Fat girl scared to meet guy offline...Advice?
Hi, I'm a bigger girl (size 16/18), but semi-cute. I met this guy online while looking for new friends/dating and he is incredibly attractive. Im nervous to meet him because I photograph better than I look in real life (and I DONT photoshop, myspace angle, etc.) I also look bigger in person! I've told him that I am bigger and he says he is fine with it...but I'm so scared of rejection...I am so scared of disappointing him. Should i go ahead and meet him? We're just going for a walk...but Im scared the second he sees me he's going to shut the door. ALso, if I do go see him...how do I get over my insecurities and be fun?
Should i meet up with the guy who raped me?
he's an acquintance and a co-worker.i never thought he'd force himelf on me,i didnt believe anything he said about loving me coz i knew he was lying.i sorta had a crush on him thats why i met up with him and agreed that he could come over to my place. now he behaves as though nothing happened, as if we're in a relationship, he even calls me"my love" and i hate that. i've sms'd him to say i want nothing to do with him and that he should leave me alone, but he still wants to see me. I'm afraid to see him, but im wondering what it could be that he wants to say. He makes me feel small and walks all over me whenever we talk. please tell me what to do, i cant concentrate on work, im losing apetite, its all i eve think about and i cant understand why it happened
I want to meet someone from online.. but i'm scared?!?
I would worry more about being safe when you meet this guy... People can be deceiving online. Just be careful and be yourself. You don't want someone who can't accept you as you are. So what if you're a little heavier than you were in the pics? Some guys aren't all into how big or small a body is. I am skinny and I have been told by lots of people that I need to gain some weight. I've tried and can't. But my husband thinks I am perfect the way I am and that is all that matters!
I'm so scared to talk to this guy because of my acne, what should i do?
For years now I have had acne but in recent years the scars from my acne have gotten really dark. This has affected the way i feel about myself and the way that i feel other people perceive me. I just met this guy and i would like to start getting to know him. The problem is that the night that i met him he didn't see the scars on my face because i had a scarf on. Now i'm scared to meet him again knowing that he'll be able to see my face and might reject me. What should i do?
Meeting guys online?
Do not go anywhere private, make sure you meet with him in a public place. Carry a can of mace, and don't be too afraid to kick him in the groin if things do go bad. Don't listen to your emotions on this guy at first, they will cloud your judgement. Look for anything as your talking to him that might set off alarm bells. If there is any doubt to what his intentions might be then just make sure you do not go anywhere private with him period. I would also suggest that you spend a lot of time emailing him back and forth before meeting him. Get a good feel for who he is, lets face it there are a lot of evil people on the internet and this could be one of them(I wouldn't let that statement alone deter you, as you can walk out the door of your house and run into just the same amount of evil). As far as it goes, yes there have been many successful relationships born from meeting people on the internet. And just as many horror stories. But then it is that way without the net also. I myself met my wife online playing a mmorpg. We've been together for 4 years now and i don't believe we will ever split up. We spent a lot of time talking before we ever met, and it was only on her request that we did meet (I wanted to but wouldn't do it until she was absolutely certain that she wanted to meet up with me). Just realized you said you met him on a sultry site. So in otherwords a sex personals site. I don't know, i think i'd be extremely careful. You say you don't want a commitment, just friends. There is a good chance that he is just looking for a quick booty call or maybe just sex buddies. Better make sure you really are ok with that. You said you feel unattractive doing this, I'm going to guess that your not ugly, most guys on these sites will not bother with ugly chicks, after all they are there to try and nail the girl they could never get on thier own. So i wouldn't feel unattractive about it.
Blind date and i am very scared to call or see him.?
My friend called and stated she had a friend that was very depressed but was retired from the army and loved to spend his money. She wants me to call him and talk to him and set up a date to go out one day. Anyone i have ever met was face to face. And i'm usually the one to start off things with a joke of how they are acting at a bar etc. I have never called someone that i know is depressed and try to lift there spirits. I told her if i call and i would rather we all went out together. But i am still left wondering what to say when i call. I know men are not very talkative. And i just happen to be sitting around the house myself feeling lonely all week, so how can i boost a retired mans spirits?
Scared to fool around and have sex?
I love to make out and have fun with guys.. but I've never done anything else. Nothing in my past would make me scared of men... I don't know why I get so scared when it comes down to it. I'm 20 and I feel like I'm never going to have sex! No, I don't like girls, that's not the problem. However, I am self-concious but this guy I met makes me feel very comfortable.. and he isn't pressuring me to do anything. Has anyone else felt this way? Do I have to just wait around for my thoughts and feelings to change about sex? Thanks so much!!!!
I'm scared I'll never have a boyfriend?
You're 16! Still a baby! Having a boyfriend at your age is not the most important thing in the world. In some ways your lucky that you haven't started dating yet. Think of all the extra stress you would be taking on, all those extra little things to worry about. Why bother? Obviously, if the right guy comes along, by all means date him, but don't put yourself out there just for the sake of it. Honestly, dating at like 13,14 is not nice. I had this 1 "boyfriend" at 13, he was a complete jerk. He treated me like sh*t and took advantage of my age. He was 16, so it shows how much a a sicko he was if e was prepared to date a 13 year old. Anyway long story short, he made me want to die. He ruined what are supposed to be the best years of your life. WHEN, not IF you find a guy who loves you, you will know. Things will just click between you, and you will get that special feeling you have been dreaming about. There's really no mistaking it when it happens. Trust me, it will happen for you. It will. Just have confidence. If you are confident and bright, you will inject these feelings into people around you. They will come back wanting more. You will find love. Your only 16, a baby! I'm only 17, and yeah, I'm still practically a baby! :) Have patience and confidence. :)