What should I do when I'm about to go to prison, maybe for a long time, and my parents are old?
It blows my mind how so many people on Quora just have an opinion they have to share without a damn clue.Listen... I've been to prison. I know what you are about to go through.Here's what I would do:1.) Ask the court to be located near your parents so it doesn't put a hardship on them to visit you. You're going to need them more than they are going to need you. It will be good for both of you that you get to see each other as often as possible.2.) Accept this fact: Your parents and possibly 3 others in your life will be there for you. Forget the rest. Spend as much time with your parents and the top 3 as possible before your surrender.3.) Accept this fact: Your life as you know it now is over. Prison will be the buffer between your current life and the new life you are going to start building.4.) Accept this fact: You will begin building your new life the day after you surrender. The first day you will cry and it's going to hurt.I don't care what you did to get yourself in this situation, we all make mistakes.Draw close to the people that truly love you and more importantly, draw close to GOD.You will get through this. How you get through it is up to you.Key advice once you're incarcerated:1.) Don't go to prison thinking you can still have your outside life—you can't.2.) As fast as possible, establish a routine. It will make your time fly.3.) Stay away from the gambling, drugs, alcohol, gangs, etc. Keep to yourself.4.) Not everyone in prison is guilty of what they were charged for, but believe me, we are all guilty of something. Don't trust anyone.5.) Spend time in the law library and help others with things like their GEDs/Reading/Etc. You will earn amazing loyalties that may protect you when you least expect it.6.) Don't count the days, hours, seconds, microseconds, picoseconds—it will drive you crazy.7.) You will make some friends. Just don't put your faith into them too easily.8.) Write to one person in your life every day. Stay positive.9.) Start building your plan for your new life once you're released. Execute what you can and schedule the rest.10.) Take good care of yourself physically, get plenty of exercise and watch what you eat.I don't have to write "Pray everyday" because believe me, you will do that one on your own.Good luck and if you have more questions, ask me and I'll be delighted to answer.
What does it mean if you dream about your dad getting out of prison?
To me it depends on what it was for. life in prison had to be something big. I also know courts are very unfair and i don't believe they really care about anyone or anything but the money they can make. Hopefully your dad knows you was trying to help him and i'm sure he loves you. As for the dreams.... its possiable your really hoping your dad wins his case and gets out to be in your life again. If its not a really bad crime i hope he wins. Some really good people do wrong things and make mistakes and if thats the case i'm sorry you and him has to go though that. plus u don't have to testify if you don't want to. that's why we have a 5th amendment. Sounds to me they took that right away from u,and that statement that u made should be deleted and not used to help convict him. I hope this helps you some and i hope you get to be with your dad again. As a dad myself i wish you both the best. Good luck.
5 months pregnant and my baby's father is in jail, Does anyone have any advise?
Others say "get a new man" well I too am almost 5 months pregnant, and I am sorry I dont picture myself looking for a bf now or anytime in the next year! lol My ex went to jail 2 times. One when I needed him the most. (*My 14month old daughter drown and the next day he went to jail*) I was in this huge house with happy memories that were shattered in a matter of 24 hours!! ~~she is okay now B.t.w~~ If you care about him, and want to be with him.. Which I am assuming you do, I believe 1st off, he is allowed to get a "ferlow" to see the birth of his child. In case he is in that long. I suggest calling the court house and asking them about it (*dont know what he did, but district court would be your best bet*) Send him little letters, and sign with the babys name also. Make it fun. spray your perfume on it, or put your belly on it. Tell him thats what you did. Make copies of babys ultrasounds, and take a weekly picture to send to him.. He will in a sence feel a little left out, but just keep a journal and once he is home and reads and and is assured that you waited for him, then he will feel like he was there the whole time Kind of different situation, My dad is in and out of prison. And I always would do that kind of stuff for him when I was really little. It felt to him like he had been there the whole time!! :-) Try to write him alot, and visit him as much as you can. That and court is the only thing he has to look forward to, and he wont hold a grudge when he gets out. And you wont need to either Stay strong.. I wish you luck! :-) Congrats on the baby.. (*im due July 5th Btw*)
Would you let a 14 year old girl visit her mom in jail for eight months for check fraud or is that too young?
Face-to-face contact is almost always better because the two can read each other's facial expressions and body language in addition to hearing each other's words and tone of voice. Check fraud is not a crime that inherently poses a risk of harm to children and presumably the daughter is not the victim of the crime of which the mother was convicted. So there is no reason to prohibit personal contact. The goal is to promote the parent-child relationship, despite the mother's relatively short-term incarceration. The penalty for violating the law in this instance is a period of incarceration, not the dissolution of family relationships—and the daughter has not been convicted and shouldn't have to suffer any greater loss of contact with her mother than necessary.I am in no way condoning the crime of which this mother was convicted, or any crime for that matter. But we do hav a system under which the punishment is expected to fit the crime. A seven-month sentence suggests that the crime didn't warrant a stiffer penalty. Moreover, since the crime was not one for which long-term removal from society was deemed appropriate, it makes a lot of sense to keep family and other positive relationships intact so that the mother can successfully reenter society and resume the parenting of her daughter, ideally without committing further crimes. This is in the daughter's best interests.
My dad's going to jail?
My dad is going to jail the first day I go back to school (Sept. 10) He hasn't really told us anything, but I know from encrypted emails he sends to his friends (I know all of his passwords to his emails). Anyway, I've been very depressed lately and I've been crying every night because a lot is going on right now. How do I cope when my dad goes to jail? He's going to jail for a lot of different white-collar crimes I have a very hard time believing he committed! How will he be treated in prison? I have no friends who can comfort me because they think my dad will higher some hotshot lawyer and everything will be done with. My brothers don't seem to care about this and my mom is an alcoholic who makes everything seem 100x worse than it really is. What do I do? At night I listen to these sad songs and I just cry and I get really depressed at night... which no one realizes because I'm supposed to be the "strong" one in my family. A school counselor is out of the option, I went to them because my friend was anorexic and they didn't help whatsoever!