What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve ever received and how did it affect your life?
The worst piece of advice I’ve probably ever received was be reactive, not proactive. This basically means that would've had to go through and do everything at the last minute. I wasn’t supposed to think ahead necause it was giving me a terrible headache. Even though I knew it was a terrible idea I did it anyway.Why? Because what I was doing at the moment was incredibly painful. I was thinking about everything way ahead of time. I was trying to figure everything out. I was paying attention to as much detail as my human mind would allow.It was killing me. What killed me even more was not paying attention to those details. As soon as I started being reactive my life took a turn for the worse. I started missing things. I started falling behind.I will never do that again. WHat I realized was that I don’t have to pay attention to every detail. I just have to pay attention to the important ones.What does that mean? Pay attention to those things that will have a direct effect on my life or my business. Leave everything else alone. Have someone else take care on those details that are less important to you/me.Click here for more
What's the worst piece of advice you've ever given someone?
Well are few of the most hilarious(& worst) advices i have ever read..
What’s the worst piece of advice you’ve overheard?
My mother and my grandmother insisted my only chance at life would be win a husband - any husband. Mom said countless times, Just find a rich husband so I don’t have to work anymore. Yes, so she didn’t have to work anymore. For many years I believed this was an actual responsibility.They regarded me as someone who always needed to be on a diet. My looks were constantly criticized and altered to prepare me in snagging the husband that would make me worth something. Domestic skills like cooking and cleaning were my responsibility from a young age and I’d be punished if I did it wrong. What would your husband think if you can’t cook and clean? Oh, right, no one would marry a fat, ugly slob!
What is the best advice you've ever received?
Love some of the inputs by earlier posters ! Sound advice there. Some that I have followed/tried to follow diligently : -- don't try to change others; you can only change yourself [& even that is not so easy] This seems like such a simple sentence, but it has such depth & range; it keeps the cribbing & negative thoughts away & garners acceptance & accomodation. I used to say this a lot, but it was my hubby who really brought it home to me. -- while driving, imagine that Every other driver is out to get you. Believe you me, I've never had the slightest scratch on the car after that ! And it's not paranoia, just awareness. Again, my dear hubby. -- live life in the moment; enjoy the present. Again, this is something I always preached. However, it really 'blossomed' while watching my little niece grow - she has autism & has taught us so many wonderful life lessons. One takes on a whole new perspective on life & life skills when one encounters such a Special person ! -- process is more important than the end result. I've always enjoyed & tried to enjoy the Process in any activity while obviously striving to get better at it. Hence, I also enjoy taking my time with the activity, Altho' no particular individual 'adviced' me on this, one of my BEd professors followed this in her observation, assessment & evaluation of student-teachers & I follwed it in my interpersonal relationships, while teaching/assessing students, etc. -- respect - yourself & from significant others. This is something I 'discovered' myself. As youngsters we are totally enamoured by romantic love, etc. However as I aged & evolved, I found that Respect was much more important. Love is obviously the fantastic icing on the cake of happiness, but respect is the foundation ! [hey, I just made that last sentence - came out kinda nice, eh?!] Good Q :-)
What was the best piece of advice you ever got? The worst?
Best Advice On desion making I recived from my daddyI have always been a confused kid.Whenever I made a decision , the moment I faced or realised its consequences I would back off. And then i would be more confused about what to do. Many times I had to face my daddy's anger because of this.Then one day, I did the same thing again. Daddy was furious at first. But then he called meHe : Madhuri, Every decision you make will have its own consequences .Me: That's why I don't understand which way to go. I don't wanna end up making wrong decision.He: Problem is not the consequences rather it is your fear.Think all you want before making a decision once you have made one then be brave enough to take the consequences.Even if that decision proves to be wrong you will have the satisfaction that it was your decision and you will learn a lot from consequences you have to face. But Never back off.Since that day I did not take all the right decisions but I never back off.
What's the worst advice you could ever give someone?
Don't cryI bet when you were a child, you must of tripped or fallen over, got yelled at, got offended, lost your favourite toy, couldn't participate in elections for being underage, didn't win the jackpot in the lottery..etc.Each time, you probably started to sob and your eyes would become watery, and tears would be rolling down your cheek and you would be crying. Your mother or father, teacher, babysitter, shrek, rowan atkinson…one of them would go up to you and tell you to stop crying. Kiss the boo boo better or brush it off because you are ok.You might be ok and it really may not be such a deal to cry over, but it teaches you to hold in your tears.Crying makes a person feel better. Releases the stress and helps you calm down.Crying is a cure, but people won't let it come to them and they usually push away the tears so they won't come out as weak. Which is bullshit.Crying makes you stronger at times, so let yourself cry.
What was your best advice you've been given?
Sometimes, you just have to close your eyes, count to ten, take a deep breathe, remind yourself that you wouldn't look good in prison stripes, smile at that dumbass and walk away. -unknown
What is the worst piece of advice you ever received about business?
I was a successful information technology company and joined the Government 8(a) program to take advantage of more opportunities in the Federal Government. When I met with the SBA specialist for the first time and gave him a great presentation of our technical capabilities, past customer experience, and overall success, his advice to me was to "consider going after contracts in the cafeteria or janitorial arena because my staff could interact with the government people everyday to build relationships and then we could grow into doing IT work for the government"Needless to say I cordially (I maintained my cool) ended the meeting at that point and never spoke with the guy again unless absolutely necessary (which is when I had to do the useless annual reports to the SBA).(and since that point many years ago we've had a lot of success in the Federal space in nothing but IT contracts)