How do I help my friend who cuts herself? I’m the only person who knows.
I wish i knew. Even ex self-harmers like me don't really know. Just be a friend. Tell her if she goes, you’ll miss her. I saved 1 online friend by telling her that. She wasn't a cutter though. She was just going through a rough time in her life.Tell her you are really worried about her. Tell her it hurts you when she cuts. She should get the message it's not cool and it hurts you when she cuts.Tell her to draw butterflies on where she would cut and give them names of her friends. So when she doesYou could tell her to disinfect her wounds with betadine. It stings. But it will help her remember not to cut and it will prevent infection. My mom loved betadine. She was a vet (animal doctor).How far away from you is she? Ask her to please see a psychologist or doctor and her parents.Out of curiosity ask what time does she cut? Is it always at 3 am? Google search “Chinese Meridians and wake up times.” She may have pent up anger issues.Is there a specific reason she cuts? Ask a psychologist.Sometimes you can help. Sometimes you can't. Sometimes you can only postpone the inevitable and that just prolongs their emotional pain.I saved another friend just by listening to her on the phone. i had known for 7 years in real life and saved her life twice that way. But it was in vain. My friend was going through bipolar disorder depression downward spiral. She never called a 3rd time. That was rough.(。>д<)Poor girl. Forever 27. Rest in Peace, Kaori. You are missed.m(。_。)m
I have a friend who cuts herself commonly. What do I say to her to get her to stop?
You don’t tell her to stop. Never tell her to stop. Because if you tell them to stop, and they have a moment of weakness and cut anyway, your expectations will add to their guilt.This is obviously easier said than done because I know someone who cuts and I have instinctively told them not to and after further reflection, I realized I shouldn’t.Instead talk to them. Find out what makes them cut without showing discust or fear or anything that might cause them to withdraw from the conversation. You don’t want them to feel ashamed.Then do your best to help them avoid the situations that make them want to cut. This could be a person, a place… almost anything.Any addiction or coping habit often has a trigger. When I sit down at my computer, I want to play games and drink a coke. If I want to avoid games or stop drinking coke, I have to avoid being at my computer because it is a trigger.Often avoiding the triggers are enough, so identify what those are. If you can keep them away from it long enough, eventually they may no longer crave it. Keep conversations and activities positive and try to avoid the drama that makes them cut in the first place, atleast until they are no longer cutting. Deal with one issue at a time.
My Best friend only cares about herself.?
We've known each other since 2 grade, and we know EVERYTHING about each other. Well except for the fact that I think that she only cares about herself. When she was cheer captain she wanted to wear slutty costumes, I stood up to her and said that we thought we shouldn't wear those, and she got angry and started making more drama then it was worth. The I like this guy. More like, LOVE him. He doesn't know it, but she does. Then she started DATING him. I tried too be happy for her but I couldn't I liked him too much. Then we started singing together for the talent show. Every body told me I was better than her, but I didn't believe them. Then, the day we TRIED OUT, she said that she sung a little bit better and then covered it up by saying our voices wouldn't match. I don't know what to do! She used to never be like this! I don't want to lose my best friend! Please Help!
My friend just told me she has been cutting herself. What should I do to help?
First of all never tell her that you cant believe that shes doing this or how can she sink too low, that will only upset her. And dont bring it up out of the blue. Always ask her how her day is and if there is anything you can help with. Most importantly always let her know that your here for her and wont judge her, its important that she has someone to talk to about it so she isnt just keeping it locked inside. I really hope this helps, Good luck to you and her!
My best friend cuts herself.. I want to give her help? Advice?
Unfortunately, giving advice is pretty hard. Just hang out with her and do fun things :) Show her that you value her friendship. Tell her she's beautiful and fun and say it again and again. Convince her through repetition. If you start to pry or call her out on cutting, she might close up to you and it's possible that she might deny cutting. Confronting her about it might make her feel worse. When the time for a confrontation comes, you'll know. You'll feel it. You can't change whatever is going on in her life, but you can DEFINITELY help her ignore it.
How do i convince my friend to stop starving and cutting herself?
Okay my 16 year old best friend lives in a different country, and she keeps starving herself. There's nothing i can physically do about it since i cannot see her in person. She thinks she is ugly and fat when really she is sickly thin. She really is so beautiful but no matter what i say to her, she still thjnks she's ugly. I have told her over and over again how dangerous starving yourself is and what it can do to your body. She is also depressed and hates herself. She cuts too. I always try to get her to stop, but she constantly relapses. I don't know what to tell her anymore. I always try to lift her up and tell her how amazingly beautiful she is, and how she's worth it. Because she is!!!. I don't want my best friend to die! I am so scared for her!! Please help me!!!!
Can cutting yourself kill you?
my best friend has cut herself twice. the first one was VERY deep and she did it with sizers. the second one with a knife, not as deep but still VERY bad. i really want to tell her sister about it but she said if i did then she would never talk to me again. also, she says that cutting herself cant kill her and that it doesnt harm her. and i keep telling her that it will if she keeps doing it, which she will. but i need proof. can i kill you? should i tell her sister? how can it kill you, if it can? PLEASE answer. thanks SO much.