family doesn't care for you and don't love you?
I came to this realization when I was older and reflecting on my younger years. My family provided financially but had nothing to give emotionally. There were deliberately abusive even in later years. When I confronted them, they were defensive, and I realized they didn’t care. They did care about the image to others though. Something was missing and wrong and always was. I grieved for the family I wish I had. I accepted that I had to play the cards that were dealt.What should you do? This is what I did. I started to make myself a top priority and loved me. I know that I touched other lives in a positive way through my work and was successful. Even though my family would try to diminish my accomplishments. I became grateful for the gifts that my family did give me (health, beauty, an education, a way to make a decent living, and even through the negatives I became stronger). I didn’t need to retaliate anymore as I saw them as sad people in a way, especially when some of them aged and became sickly. I was OK with me and who I was inside.I learned to cut people from my life immediately that didn’t show me respect and genuine concern through their actions, not words-which are hot air in many cases.Even though it may mean being alone at times; it’s OK. I have self-respect and peace. Both are wonderful and priceless.
My family doesn't have a car.?
Okay, so my family doesn't have a car and I'm super embarassed because everyone at my school always says "Omg, I saw your parents walking". It's really annoying . To make it worse, my parents could most likely buy a car but they say "It's just easier this way". For them yes it could be. As for me no, its not (I get bullied because of this). I've brought it up with my parents and they just say "Don't let haters bother you" or "Just ignor them" but its hard for me to do that. I need some advice. (I hope I don't sound self-conceded about this) (And I'm not old enough to buy a car)
What do you do when your family doesn't respect you?
This seems like a really tough one. I am sorry that you have to go through this.Here are a few suggestions that I think may help:Learn to love yourself, first and foremost. Give yourself time to enjoy the things that bring you pleasure and have more positive thoughts about yourself. This is by far the most important! Family should be all about unconditional love, but since you are deprived of it, the suggestion I can give is to find that unconditional love in the only place that you can possibly find it: within yourself.Surround yourself with kind, considerate people. Nurture friendships and make them last. Keep in touch with people and be genuinely interested in how they are doing, without expecting anything in return. Plan random activities with friends and enjoy your time among them.Feel the love by offering love to those in need. Oftentimes, when we don't get love, the answer is to offer love. The same love that flows in and is accepted from another person can be felt because inside of us there is a lot of potential to offer.Form your own family, and form healthy bonds. This may be hard if you've had bad experiences and memories in the past, but take it slow and have patience with yourself.Take the fact that you don't have a loving family as a challenge to become a better person, and love more those around you. A lot of people are more isolated in their own inner family circle, staying with what is familiar and fail to get out in the world and make genuine connections. This is a chance for you to be more open to other people, and seek connections to last a lifetime.I wish you much luck in your path :)
Help my family doesn't like my boyfriend.?
I am very close to my family(mother, grandmother, aunts) and we usually get along pretty well. I have had the same boyfriend for 2 years now and they still don't like him. We have just had a child together and I really just want them to except him, and the fact that we are going to be together. He is not perfect but no one is. He also has had run in with the law when he was younger but he is 29 now and has been out of trouble for a while(more than 6 years). I really love him and don't plan on leaving him. Should I expect my family to like or except him? Is there anything I can do to make this happen? Also it puts a strain on our relationship because he knows how close I am to my family and that they don't like him. How can I reassure him that I am not going to leave him? Can I live peacfully with him and my family in my life? If so explain. Any good advice will help.
What should I do if my family doesn't love me?
First-just accept it. Take it on fully - no hope involved. It will never change.They have nothing emotional to give you. Nothing! Whether they were damaged or not doesn’t matter to how you are being treated.It’s not the end-for in the end all anybody has is him/herself.Love yourself and put yourself first. Go after what you want even if your life is just a journey there. Your on the right road.Yes, there will be bumps and set backs, but you have you. Realize everyone has bumps along the way.Limited or no contact with the ones who show you no love is the right move I think - it’s your choice.But make your first choice YOU!
My family doesn't care about me. What should I do?
Its definitely very difficult to accept, or move on. But we should realise that no man is an island. Everyone at a point leaves us.I had a friend who would always keep lamenting that her parents are concerned only to her bro and not towards her. I felt very bad and it was very difficult for me to comfort her when she cries.But the next day she would turn her agony into her achievements. She would keep being very attentive in all our classes, answer all quetions. She said me that the feeling that she is not important in her family motivated her to create a place where everyone feels she is important.So that day I learnt from her that though we might be of less important by our loved ones, we still can learn to create our place where we can gain our importance.That good friend who taught me this lesson is not close now to me but her lessons are still applied in my life.So people might change maybe our own family but their lessons will be lingering forever.
My family doesn't love me. How do I deal with it?
I have seen a lot of dysfunction in families, I also grew up feeling unloved by my mom and my sister. I have come to realize that my mother loved me the best she knew how (her mother was very unloving to her) and we are finally in a better place at 46. My sister and I do not have a close relationship at this time (she is not willing to make our relationship a comfortable and mutual one and I no longer participate in relationships that are unhealthy for me, but the door is open should she decide that we BOTH can work at it).I will tell you this, it may not be that they do not love you, it may be that they do not know how to love properly. There is a huge chance that they do not love themselves and that they carry pain from something that has happened to them.Happy, loving people spread happiness and love. Learn to generate your own peace and happiness so that you are not chasing the wrong people to love you and so that you learn to form and be satisfied with healthy relationships outside of family.Do your best to learn to love yourself and from there be as cordial and respectful as you can to them.There are people who will never understand the pain that love ones can cause because they have never seen it up close. Learn not to need them to validate your feelings.Read books on healing and wholeness and if and when you are of age, seek counseling.The best thing you can do is to refuse to let this stop you or turn you into an unloving person. Family is more about bonds than blood. You can find the right people to bond with if you keep yourself healthy.All the best to you!
Should I be upset my family doesn't call me?
dont feel badd..like they say it could always be worst...i'm also the youngest and i have a mother but don't know what its like to have a MOM..I have two brothers but NEVERRRR EVER in life have we just hung out together unless at a family event..when i was living up north for about 2 years i was in the hospital twice..and never once did they come visit me.....i didn't even get a phone call from my brothers..even before that neither my mom nor brothers mention coming to visit...what i did when i felt stressed or aggravated..i wrote poetry,i worked out and volunteered since those i things i like to do..dont feel too bad because if i can manage with having suicidal thoughts and make it without them cheering me up and feeling loved im pretty sure that you'll be okay.. :)