Am I being way too insecure about myself? What am I supposed to do? Please help.?
Hi there, I’m a young female teen and I really need help with my feelings. Truly, I don’t know exactly how to describe my feelings so I’ll just try and do it as close as I can. I feel empty, alone in my own body sometimes. I honestly don’t know who I am. It’s almost like I don’t have an opinion. I make small choices than I end up regretting later. I don’t know truly if I’m ok, meaning what type of person I am to others. I feel like no one loves me. Like my family is “supposed” to love me JUST because I was born into that family. My friends, I feel like they are on a different planet sometimes but I just might not be with the right people... I’ve always felt different, and I really don’t know who I am. My appearance, feel down I know I’m beautiful in some ways but when I look at myself I don’t see it. I dont feel special even though I get told I am, but I don’t even feel like a person. I don’t know myself. What am I supposed to do? Please help.
I'm 16 years old. What am I supposed to do with my life at this age, or what should I have done until now?
I myself am 16 years old. You have a very limited description of yourself and what you mean but from what I gather this is my main piece of advice to you:In my short span of life I have come to realize that no, I do not know everything there is to know. My parents do know what is best for me the majority of the time and there are many things that I need to work on. Taking this into account, at this young age, it is of utmost importance that you focus on improving yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, etc. for the long road ahead. Adulthood is a scary thought, but everything that you've done to lead up to this very moment is preparing you for the rest of your adult life. Take time to learn new things (not through Google), take risks, learn from experiences, and respect and seek advice from your elders. Your mind is a sponge at this point in your life, take advantage of that and learn as much as you can. And lastly some other tidbits from one 16 year old to another:Don't be afraid of social interaction. Learn how to give a firm handshake and create a great first impression. Networking will come in handy for a first job or job opportunities.Focus on your schoolwork and grades. Your grades are worth anywhere from twenty-thousand dollars to upwards of one hundred thousand dollars.If anyone comes between you and your self improvement and self betterment; sever the link between you two.Appreciate your family and friends. Life is precious.High School relationships rarely lead to marriage; don't be disappointed if that hoe Jessica rejects you or if that jock Brad just wants to get in your pants.The most successful people are hard workers.Selflessness can take you a long way. But don't let yourself be walked on. Another similar school of thought from our late president Teddy Roosevelt, "Speak softly and carry a large stick".Find what you love to do and figure out how to make money from it. Don't be afraid to chase your dreams; but don't chase the dreams that lead to nowhere.Enjoy your youth(:
How and when did you figure out what you want for the rest of your life?
To be honest: I have no idea.It’s not like you suddenly get a lightbulb over your head and you immediately know what you want to do for the rest of your life.In fact, most of the lightbulbs that show up are only temporary and can change at any moment.I thought I wanted to be an Astronaut for the rest of my life when I was 6 years old.I thought I wanted to be a Biologist for the rest of my life when I was 13 years old.I thought I wanted to be a Professional Gamer for the rest of my life when I was 16 years old.I thought I wanted to be a Psychologist for the rest of my life when I was 19 years old.And now I am thinking I want to be a Coach for the rest of my life, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that changes as well!What you have to understand is that you will never find the “true, one thing” that will make all that searching go away.Instead you just get closer and closer and, eventually, you will simply be doing what you wanted to do for the rest of your life… however, you only notice that in hindsight.So, to tell you the truth, I just realized that I was already doing what I wanted to do when I read this question! Not because I didn’t do it until now, but only because I didn’t think about it, and you shouldn’t either.To find what you love you simply chase what you love and grow what you love.That’s all!As you keep chasing joy and as you keep gaining experiences in doing the things that make you smile, leave you feeling excited and motivate you to do more you start filtering out the things that don’t.Before you know it, you will look back and realize that you are already doing what you want!And all you need to do is do more of what makes you smile and less of what doesn’t.It’s that simple.Stop being less than you can be and reach your goals. Send me a message saying "Coaching" to work 1 on 1 with me. Lukas Schwekendiek