When someone lies to you?
i guess it all depends on what that lie is. i myself find it hard to trust someone once they put doubt into my head. i have been in relationships that i trusted with everything i had. and most of the time it was ok, they didn't do anything to 'not trust' a few times i trusted and later came to find that i thought i knew them and really didn't. yet another time i was filled with doubt,, i became angry and resentful.. i was jealous, parinoid. i got to the point where i searched through his car. ransacked his room. and all that kind of crazy stuff.. that by the way IS NOT ME... all because of doubt. i am having issues with trust right now in my life. and it is making it hard to function. why someone would put doubt in your mind. or tell a lie, is beyond me. i can handle almost anything.. if you screwed up and told me, we could work it out.. but to lie to me breaks all previous deals. i just can't go back to the way things were once i have been lied to. want to sometimes.. just can't.. you need to weigh out the pro's and con's of this situation... make sure that you can get past it.. because if you harbor any ill feelings or doubt it will always be in the back of your mind. and will resurface everytime you think about it. i hope that i gave some insight into your situation, whatever it is.. but i know me, and once that trust is gone... it's just gone.. hurts like hell to move on.. but needs to be done.
What to do when someone you love steal from you and lie?
This is tragic, and I am so sorry for your loss! OK, the best thing for you to do is protect yourself from your abusive family. Who else is going to do it? You may have thought you were close, but apparently he thinks differently. This is going to call on your strength and love for your self and your family. You are going to need support. I suggest a church where you can make friends who will become your new family. If this means cutting off all ties, do that. It is actually the loving thing to do, since now you are letting them be dogs to you. They are not treating you like family, but like a doormat. It will continue until you stop it. How else will it stop?? Also, you might write them a letter and tell them that you forgive them for their abuse, and hope they get help for their ways. Until then, you will have to include ourself OUT of their circle. Then DO it and don't let guilt or other BS sway you. Tell them you expect to be paid back the money you are owed and will take no excuses. Send them a bill. Tell them they are on your permanent *&^ list until you are treated like a respectable, beloved person. As long as you take it, they will dish it out. it is regrettable that they don't have better morals than that, but they don't. Face reality and move on with your life. What you wish was true and what is true are sadly 2 different things. If you wait for them to apologize and make it right, how long do you think you will have to wait? Be pro-active for your own sanity and dignity and don't let it pass. Good luck, hon, and be strong and show them you have found your backbone. You maybe didn't know BEFORE, but you do now! PS. It makes absolutely no difference whose daddy is who. They are your FAMILY or not. Maybe you should be grateful you don't have the same daddy. You might be just like them.
When do you draw the line, if someone cheats, lies or steals from you repeatedly?
This is a hard question. The named behaviors are all abusive. And, as Richard immediately pointed out, context is everything.In my past, I was done with someone if they perpetrated any of these. They had burned the bridge, I only closed the road that led to it.But in my most recent relationship, things were different. It’s suspected that my ex suffers from BPD. She has a problem with her perception of reality, and struggles to impose her will on her partner (it’s a relationship pattern that she’s displayed, however, she’ll deny it if asked- part of this disorder). So she often lied about stupid shit. If she was caught in a lie, instead of ‘owning it’ she would say that she changed her mind…or she would tell me that I had misunderstood her…or that she misspoke…or sometimes she would try to cover it with more lies, or justify why she had lied or hidden something.Now, I’m very hard to make angry. I’m just a calm person. I don’t enjoy fighting in a relationship. It’s a partnership, not a sparring match. But she also kinda has issues getting her anger under control. So she spent a lot of time yelling, and saying abusive things. Trying to incite an argument. Remember I said she’d try to impose her will? Well this often manifests itself as a power struggle. If she was able to start an argument or discussion, she would win it through brute verbal force if necessary, and thereby achieves a sort of alpha-position. But almost always, I wasn’t having it. I’d just back down, and give her her way. So I was an enabler. But we also have 2 kids.I dealt with all of her bullshit for a few years. Then she became violent. Her tone of voice had scared our kids daily for months, when one day she just lost it. Thankfully, my monsters weren’t in the room. But at that point, it became clear that I had to exit stage left.So, basically the answer is that you have to decide this based on the other conditions involved. But, that said…you’re totally justified if you tell someone to ‘fuck off into the universe’ the very first time they do any of these things.
What do you do when someone steals from you?
There are two approaches to this.The first approach, probably best used if it is something of little value, is to confront them about it. Be civil, don't be aggressive and accusatory, they might have accidentally taken it, or mistaken it for something of theirs. If that's the case talking to the other person about it would be the best option.If it is something more valuable, you should most likely notify a member of the law enforcement. Because stealing is a criminal offense, it will go to the federal court system (county, township, town, district, etc.). If said person is found guilty of stealing, then you have the option of suing them for damage, emotional or physical damage to the stolen item.I know it isn't much, but those are essentially your only two options. There are more technicalities if you try and take them to court over the item. Like if the investigation doesn't turn up any evidence, if the person is found not-guilty: there are a lot of variables that go into criminal law. But, the approach I would take is confronting the person first. Also, if the item is valued at less than $20, you can not sue them, but they can still be tried in criminal court.
What do I do if someone is stealing my money?
