Why are there so many single mothers lately?
Liz everything you wrote is so true. And you said it better than i could. Its getting out of control lately. The fact we got mothers teaching their daughter they don't need a man is the wrong advice. How about just grow up take responsibility for yourself and don't just trust everybody. If you find yourself in a terrible situation take some responsibility. My dad taught me that. I can't just blame the woman cause my life didnt work out the way i like it. Sad that more women don't take responsibility cause the mean as one use put it "will just be dead beat fathers" no matter what they do? I hear a lot about dead beat mothers but no finger pointing.
Are most single moms users?
I've been getting a lot of interest from single moms lately. However the thing I've noticed is most of them have orchestrated a plan for me to move at some point and help them out with their kids, Bills, etc. If you tell them you're not interested in doing this anytime soon and would like to take things slow they will discard you in no time. They also expect you to help raise their kids and help financially yet if you express the kids behavior is out of hand or you don't like the way they are parenting they will fly off the handle quick and tell you it's not your place. You can't have it both ways. If you expect a man to help raise your kids and pay for things you better allow them to disciple them as well. Are most single moms users? (I'm talking about single or divorced moms not widows) widows are nt included in this.
I'm a single mom with a teenage son? (HELP)?
Your son is walking all over you. YOu are the parent so you aren't the father but you don't deserve his actions towards you. NO he is not allowed to smoke pot in your house. He will probably sell it next and then who will get blamed by police as you are the owner of the residence ??? YOU. You will sit him down alone and tell him you know he doesnt have his dad but you are not his slave nor do you deserve his disrespect. You are his mother and deserve his love and respect not this type of behaviour. If he will live by the rules of your house he is welcome to bring home his girlfriend and act appropriately and practice safe sex unless he is ready to be a father. Your son is growing up he is not your :"baby"...sorry he is lost to you as that. but he is going to be a man and it is now your decision on how he is going to be a man? Doesn't he have any other male peers in his life that he respects? Could you tell them how he is changing? No more pot, If they make it legal so be it but it isn't and it doesnt ; solve lifes problems. You will not walk in on your son having sex with a girl it isn't acceptable. Your guilt for your son losing his father is causing you to hurt him. Your guilt is not the issue this is not about how you feel. YOu have to stand up to your son. He is wanting a father to stand up to him at this point and there is no father so who else can? Secondly you will have a talk with this young girl. YOu cant stop them being together but you will ask her to respect your house and treat you with respect. If she does that she is more than welcome to come to dinner and come over. Welcome her, talk about her likes and what she wants to do with her future., Talk about her tattoos. Aslk her if they hurt. Find out about her, bit by bit and softly softly you will find out about her parents homelife etc. but if you make a decision that he abides by rules or you will help him find somewhere else where he can do what he wishes (notice you are not throwing him out) you are allowing him to choose your house or somewhere else. You have to snap the apron strings to save your son. sorry but how you feel is selfish. you need to step back and look at your son. Consider him thoughtfully and consider why he is doing this
Why are there so many single Mothers?
I live in Georgia and i swear it seems like 9 out of 10 single chicks have kids. What's up with that? I kinda shy away with chicks who have kids. I'm still young, and when i do talk to chicks with kids it's always "I can't go out because i don't have a babysitter" or "I'm going through some drama with my baby daddy". So why do some chicks get mad when guys don't want to deal with all that? I just want a chick who doesn't have kids, because it's alot easier to deal with. Met this 25 year old with 4 kids 2 months ago and the thing she said to me "was that she is looking for someone to provide for her kids, because their Daddies can't". She needs to wake up!
Can I take my single mother with me to study for a master’s? I'm her only child.
While your heart may be in the right place taking your parent to college is most likely not a good idea. As a single mother letting go is hard but it is what we have worked so hard for all of our children's lives. Seeing you go off and accomplish anything and everything is wonderful for us. I have joked with my own daughter about going to school with her, I know it will be hard for both of us to be apart but it's what's best. If you are going away for school out of state, maybe having your mom closer might be an option but only if it's what works for your mom.My best advice is talk to your mom and find out what she is thinking and feeling. Best if luck in life and in everything you do.
Why life isn't easy as a single parent?
My husband died nine years ago when my son was nearly two, and my stepson 13 - and I've been a single parent ever since.In lots of ways, things are a lot harder. Running a household, working and bringing up children alone is a lot of work. I had and still have help from my parents, my sister and my parents-in-law, who help out with childcare during school holidays while I work, if I want to attend a class or if I have the occasional evening out. My boss was and is very supportive, allowing me to work flexibly, and lately from home. I'm lucky to have such support.But they cannot be there all the time. My stepson is all grown up and moved out now, and my ten year old does a share of the household chores. But there's nobody else here to share the endless cycle of bin-emptying, hedge cutting, cooking and cleaning. So when I can't do it all, I sometimes have to let it slide. There's nobody else here to feed and entertain my son when I'm tired or sick, so either I fight through it or he has to entertain himself. There's no one to share worries with or to help me make decisions. There's no one here now to wake me up with tea and eggy bread in the morning.In other ways, things are simpler. If the key to parenting is consistency, it's certainly easier for one parent to be consistent than two. There's no playing off of one parent against the other in my house. There's no arguing. What I say goes!This is obviously not the life I had hoped for, and I miss my husband every day. But I've learned to (mostly) cope and most importantly, to be happy. And I hope that rubs off on my children.
What problems may I face if I marry a Single mom of two?
You said you “like” each other and the girls “seem nice”….. I can only assume you don't know them enough. When my husband and I first started dating, his biggest concern was that he had a daughter. She was almost 3. We only dated for about 2 months before I met her. I was 41 and never married and have no children. He's 12 years younger than me and of course that was my biggest concern.We don't have her full time. When he moved in with me he switched jobs and we only had her on weekends so that's a major difference than 2 girls, already older and full time. My husband and I were together almost 4 years when we decided to get married. My stepdaughter and I established a very strong bond but it's a lot easier to bond with a 3 year old than 2 older children.My husband's ex was dramatic at first even though she had left him for another man months before he and I started dating. She has caused issues off and on but not as much lately. So if their dad(s) are involved in their lives, that might cause you grief.My suggestions to you would be to first build a bond with the girls and make sure you love their mother. Being a step parent has a lot of rewards. It is also a challenge especially if the ex is involved with the children. My husband's ex has tried several times to turn my step daughter against me. Which has been pretty shitty.Establish your role in the household. Will you be involved in their upbringing or just be there? It's important to set boundaries that will work for everyone.If she's on benefits, will she lose them if you get married and how will you manage the necessities? Kids are not cheap. Their at an age now where they're not expensive but once they get into their teen years, that will change. Is their child support?I would say get engaged and set a date at least a year from now. That will relieve some pressure of being married and give you time to build your relationship with you as part of the dynamic. It's a commitment that is easier to dissolve than a marriage. You can also bond with the girls by involving them with the wedding plans. Let them be a part of the transition of you acclimating into their family.Don't jump into marriage. Marriage and parenthood is a life long commitment. Make sure you are all ready for that.