Why is it so hard to be honest?
Honesty has a power very few people can handle.It takes a lot of courage and self discipline to be honest with self and with others. It's not easy. And if you're really honest, people consider you an alien. You're not normal.On the surface, the concept of honesty seems simple enough. All we have to do is tell the truth in every situation, right? Then why is it that otherwise truthful people will justify distorting the truth in certain situations? If being honest makes life simple then why would anyone purposely complicate things by being even slightly dishonest? Because there are challenges a honest person have to face.Side effects that honest people Face.1. You’ve had countless fights with your close friends and your loved ones over your blunt and straightforward reactions. To them it’s insensitivity and rudeness not honesty!2. Whenever your friends are met with a really grave problem, be it a relationship query or to find out if a new hairstyle is making them look stupid, you’re the first and only person they consult!3. You’re terrible at making a good first impression because you say things so directly that it might shock a person you’re meeting for the first time!4. You find it extremely difficult to be around someone who says great things to people in front of them and abuses them behind their back!6. Relationships are a bit tricky for you because at the start your partner wants you to be brutally honest about everything but after some time that’s what they hate the most about you!7. You have a reputation of “yeh kuch bhi bol sakti/sakta hai” around the people you spend time with especially your colleagues.8. You live a very misunderstood existence because only a handful of people sincerely believe that you giving an honest reaction is for their own good.9. Some of the accusations that have been hurled at you are “heartless” “rude” “ill-mannered” “obnoxious” “snobbish” and “who the hell do you think you are?”10. You know that despite whatever problems your honesty brings, you’re staying true to your heart! Because at least you get to sleep with a clear mind and conscience!10 Problems Brutally Honest People Face All The TimeHonestly, you'll not face any problem if you're being honestly nice to someone. It's when you're being brutally honest or say something honestly which others don't like.And that's when we purposely complicate things by being dishonest even if being honest makes life simple. :)
Could you please give me your honest opinion, about this question?
Honestly, the right thing to say was the should've jumped in and helped. But until you're actually in the situation you can't really judge. But I'm going to try. I can see if they feared for their lives. Yes, it's good they called for help. But fearing for their jobs seems a little selfish to me. But then again, who am I to talk? Maybe if I was in their situation my actions might suprise me. How severe was this man's mental illness? Was he coherent enough to be held accountable? If not, I can see how they couldn't hurt him. In a perfect world they should have helped and honestly I don't think fear of losing a job is a good enough excuse when someone is getting very hurt. However fearing for your life might impede your interference and that's just a natural instinct so I guess they can't be given too much blame if fearing for their own lives was the reason they didn't help. They did call for help. However if they were only looking out for their jobs maybe they do deserve blame. I'm sorry I just don't think there's a total right answer here.
Be honest, do you give ugly guys a chance?
If a ugly guy liked u and tried to go out with u would u give him a chance or would u turn him down for not being cute enough? which do u look for at first when u meet a guy, his looks or personality?
Can you give me an honest review of the Nissan Versa?
I am looking for a new car and I really like the looks of the Nissan Versa. I have found several reviews on Kelly Blue book, but they are mostly from "New" Car owners- Everyone loves their car when it is brand new. I need to know what people who have driven their car for a while and have a LOT of miles on it feel. So if you have had your Nissan Versa for 50,000 miles or more- or you know someone who has, please tell me what you think about it. Does it require a lot of service? Are there any problems? I need a car that will last a LONG time- I only drive about 15,000 miles a year. Is a Nissan a good car for that?
Would you please give your honest opinion about solutions to the food shortage in the Philippines?
read on --- Last month, a world survey was conducted by the UN. The only question asked was: "Would you please give your honest opinion about solutions to the food shortage in the rest of the world." The survey was a huge failure... In Africa they didn't know what "food" meant. In Eastern Europe they didn't know what "honest" meant. In Western Europe they didn't know what "shortage" meant. In China they didn't know what "opinion" meant. In the Middle East they didn't know what "solution" meant. In South America they didn't know what "please" meant, and In the USA they didn't know what "the rest of the world" meant.
If someone asks for your honest opinion, should you really give them your honest opinion even if it'll be a bit hurtful?
It depends entirely on your personal definition of kindness.For example, there are countless jokes about how one should respond when one’s wife asks if her dress makes her behind look big.What would be kinder? To lie and let her go out in an unflattering dress? Or to tell the truth, risk her ire, and have her choose something more flattering to her figure?To my mind my relationship with my wife is important enough that the truth is not optional, and I’ll risk her irritation rather than having her feel uncomfortable for a whole event in a dress that she suspects doesn’t look good. I certainly don’t want to ever be in a position where I have to say that I lied to her and humiliated her in front of whole mass of people simply because I was afraid that she wasn’t rational and reasonable enough to handle a negative comment on her dress choice.Perhaps there are some who would disagree, but to me this epitamises the honesty vs socially acceptable lie debate. Lying to people is fundamentally insulting to their integrity and maturity and is deeply unkind. As is “sugar-coating” the truth to the extent that the response becomes easy to ignore or misinterpret.Honesty is kindness.Your teacher was being kind when they handed you that assignment with a big red F on it. They were unkind when they nudged it up to a C to save your feelings, because they promoted the idea that you were doing “ok” and didn’t need help.In so many ways honest is always the best policy.And if someone can’t handle the truth and gets angry with you? Well, that isn’t your failing or a failure of the truth - it is often because they’ve been lied to so consistently that the truth is an alien concept.This of course comes with the caveat that the “truth” is often a slippery concept, and instead what one is often giving is one’s opinion.When delivering an opinion one should be careful to state that it is just one’s opinion, and while it may be based on careful reasoning and evidence there could be other equally well grounded opinions.
If your friends were willing to give you their honest opinion of you, would you want to hear it?
It depends. It largely depends on the way you say it, what's your intention, and how constructive that is. I personally think the way you bring it up matters most.Things that you absolutely must not say include things like, "Your house is really tiny", "Your spouse is ugly", "Your boyfriend is a pathethic loser." When the words you say have no value, but only will make your friend feel awful about their house, spouse, or boyfriend, I would not want to hear them. When you are saying something constructive like, "Honey, I think you should stop seeing this guy. He has done nothing but put you in trouble. I dont want to see you hurt because you deserve so much better" that changes the game, because your intention and effect is not to bring your friend down but to nurture that person. It is constructive because it is helping that person. Do you see the difference?Sometimes putting all things too openly is not wise, because it can show that you are not a compassionate person. When you have the power as a friend to build or drop someone with your honesty, you should do it wisely.
Honestly guys would u date a girl with bad teeth?
Of course there will be guys to date you girly. It's not all about looks and you do have quite a pretty face, nice skin and eyes. =] I have a lovely boyfriend at the moment and I have top braces to fix up some over crowding and I have a missing tooth, waiting for my braces to pull a grown-up tooth down into place and coz I haven't had my braces for long my teeth are still quite crookered. But yet my boyfriend still thinks I am beautiful. I guess beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and even if one part of you isn't gorgeous there are other parts of you that are really pretty, nobody can have it all I guess and no one person is perfection. A guy will think you are gorgeous and maybe like some other things about you that will shine through more than how your teeth are. And if you can't get braces now, you can always get them when you are older and making your own money. I had the same problem of my parents not being able to afford them so I am 19 and just got my braces fitted a couple months back. You are only at the start of your life girly. =]
How do I give an honest opinion to friends when they ask without hurting them with the truth?
Try to find an appropriate time and place to tell the friend.You being a friend would know how your friend would take it.Then tell the truth. Explain the reason and be there for your friend.In friendship, its all about being there when you are needed by your friend