My dad cheated on my mom with my best friends mom. Should I still be friends with her?
I'm sorry your parents put both of you through that. It's so unfair. But don't for one second feel guilty. Your friend is your friend and YOU BOTH HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH THE POOR DECISIONS OF YOUR PARENTS, so please don't let that ruin your friendship or get in the way. You need each other now and should try to stay friends. It might be hard, but you should both talk about it and try to process it together. And remember ~ neither of you know what really happened and how, so there should be no blame nor speculation about it. Tough situation, but hopefully, the two of you can get through it together and come out stronger and more mature. Good luck.
Should I tell my best friend that her boyfriend cheated on her with a man?
First of all, it doesn’t really matter whether the affair partner was of a different or the same sex. Dishonesty and betrayal are separate from preconceived ideas about the spectrum of sexual preferences.That out of the way, having been notified by my “best friend” that my husband cheated on me (with her, actually) I can say with some experience and authority that it’s better coming from him - not you. If you have ever voiced any sort of reluctance about or active dislike for the boyfriend, ever, your revelation may be viewed as suspicious. As an important-to-her person in her social network, your position with her is directly influenced by the presence of a romantic partner and may be a factor in how she reacts. If you don’t believe me, go check out 80% (arbitrary number I just made up) of romantic comedies and dramas on Netflix.I support a he-tells-her-or-I-will ultimatum. However, have proof. If a cheater can gaslight and misdirect a shred of doubt about the incident or your intent, they will usually do so. Don’t underestimate his ability to convince her that you’re mistaken, lying and/or jealous. Also, don’t make the threat unless you intend to carry it out. Don’t carry it out if you aren’t prepared to deal with the consequences of some kind of falling out (either between you and her, or her and him).Depending on your friend’s emotional investment in this guy and her past experiences with trauma, betrayal of this magnitude can be completely and utterly devastating. Your sense of righteous indignation might quite literally break your best friend’s world into pieces. Consider carefully whether you are focused more on punishing him or on telling her the truth out of concern for her well-being. If the former, just keep in mind the potential wreckage the truth may cause. Regardless of your intent, be prepared to be a source of support if needed - for the long haul. Expect a roller coaster of emotions and the possibility that she may decide to work it out with him anyway - which may threaten your significance in her life as the previous harbinger of bad news.I do not believe that the truth is always the best policy, but I do understand that for some, a concealed truth is torturous to ignore. Tread carefully.
What would you say to your friend if she was cheated on by her boyfriend?
If you know about it and she doesn’t you can tell her but she may turn on you. If she already knows try to listen to her disclose the pain she’s in for a time. Remind her of the good things she has to offer as a friend and as a person in general. Let her have some time to think about what has happened and the feelings of grieving her relationship. If I were you I would warn her that this is probably not someone she wants to make up with again. That his cheating was a clear indication that he neither respects or appreciates her. It’s hurtful. No easy way to go through this. Better to get it over with sooner than later.