I'm in highschool. It was about a month ago this girl from my class (2 yrs older than me) asked me if I wanted to give money to charity. At first it seemed weird that someone in highschool is working for a charity; but because she is a really kind & extremelly friendly person I didn't think she was lying so I gave her £5 & my friend, who wasn't so sure, gave her £2. The next day she told me if I give more I would have a chance of wining an ipad & she asked me how much more I can bring in. Feeling pressured into bringing more I bought another £20. Then she told me I had won the raffel, hence the prize, however she continued to ask for money. I gave £50 & she came to me the next day saying I had to replace the £50 because she lost it. I then replaced it. After a little I gave her the total of £130 & she would always tell me "don't tell anyone because I don't want anyone to get more than you, not even your mum". She would also promise to bring in the prize, but she wouldn't. When I told my friends they became really angry & confronted her. Telling her "jane thinks the charity is not real & she wants her money back". This made her really nervous & she begged me not to go to a teacher & said I can withdrawl from the competition & only get 3/4 of my money back. But what I didn't tell anybody is that I took money from my moms purse & I regret doing it & going to a teacher would mean my mom would find out! PLEASEEE HELLLPP!!!! I am soo lost! I have NO CLUE what to do!!!!!
Should I still be with my friend who lies to me and steals my things?
I will share my story with you. I once had a friend who was very close to me. I would even have risked my life for her until I came to know about her ugly truth.She was very nice when she was with me but once she was away from me she never hesitated to spread false rumors about me. I caught her doing this several times and I even warned her to stop but she persisted. Eventually, I had to let her go despite our closeness. I feel I did the right thing by letting her go from my life.Now that you have read my story I am sure you understand what you have to do.*I can take a horse to the river but I can't make it drink.
What should I do when someone is telling me lie when I already know the truth?
Honestly, at first you can only just wait for the person to finish their lies. Then if that person never really lied to you in the past, it might be something he/she is afraid to share the truth with you. Just let them know politely but firmly that you know the truth. Ask them gently what made them to lie to you, and try to keep an open mind. If that person has never done it to you before, it's possibly that he/she feels scared of sharing the truth with you as it feels that your relationship with them will be damaged. If their reasons were really valid and true for lying, give them another chance and let them know that they should always feel free to come to you without any judgements. Ask them not to do it again, let them know that you really value them and don't want to lose your trust in them based on such tiny stuff.If that person lies often, just break your relationship with them. It's really not worth it. Tell them that you are done with their shit, and are tired of such stuff. Tell them to grow up and not to take you for granted. Tell them if they are really important in your life that until they mend up this habit of theirs, your contact with them is done.
If someone lies to you in order to get in your life and steal or get gifts, is it illegal?
Unless you’re a federal agent, or under oath, it’s quite difficult to get in trouble for simply lying. If you give gifts based on a lie, it is unfortunate, but there isn’t any criminal part of their actions.Theft is always a crime, though. So if they legitimately stole something (and not received it as a gift under false pretenses), it’s a crime. The severity of the crime would depend on the items value.
If someones spreads lies about you and the other people believe it what do you do?
I know this is a long answer but it is the most responsible, real-world answer, so far. Responding violently will only lead to higher intensity violence in return, your best solution is to go about this without it. I don't know if you're in school or what the deal is here, but I saw another question of yours that leads me to believe so. If you are, then this is the way to go, without getting yourself into trouble or making a detrimental, life-changing mistake. Change advice accordingly if you're not in school...1) Tell authoritive figures about this immediately, this includes teachers, principals, guidance councelors, even law enforcement if necessary, etc.., if something results from the situation, nobody can say they didn't know, and part of these people's job is to help you in a potentially violent situation. 2) Tell you parents, they may see to it that this is dealt with in a satisfactory manner, it won't hurt to try, and they should be made aware of it. 3) If possible, remove yourself from these encounters, if this isn't possible, make sure you aren't in a situation where you can't readily get to help. 4) If people are bad-mouthing you, (though in your other ? you said they were actively trying to destroy your life, don't know what you mean by that) just ignore it, stay among your friends and remember that school is just a small portion of your life. It sounds like you are dealing with a very immature group, don't lower yourself to their field of play. Just get through it and move on, you have your whole life ahead of you. The very last resort is violence, only to defend yourself from physical attack. While this is a tough one to navigate, the following should be kept in mind...you shouldn't be afraid to hurt the person, but you should only do enough damage to them that they cannot attack you further. Like I say, I know this doesn't sound like the most glorious way to go about it, and this is if it's headed for a violent direction, but you will save yourself alot of trouble and even possible injury or death. Be smart about it, and good luck to you.
How to tell if someone is lying about stealing?
This would probably be a good way to get it back.. Tell the person that you think stole it "I can't believe it's just gone.. thank god it has a tracking system, I was waiting for it turn up but since it hasn't I'll just go ahead and track it when I get home" If a friend stole something from you they are usually the first people to "help you try and find it" There is a lot of body language that can tell you if a person is lying.. someone who is lying almost always will look to the left when talking to you about the subject they're lying about. They may try to act like they're trying to help you like "well where is the last place you had it" or "do you think "jamie" may have taken it?" They may even say that they were stolen from too that way it takes the attention off of them.. another physical sign of lying is if they're not able to look at you in the eyes, rubbing their ears.. nervous habits come out when a lie is being told. Curious to know what ends up happening once you confront this person, I hope you get your IPod back.. that's really messed up. Oh! Also, try keeping an eye out for your IPod on craigslist & pawn shops.. a lot of people steal things then go sell it.